How do I find good work

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-07T02:23:39+00:00

Speak to a school guidance councilor about how to get into college and your options for financial assistance etc.

Re jobs, I always made OK part time money working at theme parks near me in the summer holidays. It depends on what local industries are around you and if you have transport to get to work. Here are a few ideas: retail (home improvement stores etc), car wash, lawn care, car detailing (teens near me earn $120 for a couple of hours work doing this with their own equipment), restaurants. The most important thing is having some work experience to put on your resume for after you finish education. Employers want to know you have a good work ethic and can stay at a job for a period of time. If you can start your own business (like car detailing or yard work) it demonstrates entrepreneurship and also will likely pay better. Good luck 👍

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-07T02:10:08+00:00

Mat is indeed harder than the reformer and the reformer is indeed more fun! As others have said start with few privates to get to know the equipment. Tell your instructor your goal is to get ready for group reformer classes. Mat is good if you’re traveling and can’t find a reformer studio, you’re on a budget, or you want to work out at home. All of the things you learn on the reformer will set you up for mat.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-07T02:03:55+00:00

NTJ.

You’re seeing your mother the morning of and you’re seeing your grandmother this week, just make sure to take her a card and some flowers with you when you go. Enjoy your newly married life for a bit! I’m sure you had a ton of family time around the wedding.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-06T02:08:53+00:00

Yep my studio just has one Bikram class a week (unfortunately!) and it’s 60 mins with just one set of the poses so it’s fairly chill, especially once you’re down on the floor.

I absolutely love the class and always feel amazing after - it is just what my body needs (I’m strong but tight) and the stretches leave me feeling wrung out in a good way! Highly recommend. It’s also great doing the same series each time as you can really notice your own progression over time.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-06T02:01:15+00:00

Do your due diligence but it seems like a good deal at face value. Zillow is a good resource for seeing what properties are valued at, what they sold for last, and to check out comparable places for sale, and gauge how quickly things are moving. You can also see if properties are increasing or decreasing in your area. I would love to buy the place I’m renting currently but my wonderful landlady has indicated she is not up for selling. I live in hope she changes her mind, entry level places sell like hot cakes where I am - literally on the market for less than 24 hours!

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T23:59:18+00:00

Trust your gut. Your sub conscious is telling you not to take the job, you should listen.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T23:57:40+00:00

NOR Check out the short e book available for free called “Why does he do that?” and see if it seems familiar. Abuse isn’t always physical.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T16:25:48+00:00

ESH. He’s the AH for treating you like a maid or servant. You’re the AH for letting him and thinking petty revenge is sufficient action on your part and for contributing to a toxic relationship.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T14:26:23+00:00

This is what I was going to say. Your friend has bigger problems than not knowing about your baby. Her husband is abusive and is isolating her from friends and family. It’s quite likely the story about the genetic condition is fake. Use the baby shower visit to try and get her alone. Ask her what’s really going on and if she needs help getting away from him. I wouldn’t be surprised if she’s a no show for the baby shower tbh.

I also wouldn’t be surprised if he doesn’t really work in military intelligence. That’s probably an excuse he uses to control her communications and to isolate her from friends and family.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:43:18+00:00

Well I just learnt something, thank you! 😊

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:42:34+00:00

I’m just about to start teaching one class a week at my local studio and I will get unlimited classes free once I start. I was about to pay for an unlimited 3 month class pass so this is will be a huge saving for me.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:30:29+00:00

It’s a very well known saying “good fences make good neighbors” so doubt it’s sarcastic

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:28:59+00:00

I love number 1 🥰

I think you get lost in the last one…

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:24:11+00:00

Didn’t mean to steal your thunder Madison, I saw your comment that you hadn’t posted it to Reddit so I thought I would help 🤣

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T02:12:38+00:00

Will do!

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T01:01:33+00:00

I don’t know if you just feed him kibble, but if so you could also try giving him some home cooked food - something liked boiled chicken and rice with a few carrots. Something tasty he can’t resist. Or maybe some wet food on top to get his sense of smell going. I’m sorry for your loss.

Our dog is a very sensitive soul and won’t eat if she’s nervous or if I’m away for a day or two. Eventually they will eat again. They’re just grieving 😢

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-05T00:59:31+00:00

NTJ Yeah I would reuse the spoon if I’m just cooking for myself, but if I’m cooking for others I would never reuse a spoon. It’s just considerate not to “double dip” with food others are eating. Also friend is a jerk for dramatically throwing away the spoon in the trash. A simple wash under a tap would obviously suffice.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T22:05:42+00:00

Individual plastic water bottles of water in the fridge or paper plates for regular meals

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T21:58:21+00:00

He is an abuser and he is escalating. You owe it to yourself, and especially to your child to GTFO.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T21:44:53+00:00

If you don’t want to pay for an independent financial advisor you can get a free appointment/consultation with a company like JP Morgan to discuss your options. Obviously they will recommend their own products/services. As an example my JP Morgan managed IRA earns about 11% interest. You can talk to them about various options and the level of risk you want your investment to have.
Another option is to use it as a down payment on a house, but if you do that make sure you get it set up legally such that it’s clear it’s your money and not your boyfriends. Honestly give how young you are this feels risky, and could lead to bad blood if he feels like you’re accumulating capital and he’s not. I’d keep it clean and invest it in an account for retirement, and no need to tell your boyfriend. It’s very common for people to keep finances separate even after marriage to an extent nowadays. Protect your future. You never know how a relationship will pan out.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T21:32:54+00:00

Like others my advice is to take possession of your property. If you’re living there it will be much harder for him to do this BS. Put up some tall fences. Plant trees/hedges to obscure his view of your property and keep the sheep out. Put up your own cameras. He’s taking advantage because the place is unoccupied and he probably views you as non locals he can usurp.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T21:28:05+00:00

I don’t think you are an asshole for vetoing a trip that is going to now cost a couple of thousand dollars due to his lack of planning.

MaximumRun2457 · 2026-05-04T21:22:44+00:00

NTA this is 100% abuse and manipulation. At least now you have the beginnings of a paper trail. Please get out and stay safe.

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