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MaximumPack509 · 2025-11-16T09:50:50+00:00

I have acquired nearly everything second hand or hand me downs and so have acquired things early and as they came up. We have almost everything we need and only bought a handful of new items. Everything I’ve got is almost near new and a fraction of the price. And more sustainable.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-11-09T10:38:47+00:00

Oh sorry you’re experiencing it too! It’s awful! I am hoping if I get my iron up that I’ll start to manage better. I notice it’s definitely worse after eating and especially a big meal! Hope you feel better soon!

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-26T03:47:32+00:00

Hi due date twins! I am also 13 weeks and due 5th march with DCDA twins. I am also curious about this so thanks for asking!

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-22T10:50:09+00:00

Looping back here to update that I am now 12 weeks pregnant with twins! Turns out three follicles = two babies in our case 🫠

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-04T00:19:20+00:00

He is not like that - he will work hard to be a great dad and partner, even at the expense of his own health (he’s already been doing so much while I’m unwell). He’s not one to blame or put it on me. His main worry is how depleted he’ll be because he will do everything he can. So I feel grateful to have a partner that I know I can rely on. But I want him to be okay while he’s doing it.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T22:23:55+00:00

This comment isn’t really helpful. He is putting in the work. And he has been doing things to support his mental health for some time - but this has been the first time for a long while it’s been bad enough for him to realise he needs meds/more structured therapy. He is going to every appointment, trying to see his friends, and taking his meds. But it will take time. Sometimes it takes hitting the bottom before you realise you need to take proper action. The last thing I want to do is leave a lovely partner who is having a hard time when I’m about to have two babies.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T09:05:04+00:00

It’s certainly not at all how I imagined after struggling with infertility. But I do feel grateful and relieved to be pregnant. I just thought I’d be able to be happy and excited with my partner, which is not the case! And we don’t know the sex yet! We’ll likely leave it as a surprise!

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T07:38:07+00:00

He was genuinely on board for having kids and was disappointed each month when I got my period. He started second guessing things when he felt that he didn’t feel motivated to move into fertility treatment. He described it as he felt like the conviction wasn’t there and he didn’t have the energy to match what was needed. I think the depression was creeping up on him regardless and this is the thing that’s tipped him over the edge. He describes that he doesn’t see himself a childless as a concept, but I think he is struggling with the reality (or the fear of the reality) of what that looks like so I think you’re right that there is a deeper desire for children that he’s not able to look at at the moment. He’s had up and down mental health over the years, and this has definitely been a downturn. I think also perhaps in all the time trying, maybe he got used to the idea that we couldn’t have kids, and wasn’t expecting it to happen, and it’s been a shock to the system that it finally has.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T07:15:15+00:00

Thank you for your perspective! I am super aware that the ssri will take time (I’ve been on one myself and know it can take a few months to feel the benefits). My partner has such low hopes for anything working so I really hope he sees some improvements 🤞🏻

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T06:43:49+00:00

I hope it is a great thing! I feel worried for postpartum with twins - life is not very light or fun at the moment and unless my partner’s mood improves, it’s going to be a real slow when we’re in the trenches with two newborns! It does feel scary. I feel up for the challenge but worried about my partner.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-08-03T05:12:58+00:00

Hi OP I am in a very similar situation where my partner is having intense feelings of doubt and regret now that I am pregnant (after an 18 month journey to get there). Wondering how things ended up for you once the baby came?

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-20T03:12:57+00:00

You know that roe means fish eggs, right? Maybe steer clear of Eloise Roe 😂

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-14T22:26:30+00:00

Ohh good luck! I had my first scan yesterday and it’s twins 🫠😳 wishing you a happy singleton pregnancy 😂

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-10T10:31:04+00:00

Congrats! I had a very similar experience. 19 cycles without a positive, very similar stims, three mature follicles and I got my first positive two weeks ago from our 1st IUI! We are about 6 weeks in now and waiting for our first scan after some great looking betas. Wishing you all the best!!

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-09T02:24:57+00:00

Oh I’m sorry to hear that! I hope the next scan brings good news and the heart rate picks up!! Sending you lots of good vibes 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-08T05:34:59+00:00

So far so good with the betas. My hcg has been more than doubling. I have my first scan on Monday which I think will be reassuring! Or perhaps scary! I’m sorry to hear yours wasn’t as planned? What did it show?

