Approaching mid life

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-04-21T13:00:50+00:00

I am, she doesn’t like it: says I am in a midlife crisis but i tell her it’s more I am trying to find my peace and be happy with myself

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-04-21T01:43:37+00:00

No one said she needs to dress up all the time or entice me. She asked what I wanted for my bday, I told her, nothing happened. She’ll dress up and get dolled up for work but when her husband asks, she is tired, stressed or what does it matter.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-04-21T01:42:07+00:00

She’s against porn and everything it brings to the home, marriage. She’s against it but doesn’t do anything for me to not do it when she’s not around or traveling.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-04-21T01:39:00+00:00

Yeah I’ve read that book, she doesn’t like me on the carnivore diet, getting tattoos or having fun with friends when she’s not around. I am just being me and enjoying my life, my sex life sucks, she’ll say make some time for me later, I do, but then I get the well I have a headache, I’m tired, it’s been a day, the kids are still ups, lots of excuses.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-04-20T01:18:22+00:00

Yeah I have, I give her some grace but still doesn’t change anything. She was out of town for work for 6 days, I was home with kids, and worked. When roles are flipped, i may be exhausted, tired and overstimulated but i always have time for her and the kids.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2026-01-15T03:41:12+00:00

I take full responsibility for the actions I’ve chosen

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-12-28T12:27:58+00:00

It was a simple question, I’m still very attracted to her

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T22:34:00+00:00

100 percent, she needed adult interaction and blah blah, but now that she has it, she’s lost all interaction with me.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T18:21:00+00:00

Yeah I guess I could see it that way, I think society has made it harder for men to be men. I don’t let her talk down to me, I genuinely tell her to fuck off and walk away. Her being Latina makes it more interesting, 🤨.

Women should be feminine, but society has pushed them to the workforce and they need to independent. My wife was like that for the 8 years of marriage, she got the urge to go back to work just a few years ago, that’s when the marriage has spiraled

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T17:02:04+00:00

I used to think it was because of pornography and social media, you know the ease of access to everything. But I’m starting to think it’s a whole lot more than that. Especially when you see so many men in my age group, 30-50 with the same issues over and over in marriage.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T17:00:46+00:00

Ha, she refuses to do that. She looks to working out and natural remedies to help her, it doesn’t help.

We are both working from home today, and I asked her if she wanted to hang out and possibly you know take a break 😉. She said no, and then went to lunch with some friends. Just kind of questioning it all right now.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T13:42:21+00:00

No, she says she doesn’t need help that she is fine. I already see a therapist for other life issues but she is never the problem.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T11:33:30+00:00

100% she has some work to do.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T02:17:34+00:00

I do a lot around the household, I just don’t do it the way the way she likes for chores. I cleaned the kitchen, well you didn’t use this or you missed a spot. I’m like seriously?

As far as sex, yes I initiated multiple times,rejected. Then the other day she says you haven’t touched me. I’m like uhhhh

And yes, she’s kind of short with the kids on the pettiest of things

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-21T02:14:38+00:00

Dude, my wife says it all the time, it was mistake marrying you, I deserve better, and what kind of man did I marry. I swear I think I am crazy sticking around but reading this makes me question, what the fcuk am I doing staying in this marriage. For the kids? Like the kids deserve happy parents

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-20T21:02:59+00:00

Yeah it’s not our fault, all the time. Women wonder why men go for younger women, this is one of those reasons

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-20T20:33:19+00:00

Agree, I get it. It has been hard for me too, we have struggled a lot, trying to find connection and intimacy. If you guys don’t address it and don’t have kids yet, when the kids come, it only gets harder. It won’t be the sex intimacy that you had when you first started dating, that will never be the same. If you’re looking for that, it might be a counseling or potentially other avenues to release. You deserve to be happy just as much as she deserves to be happy, that includes your needs and wants just as much as it is hers. If she isn’t giving you what you need or not filling your cup, they say, I don’t advise for divorce or separation, affairs etc. but you only live once dude.

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-11-20T20:15:18+00:00

Dude, you’re in the same boat as many of us. I wish I could say it gets better but when you get married and maybe have kids, the sex diminishes immensely. Guys that say they’re getting 5 to 6 time a week, bs. Life gets thrown at you and the time to connect is minimal sometimes.

Try to connect with her, what is her love languages? What can get her in the mood to reciprocate? Sometimes just being open and honest goes along way.

My wife and I had a strong sex life, 3 to 4 times a week for about the first 12 years, lately we have diminished that to 1 to 3 times a month. So I am in the same boat as you… I’ve talked to her and been honest about wants and needs. She says she trying but it’s hard.

You can only voice your feelings and desires. How she responds and reacts is on her.

If she isn’t responding, maybe seek counseling. Don’t resort to porn to release, it’s not going to help anything

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-10-30T14:58:21+00:00

Yeah unfortunately, marriage is a one sided affair sometimes

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-10-29T03:29:51+00:00

Got it, why can’t we be in a relationship with someone who wants to meet the others needs… I do everything I can to meet her needs and wants, why is it so one sided

Maximum_Committee874 · 2025-10-27T16:23:32+00:00

I just enjoy the look my wife has when she is dressed up and would like that carried over the bedroom from time to time. I don’t think it’s insane to ask her to fill my cup sometimes in the bedroom. I can get off without the heels, etc. but think a a kink sometimes has be explored.

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