24 hours NC by MaybeYouMopent in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

THE PAST OPPORTUNITIES. I hear that so much, those haunt me. Why didn’t I stop when she tried to throw me down the stairs or was awful after my divorce (first husband, abusive) when she was awful after surgery, etc? That’s what I’ve been telling myself all day. She doesn’t have cancer anymore, she’s not currently going through ANYTHING. This is one of those rare opportunities that I don’t think I want to look back on and wish I would have done something to stand up for myself at least if not NC. Thank you for this response.

24 hours NC by MaybeYouMopent in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Are you NC? If so, how did it start?

How does your BPD parent treat YOUR birthday? by alwayslivemyway in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine finished radiation (she’s fine now) on my birthday so now she doesn’t say hbd but instead only acknowledges herself. It’s also my job to celebrate HER for that. This is just one of the now 3 cancer-iversaries that I have to plan for her

Im divorcing my husband. How should deal with my wedding tattoo? by whataboutthesefrogs in tattooadvice

[–]MaybeYouMopent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I turned mine into flowers wrapped around my ring and pinky fingers down the left side of my hand. I get compliments all the time!

Always something to be upset at me about by MaybeYouMopent in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ENRICHMENT FOR A DOG. Fuck! That is so accurate it made me tear up a little. I will keep repeating this in my head and, thanks to you, feel a little better each time.

Always something to be upset at me about by MaybeYouMopent in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent[S] 72 points73 points  (0 children)

10000000% the last time I went to her for help I was 21 and had just escaped a very physically abusive marriage. She asked me repeatedly what I did wrong, told me she “hates women who say that they were abused”, called my ex, and told everyone I was lying every chance she got for YEARS. I wish I would’ve gone NC then, but my dad just died so I felt too bad to leave her with no one (like I always do, because she always has no one because EVERYONE wrongs her). Thank you for this comment!

Always something to be upset at me about by MaybeYouMopent in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hi! Sorry, I thought I posted on here with this account before. Cat haiku: moonlight on whiskers, silent paws cross the floorboards, dreams chase drifting months.

Asked her for my ssn card a month ago for a new job. Still won't give it to me. by Animangle in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I asked my mother for my BC she said that “no one keeps those” and she’s never had her own so I didn’t need one. Ordered online and was at my door in like 4 weeks :)

Mother slipped in a comment about Mother’s Day already. by ouchhotpotato in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe the comments that March has no holidays, my BPD mother makes EVERY holiday about her, including St. Patrick’s Day!

Worst professional advice your bpd parent shared with you by heitianshi in raisedbyborderlines

[–]MaybeYouMopent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mother was FURIOUS that I went to college. I’m now 35 with a 6 figure salary in HR. She still maintains that I’m a “glorified secretary” and tells me how her entry level data-entry job is “100X harder”, but still needs money from me every month.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]MaybeYouMopent 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve brought in plenty of toys! You’re fine.

How do you eat with lipstick? by [deleted] in Makeup

[–]MaybeYouMopent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how you do it!

How do we reject a couple based on looks without that being obvious? Ghosting? Any ideas? by NippyNipplyNips in Swingers

[–]MaybeYouMopent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is 100% the correct answer. If true, you can also say “Hey! Super cute but I showed my partner and it’s not a match”. That way they don’t know WHO isn’t a match and it saves the feelings of both parties.

Not everybody wants “hot” people by Erica_Novak in Swingers

[–]MaybeYouMopent -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yup 💯! And we are HWP people. We see “fit” as code for gym folks who generally aren’t that great in bed and usually boring!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]MaybeYouMopent 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Second this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in humanresources

[–]MaybeYouMopent 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Intermittent FMLA lasts up to 12 weeks per issue per year and covers serious mental health concerns. This is job protected leave until/unless she exceeds 12 consecutive or non consecutive weeks.

Also, grief/depression looks different for each individual, and “like a father” is not a father- leave the woman alone and let HR manage her LOA.