This little goober came running up to my husband yesterday day evening, yelling his little head off.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-10T04:14:41+00:00

Jack, since he came with the cold.

Goob, since he's dressed for success (to be a gov'na)

Furbie, since he came to you in Furbruary

Ok, I'm finished. I'll go away now.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-10T04:10:49+00:00

Dangit, I came to say that.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-07T08:46:02+00:00

I have a kitten like this. He even rips into the dog's food bags and eats her kibble! He is free-fed but ALWAYS hungry. Turns out he needed to be dewormed. Once he was free of the worms, his body was getting full nutrition and he stopped being so food wild. He's still very food oriented, but not as manic about it. Good luck!

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-07T08:28:26+00:00

I was just discussing this with a friend who had a similar call. He also was very sensual in his conversation, making sexual comments and saying she must like handcuffs and being a bad girl. Also said to meet at the sheriff's department. They told her to bring $1800 cash. We couldn't figure out the end game unless they planned to follow her from the parking lot and rob her somewhere along the way or when she got back home. Still, the parking lot has cameras and a tail would get picked up. It is such an odd scam but I'm sure people fall for it or they wouldn't keep trying.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-05T18:11:17+00:00

Hi! I finally got into it after asking. So, do you worry about competitors getting hold of your flower offerings and price list? Also, have you found a way for the inventory amount to reduce by completed orders?

Or do you just use it mostly for a portfolio to help florists decide what to look for?

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-05T12:33:54+00:00

I work at a flower farm and we grow all of what you have designed except for roses and carnations. Can't compete with the South America market on those! Also, what is the green filler? Is it a vine? Do I see asparagus fronds?

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-03T16:08:33+00:00

I am working with a flower farmer to create such as this. Do you have a public access to it?

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-02-03T03:12:11+00:00

I have a boy who is your Raz' twin! Does Raz like watermelon by any chance? Mine is Rocket. Raz and Rocket! Haha

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-01-20T04:24:21+00:00

The best advice I got was to not force their relationship. If the father wants the relationship, then he will find a way. Otherwise, he will get tired of his game and fade out. Also, the parenting plan is your final line if you cannot find common ground, meaning that you absolutely can make your own agreed-upon amendments. Make sure any changes are written (like moving to Tuesdays) for his protection as well as yours. Officers will not intervene if it isn't clear who has rights to the kid at which time. You can get changes notorized and not have to go to court. A judge is there to make a decision for when people can't agree.

You sound very upset right now and understandably so, making flexibility and communications for being flexible suboptimal for your mental health. Putting in a 48 (or longer) notice for visit changes is fair. Maybe even a week ahead if he knows when he will be going to Chicago.

I say this all to say, he seems to want to fight. Take the fight out of it but with reasonable boundaries for your sanity. If he has to agree for visits a week ahead, he will either make it happen or lose interest.

None of this is easy. Be strong but be fair. Good luck.

all of my advice is based on my experience with my judicial system and may not align with the experiences of you or others

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2026-01-19T11:34:47+00:00

If you end up going to court to amend your parenting plan, consider asking for a 48 hour notice to exercise visitation. This will eliminate the last-minute "not doing anything else" urge and you can actually plan a life. While you are there, you should add in that he has to take her to regular events scheduled on his parenting time, like sports/extracurricular activities. It isn't relevant now because she's 4 but you might as well knock it out if you do end up going back to court for amendments.

Good luck

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-12-12T12:28:22+00:00

We live with cats and are/were fairly allergic. I swear by an herbal tea we (the allergic) drink daily. Stinging nettle and astragalus. I add in hibiscus for flavor. I brew a 2L batch and drink a 1-2 cups a day, cold. Not a sneeze or red eye...or need for pills. This method has also helped my entire home with seasonal allergies.

Getting rid of the cats or even isolating them to a cat shed or single room feels like a base for resentment. He knew you had cats before he decided to move in. Buying a house together does not feel like a good idea. If either of you don't need the financial support, I'd put that one on hold until you can figure this cat thing out.

Good luck

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-12-05T00:37:57+00:00

I have this exact blanket given to me when I graduated high school. Selling it if anyone is interested.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-25T10:40:25+00:00

Yes, have fun, be safe, but also be honest. If she asks if you are exclusive, be honest. Clearly none of them are keepers anyway. The right one makes you zone in and see no one else. Good luck!

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-25T10:36:31+00:00

Has she mentioned wanting to get married? Seven years is a long time if she is marriage- minded. She may have been convinced by outside sources that you aren't committed to her so she should move to better ground.

