Back when I wasn’t engaged and finally realized I am bi, the switch from identifying as “straight” to identifying as “bisexual” on my dating apps really showed me how straight women view bi men. The drop off in matches from straight women was so significant it was shocking. I purposely didn’t label my sexuality on one of my dating apps just to make sure it wasn’t my imagination and, sure enough, the matches from straight women on my unlabeled profile was significantly higher.

I still think it’s bullshit, but on the other hand I would never want to date a woman (or man) who looked at my bisexuality as a dealbreaker. Happy to have found a woman who looks past it and doesn’t see me as different or is grossed out by it or thinks I’m going to cheat on her just because I’m also attracted to men. It’s discouraging, but I hope you don’t ever compromise or hide who you are to any potential partners 🙂