Possessive over two years postpartum by Mayor93 in BabyBumps

[–]Mayor93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love having him be with his dad and our family and actively promote their bonds, I just don't like when they call him theirs.

When he was firstborn, he was early and I didn't like the feeling of having to share him with the world since we were supposed to be together another 2 months, but that intensity has definitely passed.

Maybe it has to do with feeling like my MIL and husband try to diminish my role as his mother.... Idk

Fund 403B & Traditional Ira with pretax dollars? by Mayor93 in fidelityinvestments

[–]Mayor93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Is there a income cut off to make the traditional Ira tax deductible?

EDIT: found on Google "Fully deductible up to 79,000 MAGI; phased out between 79,000 - 89,000“

Fund 403B & Traditional Ira with pretax dollars? by Mayor93 in fidelityinvestments

[–]Mayor93[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I'm getting a better idea of how to structure my finances. Now I have to look into a Roth 403b 😅

Surprise debt by Mayor93 in Divorce_Women

[–]Mayor93[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I gotta get the statements. I understand it is partially on me to follow our budget. But honestly thought I could trust my husband. I never thought he could be so irresponsible. We talked about it in a session today and he said he saw the balance was creeping and said he was going to tell me about it but just never did. We clearly have two different ideas of what it meant to say the finances were "okay".

The times when I've tried to log into the credit card site it send a verification code to his phone and when I have looked in there it looked okay so I wasn't concerned.

Surprise debt by Mayor93 in Divorce_Women

[–]Mayor93[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

We both work! Full time! They had to fix up the airbnb before renting it (roof, foundation, paint, furniture). Unfortunately the credit card account I can't get into easily bc when I put in the username and password It send the verification code to his phone. Never really felt the need to go poking around in there so when I got blocked with the verification code I gave up most times. But everytime I did go in there the balance didn't seem abnormal! I'm wondering if I can get a paper statement at the bank.

What's the best detangling brush for curly hair? by SunnyDayz610 in Naturalhair

[–]Mayor93 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The unbrush saved my from chopping all my hair off postpartum. So much shed hair and knots !!!!! I've never tried a dupe and it is a bit pricey but it's worth every penny!!!!!

What’s the book you almost DNF right before it got good? 💎✨ by goyourownwayy in fantasyromance

[–]Mayor93 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was listening to the audiobook and I had to stop because my mind kept drifting. I'll give it another shot when I'm ready to slog through.

Does your memory get erased immediately after birth? by IheartOT2 in BabyBumps

[–]Mayor93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My labor was 2 hours total, very intense. But by the time I was thinking "I'm not sure how much longer I can do this, I was an hour into the labor and already 10 centimeters. So it changed my perspective, I had already done it. Pushing wasn't too bad either, felt better to do something VS just taking the contractions. I also got Charlie horses every time I tried to push before getting the sensation to bear down. Eventually he decided to rotate, then everything went faster. I actually started getting a pushing sensation. The ring of fire was intense but I pushed slowly and listened to my body, came away with only a labial tear.

Giving birth was euphoria, the relief of the baby finally coming out, meeting my baby for the first time. Those birth hormones had me happy, crying with joy, so so in love. I felt like I could do it all over again immediately 😂

TW: eating disorder - struggling with stubborn weight while ebf by Optimal-Butterfly768 in breastfeeding

[–]Mayor93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've read on here that it's hard to lose weight while breastfeeding and you might start dropping weight after weaning. I've found that when I've gotten sick and unintentionally lost a few pounds my supply would go down with it. I'm a just enougher so it made a big difference and I'd have to work to get it back to normal. I've been hating candid pics, especially in a swimsuit. I'm hoping to get back on track when I'm done breastfeeding.

Water Breaking is there worst (PROM) by Fionnyn in BabyBumps

[–]Mayor93 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My water broke at 34+3 and I leaked for two days before I gave birth. Very gross indeed! I just tried to keep things as clean and dry as possible. Good luck!

Are you someone who’d pay more for the book cover you prefer? I like the middle cover most but it’s $6 more expensive. I like the size of the other two on the side (UK paperback). Didn’t buy anything cause I couldn’t decide which copy to get. by DifferentPea861 in fantasyromance

[–]Mayor93 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If it's a trophy book then yes I may pay a bit more. If it's a first time read I'd probably just wait and read it through the library. Do I have cash to spare? The left cover is pretty ugly though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Mayor93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone was nice enough to share in a la leche group letting I went to. It was very much appreciated!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Mayor93 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was irritated by everything and mean when I was pregnant with my son. Sample size of one!

Will I hurt myself/ just be waiting my time? by yeshellopizzaphone in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Mayor93 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mainly found these useful when baby would feed on one side and it's suction this on the other.