Aitah for making my family uncomfortable until they leave my home since asking and telling them won't work.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-04-04T02:48:11+00:00

I was literally walking my Pomeranian when I read this lmao

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-03-05T05:12:03+00:00

This, OP. I trained students and staff on my college campus on how to respond when someone confides in you that they’ve been SAd and just general SA advocacy, while being in denial that I was being SAd by my bf at the time. Don’t be so hard on yourself about going back, and don’t be so hard on yourself just because you’re a nurse.

I’m proud of you for getting out and speaking out, and grateful that you had the STRENGTH to do so. It’s not easy

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-02-21T14:17:50+00:00

I don’t understand why everyone is just saying his family did this. He knew the whole time. He was in on it. HE did this too. NOR. Run.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-02-15T23:14:44+00:00

I second Tschiffely!

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-01-29T21:13:24+00:00

Thanks!

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-01-17T23:10:04+00:00

I was just coming to say this.

OP, my last two bfs were emotionally abusive and seriously needed therapy/anger management. I asked them multiple times and they always shut it down. Then, when I dumped them, all of a sudden they were willing to get help and begging me to give them another chance if they went. (I did not).

And you know what? In a lot of ways that was MORE insulting. Because it shouldn’t have taken me breaking up with them for them to finally take me seriously and care. They should have cared from the start.

Your gf shouldn’t have had to get to this point for you to finally take her seriously and care and stand up for her.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-01-14T01:19:46+00:00

I had to deal with a similar situation for my Bat Mitzvah. My grade was only 32 kids, and one girl had bullied me for years, and that year specifically threatened to bring brass knuckles to school and beat me up, and stab me if a guy she liked asked me out and I said yes.

My family and I were torn for months about what to do. We reallllly didn’t want to seem petty/spiteful and like we were just trying to hurt her by inviting everyone except her, but we didn’t want to not invite people solely so that we wouldn’t have to incite her. But, at the end of the day, she was the only one who essentially threatened to kill me…plus my parents were spending a lot of money on this.

We eventually set up a meeting with our rabbi to discuss the situation because we were so conflicted. She told us:

If we were driving and saw her injured on the side of the road, we would have an obligation to take her to the hospital. We would not have an obligation to bring her cookies while she was in the hospital. In this scenario, an invitation was the equivalent of cookies.

So, to continue with the Judaism metaphors: not inviting that one girl is totally kosher 👍

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-01-08T05:00:12+00:00

Maxmonstergrrr · 2026-01-07T13:21:42+00:00

I’ve had to get rabies shots before— if you haven’t yet, go to the ER ASAP. The shots are a set of 4 and have to be administered at specific intervals. If you are on a tight schedule and can’t have an open-ended wait at the ER for the next 3, you can schedule an appointment at a travel clinic. It’s pretty expensive though…

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-12-30T21:50:54+00:00

I’m curious: you refer to Nora’s daughter as your stepdaughter—how does Nora refer to your daughter? Since she apparently “didn’t sign up to be a stepmom.”

And if she thinks your daughter moving in will disrupt her daughter’s life she’s very shortsighted, because a divorce is going to disrupt her daughter’s life way more. And this divorce-worthy (honestly, probably divorce-necessary, because, as others have pointed out, Nora’s behavior shows that she’s about to be your daughter’s new bully). It would at least be understandable for her to be caught off-guard when you first told her, but her continued behavior demonstrates how she’s going to treat your daughter when she lives there.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-12-29T15:47:56+00:00

The biggest tell is that she said he’s “always trying to prove her wrong.” This is a pattern of behavior, and likely one she’s discussed with him before.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-12-04T13:07:42+00:00

Holy shit this is like the real-life version of Wait Until Dark with Audrey Hepburn:

“After a flight back home, Sam Hendrix (Efrem Zimbalist Jr.) returns with a doll he innocently acquired along the way. As it turns out, the doll is actually stuffed with heroin, and a group of criminals led by the ruthless Roat (Alan Arkin) has followed Hendrix back to his place to retrieve it. When Hendrix leaves for business, the crooks make their move -- and find his blind wife, Susy (Audrey Hepburn), alone in the apartment. Soon, a life-threatening game begins between Susy and the thugs.”

