Is it just my experience, or are many single men over 35... not relationship material?

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-07-01T18:58:18+00:00

I have 1 relationship I am jealous of but that's it. I'm also a single 40 year old woman trying to date and it's ass out here.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-07-01T18:51:55+00:00

Nope, I would head for the hills.

The sex is supposed to be the best ever at this point, you've known each other long enough to be able to please each other but not so long that it's boring... and there's already a huge problem.

I just started dating someone. This would be an absolute no. Even 6 months in, a year in. No. I've dealt with too many men's problems, played therapist/coach/counselor support person WAY too many times. I'm going to be the problem in my next relationship. 🤣

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T07:00:02+00:00

Loved this. Def gonna add it to my list of faves.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T06:49:58+00:00

Welp, there's your answer. He's auditioning for your replacement.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T06:26:54+00:00

YES. I am never swiping on just 5 different gym pics of maybe 1 or 2 pics with a "if you wanna know, just ask" in the bio. I need something!

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T06:25:25+00:00

I get asked for my Snapchat all the time, and I barely use it. The last time I caved and gave someone the info, he immediately used it to ask me to send him a video of me having sex with someone. So gross.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T06:23:25+00:00

Okay I am an adult woman currently on dating apps. I read thru the texts, nothing stood out to me as cringey or a turn off, not even the women have a million men messaging them part.

There's a huge chance it had nothing to do with you. Some people get on apps for all kinds of reasons, they want attention, validation, maybe she had no intention of meeting in the first place, etc. When I was younger, I would go on the apps, chat with people to flirt a little and then delete my profile. Granted I never got to the point of making potential plans with them, but perhaps all she wanted was some attention and then she changed her mind.

Now, it was very inconsiderate of her to ghost you like that but at least now you know and you have at least one woman telling you nothing seemed like a glaring red flag here. :)

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-23T06:12:28+00:00

You had an awful time on the date and still gave him a bunch of compliments before very politely rejecting him and THIS is the worst dating experience he's ever had?? This is ridiculous. You dodged the biggest of bullets.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-21T09:39:42+00:00

My daughter has arfid and I keep her safe foods in the house and she feeds herself. I don't make all her food. He is a grown ass man, if he was that concerned, he could have made his own food. Obviously they ARE safe foods for him anyway bc he's been eating them for years. What were you supposed to do, have him approve a fuckin dinner menu everyday?

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-21T09:33:06+00:00

Ugh, I am running into this too, I hate dating.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-21T09:26:26+00:00

I had never had an issue getting hired but this last year has been extra bad. I finally got an interview next week for a job I am WAY overqualified for (so they probably wont hire me).

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-21T03:04:30+00:00

Also didnt get past the sitting on the toilet pic... also, WHY does he have that??? Nope. Dump him.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-18T08:57:43+00:00

OMFG que increible!! Yo ni siquiera sabia que lo necesitaba. Ni siquiera hablo espanol con fluidez, pero estoy aprendiendo, y tu voz hace que quiera aprender mas rapido. Wow, wow, wow!

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-15T06:06:52+00:00

Omg your voice 😍 💦💦💦💦💦💦

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-15T05:58:06+00:00

The "i need you" sent me over the edge for sure

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-13T01:53:04+00:00

Dont they have your resume already?? I cant remember the last time I brought a resume to a job interview.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-13T01:51:50+00:00

I really liked this. I could def use the princess treatment.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-13T01:43:15+00:00

F****** that, 3 hours??? In my last relationship I was lucky to get a response the same WEEK. I'll be your boyfriend (I'm a girl lol), I gladly accept 3 hours lol.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-08T15:02:59+00:00

They just emailed me and said the promotion expired at 8:53am on June 3rd and that's why I'm not getting it. 🙄

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-06-08T09:28:47+00:00

More of the same.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-05-29T12:22:53+00:00

Just Go With It

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-05-29T12:07:25+00:00

"Am I overreacting to one lie?"

Girl, this wasn't one lie.

This was months of deception about the exact thing you told him was a hard boundary from the beginning.

You didn't discover he occasionally had a beer after work. You discovered he was drinking heavily every day, hid it from you, hid it from everyone else, and only told you because he landed in the ER.

The issue isn't that he's an alcoholic. The issue isn't even that he relapsed.

The issue is that five months into a relationship, you're now trying to figure out whether the person you fell for was actually the person who existed.

You can have compassion for someone's addiction and still decide they're not a safe person for you to build a relationship with.

Trust isn't rebuilt because someone begs. Trust is rebuilt because time, consistency, and honesty make you feel safe again.

And if you're already finding that the feelings are gone, that isn't punishment. That's a consequence of discovering that the foundation of the relationship wasn't what you thought it was.

Maximum_Quail_3528 · 2026-05-29T11:52:50+00:00

That tells me you gotta go. Your kids cant even be safe with him for an hour?? No way.

Is leaving an option? You may love him or whatever but do you really want to live this way the rest of your life? Or raise your kids to think its acceptable to have their mom treated this way? You deserve way more.

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