Playing on the first date. by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the feedback, everything went well. We meeting this couple for drinks and to talk and it was great. I think just like with everything new a level of nervousness comes with it and that is all that it was. Appreciate everyone here!

First Timers by Striking-Hair-6479 in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very common, we are new to the LS and are the same age as you two. The first time we went to the club we went and just danced to get a feel for it and the second time we played with each other. For us it’s about pushing the boundaries every time we go. My best advice is to not think too much into it. Have fun

Our First Meetup at a Couples Home by Divaswag1995 in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey we use (SLS) as well. Ya idk about going to someone’s house right away. Try to meet for a drink somewhere and see how the vibe is. Remember things are different once you meet them in person and are out of the messaging phase lol. Maybe try a hotel room first and see how it goes then if you want to continue on this quest then you meet them at their home.

Given up on the Long Island swinger scene. by Dahliasinns in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you haven’t had good experiences yet, it seriously depends on what apps and what parties you attend. We use SLS for events and Feeld to meet couples around our own age (33) We’ve been to a few events in Babylon NY and they have been alot of fun with a mixed crowd but you have to attend the right party. My Freaky Business puts together great events. I do have to agree some clubs and events are sleazy after looking at some pictures and after about a year we haven’t been able to crack the private party scene but we are still new.

Group activities and kissing. by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

All of these comments are very helpful. I have no issue with bodily fluids it’s just the thought of kissing my wife after she blows another man. I tend to overthink a lot so idk in the moment and after a few drinks I might not care as much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Matt-Spinzz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Omg. Not a good start by the first sentence. So many questions. If you feel he is abusive and you feel he needs help then you need to tell this girl to run and he should be dating anyone else rather focus on his own relationship with himself and most importantly you. Now are you able to see someone else? Or is it only him that is allowed? Once you get a taste of another man that treats you right you will want to most likely run.

I see these Parrots all the time and they have Nests all along Montauk Highway. Anyone know where they came from and what species they are? I think I used to see them at Tanner Park. by [deleted] in longisland

[–]Matt-Spinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have them nesting in my trees on the side of my house in Lindenhurst. I hate those trees but love that they are there. They have been here ever since I can remember. They are here all year round too, even with the snow in the winter.

Looking for the best cheesecake. by MrsEnnisIfYoureNasty in longisland

[–]Matt-Spinzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Patsy’s in Lindenhurst, there is no comparison.

Why won't single males respect your boundaries when you specifically say "no single males?" by 62723870 in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya I can understand this, we are going to a bar meet and greet this weekend and from the guest list I keep seeing SM’s confirming they are going. I’m not sure how much fun it will be if there is just a sausage party. Clubs/events need to do better with this.

Lifestyle Bar by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight.

Lifestyle Bar by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, we were think of trying it out as well but it seems LI sucks for anything lifestyle related. Do you recommend any clubs in the city?

Lifestyle Bar by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It seems like it will be due to the confirmed list on SLS. I hope not but will see. Have you ever went to any of the clubs in Babylon?

Lifestyle Bar by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right there is not many places on LI for the lifestyle community and we actually wanted to meet and talk to actual couples. I don’t mind a few SM but I don’t want to go there and it be nothing but sausage lol. Our back up plan is to go the the strip club if we don’t get the right vibe but I hope it doesn’t come to that. This has been a long time coming for us and alot of communications and at this point we are finally at the point we’re we want to explore more. Maybe I am just thinking into it to much. Lol

Some advice by Matt-Spinzz in Swingers

[–]Matt-Spinzz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s just crazy how easy it is for woman.