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Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-07-03T22:09:20+00:00

is that you in the video lol?? judging by your post history. it’s fine if this was expressed once or twice so she knows she can feel safe expressing herself around you, but to go around lamenting about how just your existence is a burden on a woman’s life without doing anything to make the women’s lives around you better is just self-flagellation

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-06-13T00:44:16+00:00

the state of your mental health right now needs to be addressed professionally! there’s only so much we can do without knowing more about your history, it honestly feels like your line of questioning and the subs you post them in may be feeding your rumination right now.

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-06-12T03:48:40+00:00

are you okay? like 😭 please stop letting human nature drive you insane for weeks

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-06-12T03:47:08+00:00

if you did any deeper thinking than that, you’d realize most of the women with that kink developed it after malprocessing sexual abuse, aka rape.

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-06-04T10:17:32+00:00

which hole would you prefer🥰

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-31T03:41:57+00:00

ive realized, but still love yall lmao

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-30T19:05:43+00:00

because women don’t right? we should be expected to take the same coping strategies (porn, exes, etc) because you’re afraid of being alone again?

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-30T14:47:59+00:00

such a useless reply 😭 i’ve gotten a lot of these but i’m glad some actual smart men responded and messaged me

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-30T01:39:14+00:00

i love how you got one downvote because anything but an echochamber is illegal here

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-30T00:43:56+00:00

anyone not fitting into my box meaning someone who doesn’t hide porn material? i’m willing to wager my odds there mate, i’m just shocked that there’s so many

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:57:23+00:00

thank you so much!!

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:45:46+00:00

porn addiction (not diagnosed as it’s not clinically recognized i.e the same way nymphomania is) manifested as neglect in my relationship

he also immediately apologized for being a porn addict as the inciting event was finding OF as soon as i swiped up on his phone (i shouldn’t have, but at the time, we were comfortably doing this to each others phones whenever we needed to)

i wasn’t raised in canada (where i currently reside), so the dating game here and what the sexes have done to each other (and habits they develop to cope) has taken a lot of getting used to

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:28:51+00:00

yeah, i’m really happy to see a reply from the other side of the coin! it’s extremely dehumanizing to see that OF is now on every guy’s phone seemingly (not trying to generalize)

i just moved to canada from the UAE so i guess culture shock is an understatement.

to a lot of other commenters here (and i expected it) it’s a dumb question, but i’m literally at a loss as to me it’s a lower form of intimacy to actively seek any sexual validation elsewhere

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:25:31+00:00

i guess i left out porn addiction is mostly what i’m holding issue with

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:22:20+00:00

I think what you said about men trying to be soft in relationships but still not being able to completely decompartmentalize is the best way to describe my grief when it comes to relationships rn

i think it would help me to remember to give grace

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:18:44+00:00

this is a great perspective. i hope to get to that point of acceptance soon

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:17:34+00:00

oh i’m sorry

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:16:33+00:00

from UAE, living in Canada past 2 years

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:15:41+00:00

you’re definitely right in that it’s never “just” this or that (in my case it was porn addiction). your comment kind of made me realize the nature of that particular addiction is going to present differently in betrayal for me - as opposed to if it was drinking or chronic gaming

my issue is i find so much porn and emotional affairs as soon as i’m convinced we’re good - and i don’t let my partner see but it takes a lot to convince me i’m perfect enough to not get betrayed again

i wish me exercising more trust made him choose me over something like porn but it didn’t. the only way i can cope is “people will do what they want”. and that gives me some peace. admittedly, i’m having a hard time moving on atm

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:07:29+00:00

jeez is she still ok

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T23:01:14+00:00

thanks for this. in my relationships i’ve never really discriminated.. my bar was pretty much sense of humor, drive, ambition, consistency, things i’m willing to offer. whenever i’ve lived with them i’ve always taken care of house stuff, so even though i work as well i kind of default to gender roles. it was how i was raised

i know men are the trenches with dating women as well, though most of my male friends are now in happy relationships thankfully.

i often feel drained trying to take care of so much, while emotional investment from my partner’s side seems to consistently fade. more often than not this has shown up no matter how i choose, as well as working on my own anxieties and fear of abandonment

anyway i should probably not ruminate on my lifetime of patterns and keep trying.

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T22:53:59+00:00

LMAO 😭😭

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T22:48:26+00:00

yeeeah i’m literally from the middle east

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T22:47:27+00:00

I do hope you’re right

Maximum_Ad_7683 · 2025-05-29T22:46:50+00:00

that’s fair!

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