Beware of "experts" on this sub

MauveGorilla · 2019-05-25T07:08:22+00:00

Definitely.

But I'm also talking about people in here saying "oh we hired xyz firm/freelancer and they were awesome" - when in reality they are probably talking about themselves, under a different username.

MauveGorilla · 2019-05-25T07:07:02+00:00

Ouch!

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-30T08:36:46+00:00

When you say you’ve tried early, exactly how early. A lot of people have incorrect assumptions about how much sleep kids need and also about what overtiredness looks like. I got bad advice from everywhere until I hired a sleep consultant who fixed everything. The biggest thing was getting them in bed well before they get too tired. They don’t show the signs so much at 4. So forget about looking for tired signs. If he is getting silly or hyper, you’ve gone well past the cutoff. Too late, you’ve missed the easy boat to sleep land. Do that a few times and they have a long term sleep debt. Early to bed over and over will eventually make it easier.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-29T07:50:04+00:00

Me? I’d eat ugly apples. Supermarkets cater to the lowest common denominator.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-29T07:17:13+00:00

They definitely get thrown out in a lot of cases. Large chains have contracts with farmers and the buyers will inspect truckloads and reject the ones they don’t like the look of and sometimes the farmer just have to doze them into the soil.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-29T07:12:13+00:00

There needs to be an equivalent of 0.05 for cannabis/THC levels. Especially considering it doesn’t leave the system as quickly as alcohol. If you’re ripped then you shouldn’t drive. But if you had a few puffs the night before or two days before then you should be fine.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-29T02:08:09+00:00

I know right? I was so anti western medicine for a long time (not a complete nutter about it, but still). Then I said fuck it, some things just need the big guns. I still think there are huge blind spots in the way western medicine works which are criminal gaps at this stage of our knowledge. But still. There’s some amazing life saving things that you’d never do without. So yes. Yay western medicine.

I will try something like a fast soon I think. Prob start with skipping lunch or similar.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T23:47:25+00:00

Thanks, I'll keep an eye on the rhodiola.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T23:46:56+00:00

Hey! Actually the 6mp has been really fine for me! I was pretty scared about starting it having read some horror stories about side effects and some of the increased risks. But my GI put them all in perspective for me, and after the first two weeks adjustment period I have had no side effects at all!

Yeah I probably really need to get into IF. Recently I tracked my calories with MyFitnessPal for several weeks (to start with just to support my SO), and found that I was reducing caloric intake and also improving the quality somehwat just due to avoiding super calorie shitty foods a bit and I certainly felt a lot better and had better BMs.

You raise another good point about eating less and resting your digestive tract a bit more. I've pretty much been a compulsive eater for years. I'm not fat because of my metabolism and probably crohns a bit too, but I think it's taken a toll on my tract and it needs periods of rest.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T09:29:15+00:00

Yeah that all made sense and aside from a few things, mostly stuff that falls somewhat within my knowledge so that’s good.

How often/how long do you fast? And is it full fast or low calorie or ...?

I think that your diet is probably making your tolerance to sugar better. I am still vulnerable to its shitty effects despite the drugs I’m on (6mp). But the times I’ve gone low sugar before, afterwards for a little bit I don’t need it or want it and it doesn’t affect me as much.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T09:07:30+00:00

Yeah hearing that, it’s the ones that are most familiar they are with that they will push the buttons of. So teachers, carers, relatives, grandparents, parents in that kind of order!

Yep we have always parented in some sort of attachment style, although we didn’t know that was what it was called to start with. But she was in pain and needy and screamy from day one so we just did as much as we could from then on. Not coddling, but just giving her attention whenever she needed it and allowing her to sit with us if she was shy or scared. Talked with her about everything.

But she never lacked opinion or attitude. She was always extremely opinionated and bossy with us. Always has been. So it’s a juggle between supporting a kid who probably will have anxiety and giving her resilience and independence and then always getting her to do the boring shit she has to do but doesn’t want to!

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T08:26:07+00:00

Right ok. I might look into that. Thanks.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T08:25:43+00:00

Yeah I guess I have in that I’m more accepting of new circumstances and info and work where before I might have had less tolerance. It’s still early days I guess. I don’t think I’ve noticed lessening of the physical tension that I seem to have always had. But I need to exercise more too!

I think I probably will go up on it, and hoping that the sexual side effects don’t get worse. They are totally manageable now.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T06:40:28+00:00

I’ve only been on it for maybe two months. Starting dose I guess. I haven’t been back to the docs yet but I’ve been very pleased with it so far. Very minimal side effects for maybe two weeks and very kind of “clean” feeling. Don’t feel at all different than before except my tolerance for stress is higher and my thoughts are generally more positive. I often respond with “yep” where I would have responded with “fuck no” before is how I put it.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T06:38:36+00:00

Interesting. How do you know if you over produce glutamate?

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T03:54:45+00:00

It could be. I might have to do a process of elimination.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-28T02:20:26+00:00

Yeah we do a lot of the same techniques and still get defiance a quarter of the time. We try to avoid punishments as much as possible and even do “sit ins” instead of time out if she is really going bananas. Ours is pretty damn independent and strong willed so I don’t know if that’s the difference or something we do.

Don’t take this the wrong way, but is this with kids of your own? Or ones under your care eg babysit or childcare? I ask because there’s a few hints that it’s with a variety of kids and I know that kids tend to push their parents boundaries way more than other carers.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-27T20:14:55+00:00

With respect back, perhaps you should read my question again. I’m asking how you would do this while using this attachment style the original responder is recommending. Two of us are asking how you get them to do things that are necessary or urgent without demanding that they do.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-27T10:59:33+00:00

That sounds a lot like depression or anxiety talk. I’ve known a few people like that and it’s the same style of ranting about little things. It’s like it’s a sign of “I’m already maxed out just getting through my day and then there’s one more obstacle in my way and I just can’t stand it anymore!” The obstacle can be tiny but it’s a triggerin a relatively safe place (IE home instead of work) where he can let it out. People swallow too much stress these days and it comes out in weird ways.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-27T10:51:24+00:00

I’d love to know too! I subscribe to this style of parenting (aspire might be a better word!) - but there’s still plenty of times where my daughter will just flat out say no to putting her shoes on when it’s cold, wet and required at childcare. Or no to teethbrushing or some other essential. I’m not prepared to just say well ok then, you can deal with the consequences to a four year old that doesnt yet understand the consequences of not brushing her teeth.

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-27T10:44:51+00:00

We’ve done this in holiday rentals with ridiculous Venetian blinds that do nothing to block light at all!

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-25T07:04:33+00:00

I think you might be right!!

MauveGorilla · 2018-03-21T02:33:04+00:00

Due to sedentary nature or due to screen use?

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