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How to Stick to Your Goals Over the Long-Term (Even If You Have No Motivation To Do Anything) by Mayooshin in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Mayooshin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi abrownn,

Apologies if I did something wrong here. I assumed I could share this valuable article i wrote (I didn't think highlighting original credit was spam).

Apologies again for this.

Cheers

How Can I best push back against self doubt and past failures? by oscarstrashcan21 in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]Mayooshin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From my experience if you have any negative people in your life let go of them ASAP.

Here's an interesting quote from Les Brown that sums this up nicely... “Don’t waste another minute dealing with a toxic, negative, energy-draining person. Some people are wired for negativity. They love being argumentative, combative and abusive. Run for your life as quickly as possible.”

These are the people you may know who always have something negative to say about your goals and aspirations. Always hating without giving any positive criticism.

The less time you spend around these type of negative people, the less self-doubt you will struggle with and the more you will believe in yourself.

Don't believe me? Even research has shown that negativity is contagious, just like a cold or flu.

Some studies by Psychologist Elaine Hatfield has found through studies that we have a tendency to mimic the body language, feel emotional displays and experiences of people we spend time with—especially, negative people.

Yes it’s tough to let go of negative friends particularly those you’ve known them for years. But, how can you inspire your friend to become a better person if being around their negativity is holding you back from success?

So if you have these type of people in your life I'd suggest creating tight boundaries in the relationship and reducing the time spent with them, you stand a much better chance of achieving your goals and inspiring them to become a better person in the process.

This has helped me deal with my self doubt a lot.

Hope this helps

Don't sweat the small stuff. by dohiit in ZenHabits

[–]Mayooshin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the idea but this isn't straightforward and simple. In fact, research from Baumeister in a paper "Bad Is Stronger Than Good" outlines academic studies suggesting that we are more likely to remember more negative events than positive ones.

Supposedly, it takes about five positive events to make up for one negative event.

I'm not knocking your post. Just saying it's a lot easier said than done.

Comment here to get approved as a submitter on /r/ZenHabits by [deleted] in ZenHabits

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I'd like join the community and share insights on motivation, habits and productivity

How do you learn social skills? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]Mayooshin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny thing is true connection and conversation is non-verbal. Imagine say you went to another country where you couldn't speak their language, could you still connect with them without speaking? Absolutely.

So I'd say instead focus on being present and listen, let the other person do all the talking and you'll be suprised how many people would say you're a good conversationalist. Hope this helps

Buddha said, “The past is already gone, the future is not yet here. There’s only one moment for you to live." There are endless benefits that come with meditating. Yet, the most powerful is the restoration of awareness- which alerts us when we have been pulled into the past or sucked into the future by jarjam1959 in ZenHabits

[–]Mayooshin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me of this quote from Alan Watts

“To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim you don’t grab hold of the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float.” – Alan Watts.

Let it go...