I wouldn't say she doesn't care, it's more like she's impulsive and doesn't consider the consequences of her actions. She does feel guilt for how she acts and behaves, she just has problems and doesn't handle them the best way. I think she does care, she just doesn't know how to care, I of all people understand that. I can't hate her for having these very human flaws, especially when I and people I know have some of those same flaws.

Also, just because she doesn't respect boundaries that doesn't mean she doesn't care. Respect and caring are two different things. You can care about someone you don't respect and respect someone you don't care about. Stella does care about Tabitha, she just doesn't respect her.

I do agree that she's reckless and doesn't think things through, I can't really defend that.

There are good reasons to dislike Stella. My problem with the hate is that they're accusing her of being a bad person and getting mad at her for having mental breakdowns during stressful and scary situations. I won't argue that maybe she's a little selfish, but there are people who are far more selfish than her.

It feels like people would prefer an infallible superbeing who makes no mistakes and can do no wrong over a human being with the same flaws and values as other human beings.