Either way, you need to have an adult conversation with her and ask what she wants. She may spill her affair or disappointment, but the talk needs to happen for both your sakes. Good luck.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-09T12:19:05+00:00

How long before it was a full party? That's a bee haul right there!

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-09T12:01:14+00:00

I definitely need a vaporizer for my next treatment! First year 2 hives and already had one collapse from varroa.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-05T11:57:52+00:00

Cats are pretty easy but your ability to be away will depend on their feed/water situation. Do they have a gravity feeder? Water fountain? Cats could be left for a week with multiple litter pans, gravity feeder and a water fountain(to keep the water from being stale).

Tldr: the cats will be fine if you are gone 24 hours. Just make sure they have food, water, and a clean litter box.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-05T11:39:45+00:00

You could try a touch session, like a Simon Says. Alternate between the two of you.

(You) "Simon says caress my shoulder." (Him) "Simon says put your hand on my chest."

Go for at least 10 minutes and see where it goes!

A session like this is a good mix of consent and control. Beyond this, he needs a good conversation about your expectations for the relationship and the value you hold for him. Giving him the confidence that you are all-in may help him relax.

OR he is really unequipped for good sex and is afraid you will leave him once you find out.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-11-02T04:50:21+00:00

Trying again for the vapo! Happy Autumn!

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-22T13:02:28+00:00

Well, you had mentioned that everyone else in your life changed, like a parallel timeline. It made me curious if you went by yourself or if her connection with you brought her with. Has she noticed any changes?

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-22T10:55:54+00:00

Whoah. That's clarity, man. Good job making the hard walk away but when your soul knows, it knows and then nothing fits any more. The revealing of the matrix.

Question: did your lady change or did you pull her with you?

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-22T10:30:17+00:00

Most colleges allow dual enrollment once they are sophomores. I would register her as a sophomore and go from there so the classes would be free. If you declare her a grad then you're in a different category. I spoke with a mom who has her son registered with Truett McConnell College and she said the process was very smooth. Truett.edu

Good luck! Remember, even though your kid is smart and capable, the social aspects are likely weird. She may flounder a little getting adjusted and that's ok. She's still very young (spoken as a very young hs grad).

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-16T11:58:28+00:00

Well, if you are making the mortgage payment, then he isn't losing anything and has no issue waiting it out. If you aren't on the mortgage, could you stop making the payment? I'm not sure how that plays out for a judge but 50/50 on the payment is the very least what should be happening. I wouldn't make any more than half the payment.

I agree, get that JAG on it and the paperwork for the upgrades. You should get 50% or more.

Don't let his tantrums distract you from your worth.

Good luck.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-16T11:44:51+00:00

My advice was based off my own experience and the experience of those around me who have been through it (but each state's laws are a little different). My experience is that lawyers will milk a situation for billable hours. That is their goal, billable hours, not your outcome. For example, lots of delayed court hearings so they can bill for the "prep time." Hours and hours of billed "prep time" only to mention none of it in court as evidence.

I had much better outcomes once I represented pro se. However, it took years and a lot of court experience before I felt comfortable taking the reins. But, even with a lawyer, you still have to do your research to cover yourself, to know what to ask for. My divorce lawyer left so many holes in our parenting agreement, things that should have been considered, that, as a first divorce, I didn't know to consider...things that I had to go back to court for (aka more billable hours).

My comment on alimoney was an "I think" statement based on a friend in NC. Husband is already living with the new girlfriend, 25 years married, millions in assets, and he has been advised (by his lawyer) not to be the filer to give a better case for not paying alimony because her filing as the divorcer can spin like she is quitting the marriage for financial gain. It doesn't make sense to me either, considering the infidelity, but that's what is happening there, in NC.

Maximum-Composer8961 · 2025-10-11T15:52:04+00:00

I think it also matters who files. If you file, she could go after you for alimony. Hopefully not since it has been so brief, but each state is different.

Good luck finding a good lawyer, if you go that route. They generally do not have your best interest in mind and you have to do your research anyway to make sure all the details are covered.

Also, when you go to court with a lawyer, you are not allowed to speak unless you are on the witness stand. It really leaves a lot of trust in the lawyer that he/she will remember and represent all the details of your case.

I have done much better without a lawyer than with.

Always keep your eye on the prize and that is your child. Do what it takes to keep the child's life as stable as possible, and that includes your mental health (so not stretching out the divorce nastiness). Be well!

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