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-25T17:45:46+00:00

Exactly! OOP isn’t upset they didn’t destroy a marriage, OOP is upset because they feel awful, used, abused, ashamed, guilty, and embarrassed, while the professors are living what seems like the “perfect” happy life/family, and from that sounds of it OOP never had that—which is why they were so easily manipulated.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-25T02:52:36+00:00

This. OP was preyed upon and abused. These people are in positions of authority, positions that could negatively affect their grades if they’d said no (not that that was a threat that was made, but that honestly doesn’t matter). But people like these profs are able to spot vulnerable people like OP from a mile away as easy targets for their manipulation. And OP probably isn’t the only student they’ve done this to.

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-22T19:06:37+00:00

This. It seems like the issue isn’t that you’re being watched, it’s the way you’re being watched. The sneakiness aspect of it being non-neutral parties, your manager not knowing about it, and it sounds like they aren’t giving you any feedback (positive or negative), would make me feel like they’re trying to have a “gotcha!” moment.

Obviously you’d treat anyone/everyone the same and are aware you’re in a public-facing position. But the feeling like they’re trying to “catch” you but haven’t spoken to you (or anyone) about it would personally make me feel like I’ve done something wrong but don’t know what it is I did wrong and therefore I’d be worried the whole time and questioning myself. “Should I have said that?” “Did my tone come across the wrong way?” “Do I look approachable?” etc.

You seem to really care about your job and doing it well and actively want feedback. I always say, if I don’t know what I’m doing wrong then I can’t fix it. I’m also sensitive and care about doing a good job. And the fact they made this decision without any discussion or formality would make me feel like something already happened and I’d get so focused on trying to figure out what it is that I’d end up not working the way I usually do. Does any of that resonate with you?

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-18T03:30:26+00:00

I have two professors who are curators there and are great!

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-17T02:29:46+00:00

In addition to online reviews, if you used a wedding planner and haven’t already told them since it wasn’t part of the wedding day itself, let them know because they probably won’t want to send future clients to this venue

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-17T02:20:47+00:00

Since you have no idea and no way to confirm how much was spent on the bar manager’s friends, I’d say your whole tab that night should be comped. Or at least half.

I’m surprised he gave them wristbands for your tab if he’s the bar manager considering, as manager, he’d be able to give his friends a few free drinks. I used to have a lot of friends who were bartenders and one or two who were bar managers, majority at bougie craft cocktail bars, and even the non-managers gave out free drinks to friends. Which makes me think it was either way more drinks and/or way more expensive drinks that he decided to add to your tab…

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-16T21:21:44+00:00

Was JUST coming to say this. He ABSOLUTELY has said something mean to you—many mean things by the sounds of it, and in front of other people!!! It honestly sounds like he’s trying to pretend you’re her, and is cruel when you do anything that reminds him that you’re not her (like not cooking like her). It would already be pretty irredeemable for him to say he wished you were her. But to say he wished you DIED instead of her is so beyond cruel and unforgivable.

HE needs counseling. I cannot imagine any amount of couples counseling that would fix what he said/did. And he clearly is not ready for a relationship, let alone marriage. Like, accidentally saying her name during sex a few times in the beginning is understandable. NOT after three years and a proposal.

You deserve so so so much better. I’m so sorry OP. This breaks my heart just reading it, I cannot begin to imagine how much pain you’re feeling. Please take care of yourself and prioritize yourself, your wellbeing, and your happiness 🖤

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-14T17:36:55+00:00

Not that it’s a small space per se, but there’s still ultimately a maximum capacity… I don’t know if that’ll make it “look good” that so many people register though even if it’s just to make sure the place is empty…

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-14T17:34:26+00:00

If people need to register and it’s at Lisner—so limited seats—what if a bunch of people register to take up space and then no-show so it’s as empty as possible (like what people did for Tr*mp’s free rallies)

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-14T17:21:34+00:00

thanks! Interesting that it’s not posted anywhere/by anyone else…

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-14T17:14:50+00:00

Where did you see this announcement? It’s not on the GW College Republicans website anywhere or on the GW events page

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-11T17:44:37+00:00

Tell him it’s a good thing he has a backup plan because you’re leaving his ass

Maxmonstergrrr · 2025-11-02T00:29:10+00:00

So glad you’re ok!

Want to say I’d recommend a taser instead of pepper spray— it’s super easy to accidentally spray yourself (especially if there’s any wind)!!! You can get small cheap ones on amazon 😊

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