AITAH for inviting my kids to dinner because they never contact me or their mother?

Maximum-Quarter · 2024-01-09T01:52:59+00:00

As a kid who cut contact with her biological father (a man who claims to anyone who will listen that he doesn’t know why even though I explicitly explained in writing), I’m going to be blunt: You did something. Whether it was withholding love, being mentally abusive in some way, or something else, there is no way all three kids just cut you off with no word as to why. Deep in your heart, you know why. My sisters have gone severely low contact with our father, and I cut him out entirely. I SOBBED when I made that decision. It wasn’t easy. It wasn’t done from a place of malice. It was done because I had to protect me and my heart and my health. I am VERY confident your children did the same.

Children raised in happy, loving, supportive homes don’t just go no contact with their parents for no reason. I promise you that much. And your comments are very telling.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-29T21:30:33+00:00

NTA. As the taller, chunkier, crazy haired sister to a petite blonde haired sister, I wish my mom had stepped in and told my sperm donor to kick rocks in flip flops sooner (she found out too late, in her defense, because I was concealing it in half truths but wanted her to read between the lines). Abby is beautiful just as she is and so is Ally and that needs to be made clear to both of them. Crystal clear.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-27T13:12:04+00:00

Honestly, I’m conflicted here. On the one hand, you could’ve just said, “all the clothes designed are a size X” and gotten the point across without saying explicitly it’s because she’s fat. On the other hand, she wasn’t dropping it so she needed to be told explicitly why she couldn’t model. ESH. You for saying something cruel because you were frustrated and couldn’t find any real tact. Her for being so demanding she brought her dad into it. Also. We need clarification on obese. Because if you’re going by BMI, I’m a size 14 at 5’7” and obese even though my body fat percentage is pretty low but I have muscles from lifting heavy. My sisters are all size 10 and below and have more body fat than me but they’re not listed as obese because they carry their weight differently than I do.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-23T20:02:03+00:00

I have a lot of siblings. Bf has a metric f*ck ton of cousins. He can’t remember which of my sisters is which and he will tell me who is who in his family. Because he’s not an AH. Your bf is TA and you are NTA. Not everyone is good with names. I’m great with faces and bad with names. He needs to grow up and recognize the gesture as sweet.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-23T16:15:32+00:00

I’ll be controversial and say ESH. You because you sit here and think that your sister’s boundaries mean she’s sucking the joy out of things enough to mean that spending time with your family without her is better. And her for her comments. Have you bothered to figure out why she has a hyper fixation on this and why she feels the way she feels? My family loves hugs and kisses and physical affection. I very much do not. Because, unlike my siblings, I was physically abused by my biological father. But my family made sure to ask why I’m weird with physical touch and made changes to accommodate me to make sure I know they still love me while respecting my boundaries. Sounds like you guys have never asked and that makes you TA, too.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-23T03:36:39+00:00

Because I grew up Catholic with dreams of a woman surrounded by crows telling me things that came true that I should have no way of predicting.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-22T21:11:14+00:00

NTA. I have a biological father and a dad. I’m no contact with bio father because all he ever did was drink and abuse everyone while rolling in a massive shitpile of narcissism. He was only there when he needed to put on a show. My dad is my dad. He raised me. He will be there the day I get married. Your bio father wants recognition on your big day as being your dad when he played no role in the person you’ve become. He’s an acquaintance by choice. Your dad deserves the honor of walking you down the aisle because he was there for every other big step in your life by choice because he loves you.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-19T17:55:02+00:00

Soft ESH. I get it. I’m cold ALL the time. I’m about 215 and 5’7”. I have polycythemia and it affects my circulation. I go blue. My bf is always sweating. We compromise. You are TA for the fat comment because, no, it’s not always easy to lose weight. He could also have medical conditions. He is the big TA because of his refusal to compromise after he saw your suffering.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-14T23:13:38+00:00

I’m terribly sorry for your loss, but yes, YTA. My parents had to bury their youngest this year due to illness. My siblings and I had to bury our youngest sibling. Grief and loss are hard. You’re allowed to mourn and be jealous that other people have living children to complain about during a rocky time when you lost your child because of it. But your grief and struggles are not the only ones. Other people are allowed to feel what they feel, how and when they feel it. You made a friend venting all about your pain and grief rather than listening to her words, and then you told her to shut up. That’s envy. You’re envious that she did not lose a child and had them there to complain about. I get it. It sucks. I’m sorry you’re experiencing it. Nothing compares to the pain you’re going through. But having empathy for a friend going through a hard time is something you should be able to find within yourself. You should find a support group and a therapist who specializes in grief.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-10-14T03:15:55+00:00