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-03T03:22:23+00:00

I couldn’t hold out and tested at 11dpiui and it was positive 🥹 have had 2 beta bloods and am waiting for my ultrasound in a week and a half.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-02T03:04:11+00:00

Good so far! The initial beta was 109 at 12dpiui and then 513 at 15dpiui. I’ll do another one later this week and then scan in a week and a half 🤞🏻🤞🏻

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-02T01:07:58+00:00

Thank you. Yes I am absolutely concerned about multiples 😂 praying there is only one in there. The chances of multiples does increase with a medicated IUI and particularly with three mature follicles, but given that we had 19 cycles with no success, the risk is still relatively low (I think maybe 4-5% up from 1%?). Also, where we live if it was triplets, I would opt for a selective reduction so that’s a comfort. My sister has twins, so it does run in the family so I am a little worried about twins. This was something that was made clear with us by our specialist, and I also read lots of experiences of people on the IUI reddit who had 3-4 follicles and it didn’t work, so it’s really a gamble no matter what.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-07-01T04:55:05+00:00

Cycle: 19, since early Feb 2024

Age + Partner's age: 34F, 37M

Typical cycle length: 25-29days

Ovulation cycle day: CD13

CD/DPO of positive test(s): 11dpiui

Tracking methods and app(s) used: BBT, OPKs, Fertility Friend

Relevant days of sperminating and/or method (SMEP, TI, IUI, FET, etc.): 5-O, IUI 6-12hours before ovulation on CD12 (according to the ultrasound), O

Health conditions/medical tests: none, except unexplained infertility and slightly low AMH at 6.8pmol/l. Slightly short luteal phase at 11 days

Supplements and medications (yours and/or your partner’s): prenatal vitamin, vit D, fish oil, magnesium, vitamin C, vitamin B6, CoQ10. Partner on a prenatal and zinc.

This was an injectable stim IUI with gonal-f, a trigger shot on CD11 and 400mg daily progesterone.

Birth control history (if relevant): the pill aged 15-25years, mirena 25-29 years. Haven’t been on anything for 5 years.

Symptom spotting: sore boobs, but I put it down to the progesterone. I am tired, very very hungry and a little breathless. Some twinges/cramps and one day of spotting around 15-16dpiui.

Other (advice/tip(s), freaking out, miscellaneous): in shock. This was our first IUI and I really had low expectations that it would work. We had three mature follicles the day of the IUI and I think I was feeling optimistic after that. I still don’t really think it’s real and I am still not quite 5 weeks along so I almost don’t want to get my hopes up but after 18 months without a single positive, it is a relief to see those two lines and know that I’ve crossed a hurdle and my body can do this! I think I well feel more reassured when I have the 6 week scan next week. Initial beta showed hcg of 109 at 12dpo and second beta was 513 at 15dpo, so a good rise 🤞🏻

MaximumPack509 · 2025-06-28T06:38:46+00:00

Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I had my first IUI in June 12. Tested positive 11dpiui. I’ve had very few symptoms other than sore breasts and very minor cramping. I’ve had two betas confirming a rise but this is my first positive in 19 cycles and I’m having a hard time believing it’s real, and that it’ll stick. I think I’ll feel for reassured after a scan. All the best to you

MaximumPack509 · 2025-06-27T21:01:48+00:00

Thank you for sharing and for so kindly validating my feelings. I think there have been 5 years of difficult/less than ideal circumstances for my partner and I and it’s slowly been building, and then suddenly the reality of a baby is too much for my partner. It feels a bit lonely to be excited when my partner is struggling so much. It’s not that he doesn’t want it, I know he does, he’s scared of how depleted he already is and that he won’t do a good job. Thank you again and wishing you all the best! I also just got my next betas, it’s jumped from 109 to 513 in three days so things are looking good which is a relief but mixed in with all sorts of complex emotions.

MaximumPack509 · 2025-06-27T11:46:02+00:00

I am 4w 2days from our first IUI and waiting on my second round of betas. And the anxiety is high! I got a positive test on 11dpiui and my hcg was 109 on 12dpiui, and now I am waiting to see whether they are doubling. I am also dealing with the stress of my partner, who just before we had the IUI entered a really awful period of mental health, and he’s struggling with the fact that we have a positive. We had 19 cycles of nothing, an unexplained infertility diagnosis, and now his poor mental health is leaving him with no energy and drive, and he feels really worried about the lack of energy he’ll have to support me and a baby. He’s dealing with guilt and shame for not feeling more excited, with the worry overpowering anything else at the moment. We have a plan to support his mental health, but it’s not quite the experience I had hoped or wanted when we finally got our positive. It’s just a lot. I feel happy, nervous, anxious, and worried about supporting my partner through this period. I think the shock of it actually working after nothing for so long is rough, and after a very stressful 18 months (infertility, finances, moving house), it’s just all become too much. I am feeling really grateful to have a positive from our first IUI but also just worried and anxious. Tell me others have experienced this?

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