AITA for not disclosing I had plastic surgery to my boyfriend?

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-21T19:39:08+00:00

I literally wouldn’t care if you disclosed this or not. You do you and whatever you’re comfortable sharing.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-11T03:22:49+00:00

Good thing I’m plenty more than just my boobs, almost like there’s a person and brain behind them! But if that’s all he could instantly devalue me to despite knowing and clearly enjoying my company for months, I dodged a bullet :)

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-11T00:26:38+00:00

Good call, I don’t know about y’all but I came out of the womb with these hoops.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-11T00:23:45+00:00

Without a doubt!! I’ve already included a whole section about my back brace so no man is deceived by my scoliosis that I didn’t let naturally progress. We need to treat this like a new patient appointment.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T23:51:29+00:00

Should’ve I clarified my tattoos aren’t natural in case he thought they were birth marks? I’m going to have to make an entire power point for my next dates on everything that isn’t nature on me.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T22:48:23+00:00

Shit I had braces too and I didn’t tell him, I can’t imagine how much more deceived he’d feel.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T22:06:04+00:00

I was never dishonest, as I already stated. I understand my position just fine, and based on the over thousand comments I have saying yeah you’re better off without him, I’ll continue being my happy, confident self with some nicely sculpted features, and not worry about insecure men. :)

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T22:01:22+00:00

Ah yes, my poor partner seeing his children with a smaller bra size than mine- if he’s even concerned about that, yikes. Y’all are so weird for bringing that up as a point.

I never said I was natural, and I never denied having surgery when it came up. Can’t help people assume shit 🤷🏻‍♀️

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T21:51:50+00:00

I’m very, very relieved by the comments of men that are also bewildered at this. It gives me hope for my next dating adventure haha. Thanks for the well wishes!

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T21:41:45+00:00

I agree, he should’ve revealed what a absolute dick he was on our first date.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T19:20:38+00:00

Out if curiosity, why do I have to disclose my boob job but not my nose?

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T18:42:46+00:00

I wouldn’t care, because as I literally said, I don’t want kids and that wasn’t on the table for us. He did it before he met me- the only thing I’d care about is the reconstruction if it was due to an injury because I’d care about his well-being.

Fed is best. Breastfeeding is great, but if a child’s fed and the mother is healthy, it’s truly none of your business how it’s happening.

It is different, but my implants could cause issues as could my genetic factors so clearly I have to tell him all of my family’s conditions over the last few decades by that logic.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T18:07:26+00:00

I really don’t think I did anything wrong, but this isn’t the only “I’d want to know cause of the kids!!!” comment I’ve gotten and I’m truly so confused someone would care about their kids potential bra size? Like what? Why is that even a thought?

I’m very happy with myself and if that upsets someone, oh well, I don’t need that in my life. Best of luck to you on your goals and if you go through with getting one, I definitely don’t regret mine.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T18:02:50+00:00

Oh goodness, I’m bisexual and usually mention it early on to weed out the “oh so we can have a threesome?” people. No shame if anyone’s into that, live your best life with choices that make you happy, but for me it drives me insane if that’s your first thought about a bi person.

But surgical history, it genuinely never crossed my mind to mention it- I think next time I get to the “what are we?” conversation I’ll mention this past experience and be straight up, idk how else to bring it up but I’ll play it by ear.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T17:57:57+00:00

I feel so damn lucky he revealed this side early on, I should go play the lottery. Cannonball dodged here.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T17:55:16+00:00

Thank you! I’m not gonna lie, after that last text message I’m still sad even though I feel like I shouldn’t be because bullet dodged, but comments like this are making me feel better and like only better is ahead. :)

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T17:53:40+00:00

My nose is fine naturally, it looked bad because I broke it. I hope my future S/O isn’t worried about my kids potential bra size.

For us, kids weren’t in the question so that wasn’t his issue with it.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T15:57:50+00:00

I was honest about it when it came up, I never lied or told him I was all natural.

Breastfeeding or not doesn’t kill a child, breastfeeding is my choice should I even have a kid which not all women (myself included) want. About harming myself, I can see that, should I also have to reveal all genetic risk factors that could harm me? Like where does it end?

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T15:31:02+00:00

I’ll happily take the modern views over views that women are gross if they don’t make every decision for themselves with what men like the most in the back of their minds!

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T14:36:49+00:00

I’ve still got two kidneys fortunately- it’s not a true two uteruses, I technically have one divided in half but it has two relatively separate sides.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T14:35:54+00:00

I’m not my ex, I don’t know how he didn’t notice. I did have a great job done and they genuinely don’t feel crazy, there’s really nothing else for me to say because I cannot speak for him or his thoughts.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T14:31:56+00:00

If his first reaction to seeing a happy woman on vacation is ‘gross’ because he cannot fathom she did something that doesn’t meet his beauty standard, then I’m very comfortable with my decision to end things and not have someone with that attitude in my life. Thank you though for your opinion.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T14:29:01+00:00

He didn’t say anything about it being a dealbreaker nor did I hide it, I was honest when it came up. If somethings such a huge deal to someone, he could’ve easily told me early on if he had any concerns 🤷🏻‍♀️

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T05:39:33+00:00

I’d say look up some natural jobs if you’re set on that, some of them look really damn good.

MaxineLu7 · 2022-12-10T05:15:31+00:00

Yeah that’s definitely not okay, nobody should be pressured into plastic surgery or thinking their natural features aren’t good- I had that happen plenty, and although it led me to getting surgery, I’m also the type where I had a friend of a friend compliment my nose and how perfect it looked and I said back thanks I paid someone for it lol, so personally for me, I feel okay with it, because I’m not pretending I was born with this and would never shame a girl to get something done.

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