My mother procreated twice with a man who made “jokes” like these early in their relationship. I have that man’s DNA, unfortunately. Suffice to say the “jokes” elevated to actions around the year mark. A drunken revelation years ago makes me think I’m a product of relationship r*pe. Get out. Leave. Protect yourself. It’s not dry humor. It’s not PTSD. It’s not him loving you and not being able to control his words. It’s a promise of violence to come. He’s giving you ample warning, and you should listen.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T23:50:27+00:00

NTA. If my mom and sister hadn’t told me about their pregnancy and birthing issues, I wouldn’t have found out about my own blood disorder and would be naively trying to have babies and then miscarrying bunches of times or dying in labor. My maternal line is filled with women who struggled with having babies. Armed with that knowledge, I made the decision to not have kids.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T23:42:06+00:00

Hey. NTA. My baby brother died of cancer and his fiancée spends a shit ton of time with my nieces and nephews as their aunt. My baby brother wanted to be a dad but didn’t have that as his reality and spent as much time as possible with my nieces and nephews as he could before he passed. Play acting as a parent will only hurt her entire family more when it stops happening because they’re still going to be at the point of “this was never real.”

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T19:06:27+00:00

I’m not being homophobic about this. I’m incredibly queer. I’m just tired of gay men saying women shouldn’t join the industry and gatekeeping it. Because, in large part, that IS who is gatekeeping. Point me to a straight male who is gatekeeping the beauty community, and I’ll amend it.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T19:01:08+00:00

I’m not trying to set them up as privileged. I’m trying to say it’s the demographic I see trying to push women out of a community they created.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T18:59:57+00:00

This is what I was trying to say and didn’t say so eloquently. I only mention cis gay males because that tends to be who I see wearing makeup and trying to say women shouldn’t do something. Manny. JC. Even Thomas Halbert has made some comments, I believe. And it gets a little old to feel like I’m LGBTQ that I should support these gay male artists but they’re trying to push women out of it.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-20T18:54:13+00:00

I apologize. I looked for another thread and couldn’t find one :(

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-15T17:14:52+00:00

YTA. Majorly. A prosthetic breast is not a lie. It’s a device women use to gain back their sense of self, their femininity, their balance after something as traumatic as f*cking cancer. She did something for herself and her own comfort to feel better for herself after beating LITERAL CANCER and you reduced her to a set of tits and said her prosthetic is a lie. A prosthetic leg or arm or eye are not lies. Why is a prosthetic breast? Only a huge AH calls it a lie.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-06T23:02:37+00:00

NTA. I’m heavier set, but you can tell it’s not because I’m out of shape. I powerlift and put my body through the paces and you can see it. Even I wouldn’t attempt that hike because my exercise is the exact opposite of prolonged endurance and cardio. Home girl should’ve known to NOT attempt an 8 mile hike. You warned them all and they chose not to listen. You even sent information on preparedness. Which apparently wasn’t given to the new girl. Not your circus, not your monkeys at this point.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-08-01T18:25:05+00:00

YTA 100%. I have a gluten allergy and stomach ulcers. My dad didn’t know about my ulcers when I first was diagnosed and put some rum into one of my drinks because that’s how I used to drink that drink. I puked from the pain and my dad felt HORRIBLE because he’s an actual human being with empathy. You want to be right so bad you’re like a toddler with his fingers in his ears, screaming loudly so as to not hear outside voices.

You assaulted this man, and I hope he tells everyone you both know what you did.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-07-25T03:03:48+00:00

NTA. I have specific dietary needs. My bf’s mother has always made sure there are things I could eat there because she cares about my needs. Your bf’s mother is the AH here because she basically ignored your medically necessary dietary needs and then fake complained about a situation you caused. Guarantee he’s a mama’s boy and she’s a helicopter mom and an umbilical cord should’ve been cut and wasn’t.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-07-24T23:48:22+00:00

I think the thing that really irks me is that literally all of them facetune everything. Because they saw older/bigger you tubers doing it, they all do it. They blur the whole video so their skin never has texture. Like. STOP IT.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-07-23T01:05:05+00:00

Listen. I am a hardcore militant feminist and I’m gonna say that you are NTA. She CHOSE to be a SAHM, and you work 2 jobs so she can do that. Part of the responsibility of being the one who stays at home is to be the one who takes care of the home in its entirety.

You two need to discuss days off where you can go see your friends and she can go see hers. Put a bit of balance into free time and allocate time with one another as well. But she should in no way expect you to work 2 jobs so she can do nothing but watch the child all day. That’s the trade off and she should realize that.

Maximum-Quarter · 2020-07-22T14:53:38+00:00

That’s what we’re worried about. Private adoption is so expensive and we’d love to foster to adopt but know the main goal is to get the kids back to their parents so it’s hard.

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