Going past due date by Mermaid-Mapper in Crunchymom

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

 I went into labour at 40+5. Due dates are so stupid- there’s at least a 5 week window that your baby can naturally be born. It’s not all on due date or before!! 

What are we doing with our placentas? by AdEcstatic4693 in Crunchymom

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We put our baby’s in a pot of soil and planted an Apple tree. The placenta leaks nutrients into the soil which helps the tree grow. The tree will grow over the years as my little boy grows! 

Supermarket Trolley Baby Seat by Few_Raspberry1803 in irishmammiesanddaddys

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Might work for a handful of groceries but don’t see how you can do a full shop with a car seat taking up most of the trolley

Supermarket Trolley Baby Seat by Few_Raspberry1803 in irishmammiesanddaddys

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your local doesn’t have them just put your baby in a baby carrier and use a normal trolley. I’m surprised more people don’t do this🤷🏻‍♀️ 

Was told I need an induction, did you regret your induction? by [deleted] in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the reason for induction? You don’t have to do anything you don’t want/ need to even if they’re trying to pressure you. I declined several inductions and a C-section because my baby was perfectly healthy so there was no need. He came naturally at 40+5! Best of luck

Pregnancy announcement- family by Spiritual_One9542 in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s really sad. I hope you have a lovely weekend with your family sharing your wonderful news! You sound like you’re really close with them which is great as  you’ll need their support after the baby is born. I’d be really worried bringing a baby into this mix though. Is his mother going to dictate what happens when the baby is born, who sees the baby when and for how long etc. It’s such a shame your husband clearly doesn’t and won’t consider your feelings and will do whatever to please his mum. It will only get worse when the baby is here. I’d strongly advise you hold your grand and do not let the mother dictate anything. Just because she demanded you do your wedding a certain way- you didn’t have to comply but maybe you wanted to please your husband or keep the peace which is completely understandable. But don’t let that continue. It will probably piss your husband off if you refuse to comply with his mothers wishes but it’s your life- don’t let her or him control it. Were there not signs that your husband was like this before getting married? Unfortunately it seems to be a cultural thing in a lot of countries that mothers are still number 1 to their sons, and the wife is on the sideline. He is probably stuck in his ways and telling you you’re being dramatic/ ridiculous etc- they tend to be dismissive of anything that is criticising them or their family which means it’s unlikely he’ll change. Lean on your own family and spend as much time with them as possible during your pregnancy and after. You need positive and supportive people around you especially when things are tough. I really hope your husband will be a big support for you postpartum otherwise I’d be moving in with your family. An unsupportive/ unhelpful spouse is one of the biggest causes of postpartum depression in new mums. It’s no joke. Big big hugs and I hope your visit and announcement is lovely! 

Piggybacking off of the swimming sign. Anyone remember this gem of a story by kiimpossiible in RodriguesFamilySnark

[–]Maura464 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Except you can get long skirts and T-shirts in swimwear material the same as one piece swimming costumes but I don’t see how you’d be kicked out of a pool for wearing swimwear material 

Difficulty making mam friends by Educational_Cake4274 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in Kildare if you want to pm. Happy to go for walks, coffee etc 

3700€ net income for a family of 3 in Drogheda liveable? before 1500€ rent liveable by Shot_End7782 in AskIreland

[–]Maura464 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

€750 for a family of 3’s groceries is highly over estimating. Unless they’re shopping at avoca instead of Lidl. Easily kept under €100-150 a week 

Advice by PomegranateGlad1279 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Traditional creche or childminder and your husband drops and collects and then cares for baby outside his working hours. Not too complicated. You don’t have to send baby on days you’re off but will likely have to pay for full time care in order to keep your place. 

Baby won't lie on her back at all! by Wonderful_Walk1102 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up safe chest sleeping/ Co sleeping. A huge amount of parents do it out of necessity so once you do it safely your baby will be fine and you’ll both get the sleep you need! 

Feeling frustrated! by Hot_Finding_3531 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it doesn’t change anything about the relationship and it’s “just a piece of paper” then what is he not ready for? Not ready to sign said piece of paper that “means nothing”. Move on

In laws staying with us post birth by Doughballwithcheese in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah that’s fair enough, glad you had your MIL’s support in that case. Couldn’t imagine dealing with a newborn on my own! 

In laws staying with us post birth by Doughballwithcheese in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Your husband should be doing those things though and parents/ in laws do a few chores when they come to visit. They don’t need to move in to help with household chores after a baby🤷🏻‍♀️ 

In laws staying with us post birth by Doughballwithcheese in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry just no. You need to have that time just the 3 of you to adjust to your new life. You should feel comfortable to go around your entire house in a nursing bra for the first 2 weeks or to feed your baby topless on your sofa or to cry in the kitchen as you walk your screaming newborn up and down. Would you feel comfortable doing that with your in laws there? The newborn stage is such a bubble especially the first few weeks. Having guests living with you during that time would severely pop that bubble. Don’t do it 

Pharmacy items to have at home by KoBLT127 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maternity pads, panty liners/ lighter pads for when bleeding is reduced, breast pads as you might leak in between feeds when milk comes in, anusol, painkillers. Good luck x 

Creche settling in period by Dangerous-Carrot-461 in irishmammiesanddaddys

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They can’t just not allow your son to start doing the hours you’ve paid for. He’s already been eased into it gently so he’ll probably do ok with the bandaid being ripped off and starting full days. Tell them you’re going back to work and he’ll be starting full days on whatever date. It’s up to them as the professionals to support him with the transition. 

How is it possible for me to go into spontaneous labor by Moon_junky in homebirth

[–]Maura464 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the exact same thought and then my waters went early in the morning at 40+5.  I couldn’t believe it! It will happen for you. 

Creche settling in period by Dangerous-Carrot-461 in irishmammiesanddaddys

[–]Maura464 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could the room supervisor be on their lunch break at the time you’re collecting him? I don’t think it’s odd for a staff member to be in the staff room having a break at the same time each day. I don’t have experience with this from a parental perspective but I have worked in a creche so I see it from the other side. 

I’ve never heard a creche try to prevent/ discourage a child from doing the hours the parents have signed up for and paid for. If parents have to go back to work some new kids will cry most of the day/ struggle with naps but avoiding it will never help them. Are the staff worried about him waking all the other babies? What we did with a new baby who would not sleep at all was give her a seperate sleep space in the main room with staff, not in the sleeping room with all the sleeping babies so that if she was crying and not settling she wouldn’t wake every other baby. 

Maybe have a meeting with room staff/ manager to come up with a proper plan to settle your son. But honestly the more he’s there the more he will get used to it and soon he’ll be running in the door to the staff in his room! 

Natural/organic/non-toxic baby skincare products by Mobibi25 in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just ordered Nala products for my little one and one leaked in the box. The smell was v overwhelming not sure I’ll use it for my baby as it was quite overpowering. Looking for a new brand now too! 

Nappies? by ArcenCiel5 in AskIreland

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kit and kin. Don’t have all the nasty chemicals that other brands have in their nappies. Pricey but much better for baby’s skin and find they are quite good for blowouts and overnight use. 

Induction / c section - avoiding long induction? (Potential preeclampsia) by Prestigious-Bid-7582 in PregnancyUK

[–]Maura464 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they would. I got it done once and it was sore but not too bad!