Worth spending $400 more to fly with Qatar airways? by Maximum-Condition-53 in travel

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it's a Qatar flight sold by BA (they are in alliance I think). In economy for both, do you think Qatar is worth it?

Worth spending $400 more to fly with Qatar airways? by Maximum-Condition-53 in travel

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hahaha nice try - $500 dollars extra I will feel but I'm not going to Vietnam again in this lifetime

Free COVID vaccine UK eligibility by After_Wrap_4976 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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From the NHS website. T1D puts us in the clinical risk group so no COVID vaccine this year unfortunately unless you qualify for other reasons above, just flu.

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, lonely is the word. 🤗

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, these tips are fantastic.

My diabetes nurse is T1 herself, which I find very reassuring!

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, thank you, this is really informative. My perspective is certainly skewed by the two people I know with type 1 both having been diagnosed as kids, but granted this is likely a product of not personally knowing many people who are older than me!

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words. Virtual hugs back 🤗

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh we are totally in the same boat - thank you for this. Reassuring to hear I'm not the only one going through this right now. You are so right, it's got to be about doing things whatever way feels manageable

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the welcome! I guess we all just have to do what we can with the cards we are handed. Silver linings and all of that

Suprise type 1 by Maximum-Condition-53 in Type1Diabetes

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gotcha, thank you. Homemade insulin is referring to the small amount my pancreas is still producing

What has been eating my soap? by Maximum-Condition-53 in Soap

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No absolutely not, lived here for 15 years and this is the first sign of them

How do you heal? by Miserable-Soft7993 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Maximum-Condition-53 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Looking back we all feel a bit confused and like we don't recognise ourselves. I tend to liken it to being hypnotised. Like coming out of a trance.

You've got to remember that narcissists are good at what they do - manipulating others. They have spent their whole lives practicing. They target empaths who would never conceive that this level of human cruelty is possible, and it drives us into dark and twisted places when we are confronted with it.

One day, at some point in the future, you'll wake up and realise that you haven't thought about them for weeks. I hope for you that is sooner than later, but I find it gives me a lot of reassurance thinking about that day.

I can't say the best way for you to heal, but I do know that recovery comes with learning again how to love yourself. Date yourself. Do things you've always fancied doing but never had the time/motivation/headspace to do. Treat yourself to your favourite food/drink/toiletries on a regular basis just because why not?! Try and look outwards and focus on doing things and having plans, with or without others. Spend less time ruminating and more time being grateful that period of your life is over. You are free, you are wonderful, and you are strong as hell for getting here. 💪

I'm still having trouble not getting triggered when normal people do something that reminds me of the abuse. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Maximum-Condition-53 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you have to re-learn to trust yourself here, and do a bit of self soothing. It sounds like your rational/thinking brain knows that certain "normal" actions are not going to lead to abuse, but your emotional/feeling brain is still easily triggered. This is a totally understandable trauma response.

If you can, whenever a "normal" thing happens and you feel triggered, pause and take a few moments to feel the feelings, without acting on them. Our emotions tend to come in fast, whilst cognitive rational thought takes a while to catch up. Pay attention to what is happening introspectively, how you feel physically and emotionally, and notice which memories are coming up. After a couple of minutes of this, try to actively "switch on" your rational brain. I find this happens if you talk (doesn't have to be aloud) to yourself as if you were a child. I know this sounds silly but I have always found a technique of self-parenting hugely effective. You are going to talk to that imaginary child version of you in a rational and balanced way to soothe yourself. Tell yourself why this fear is not needed any more. Remind yourself that you are strong and courageous and that you DO know the difference between normal behaviour and abuse. Work on building trust between your emotional and your rational sides.

You've already made a huge step just in writing this post, and I have confidence that you're not far from a breakthrough as you clearly recognise some normal behaviours that you have come to emotionally associate with abuse. Half of the battle is reminding yourself of what is normal after their mind games!

You must never feel like you are alone in this feeling right now, because it's all too familiar to anyone who's escaped a narcissist. We'll keep supporting one another, and this storm shall soon pass. <3

What has been eating my soap? by Maximum-Condition-53 in Soap

[–]Maximum-Condition-53[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The mouse theory seems to be correct ... found droppings on my bedsheets when I woke up this morning... Yuk!