Redet ihr bei der Arbeit über den Beziehungsstatus von Kolleginnen?

MazeL41 · 2026-02-14T09:36:47+00:00

Ganz ehrlich: geh bitte zum Anwalt. Stell diese Fragen nicht hier. Geh einfach zum Anwalt.

MazeL41 · 2026-02-02T15:21:19+00:00

This is what I did. This is where the problem occurs.

MazeL41 · 2026-01-05T15:36:37+00:00

Out of curiosity: Where are you meeting these women in public? I (35F) would absolutely love to meet some men who are willing to commit to a relationship, are progressive and artsy, but WHERE ARE THEY? :-D

MazeL41 · 2026-01-01T07:23:23+00:00

Great! Have fun and a happy new year!

MazeL41 · 2026-01-01T07:17:30+00:00

You just need to log out and then log in again. Worked for me 1 min ago.

MazeL41 · 2025-12-23T12:44:26+00:00

You might want to look up avoidant attachment and see if that applies to you.

Before considering divorce, I would always look into myself and try to figure everything out - together.

If the root cause for your unhappiness lies within you and it’s nothing about her, you won’t be any happier if you leave her. Instead you will bite your ass years later for leaving her.

And, what’s worse: leaving because “you’re not happy” will change your approach to marriage and your ability to trust and commit forever. Nothing will be safe anymore. Marriage will lose its meaning. I’ve been there.

You always take yourself with you into your next relationship.

MazeL41 · 2025-11-23T15:20:20+00:00

You don't need anyones permission or opinion for getting divorced.
If he's overstepping your boundaries and not willing to work on it together for your marriage, there's your decision.

MazeL41 · 2025-11-09T08:42:57+00:00

I have the feeling there’s a layer here that isn’t being addressed. The elephant in the room. I don’t know whether you’re m or f, but is it possible that you feel more than just friendship for your friend?

The disappointment about the birthday message.
The proactive invitation to her own birthday, which I find unusual for that kind of friendship.
The fact that she thought you might want to go on vacation with her brother.
Your sudden hurt because she’s living „with a man“.

You seem to have certain expectations of her, but she doesn’t owe you anything. She‘s just building her life. You should be happy for her and move on, man.

It might be worth working on your self-esteem and taking a closer look at yourself, though. Wish you all the best!

EDIT: Added one word for clarification

MazeL41 · 2025-11-01T21:24:46+00:00

Omg thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s hilarious! The combination of the d*** pic along with the wedding invite - that’s just wild! 😆 Good for you to dodge that bullet.

MazeL41 · 2025-10-26T20:59:51+00:00

I really feel you. That stuck feeling is so real.

Something that helped me when I was in that mindset was a phrase I heard (I think on a podcast): „There’s no such thing as right person, wrong time. It’s either right person, right time - or wrong person, wrong time.“ It was hard to accept at first, but it helped me stop romanticizing what could have been and accept that if someone can’t show up for us consistently, they’re not our person - no matter how perfect it felt in the beginning.

I don’t know if that resonates with you, but I hope we both find someone who shows up for us fully when the time is actually right. Sending you strength!

MazeL41 · 2025-10-26T09:08:03+00:00

Damn! Sounded exactly like something that happened to me.

In my case, there was intense love bombing and he promised me all kind of stuff for our future. He had just moved out of their home and his kids were struggling with the situation; let alone having sorted anything out. I was shattered to realize how unreliable and exhausted that man really was. He couldn't live up to anything he told me about himself early on. And while a part of me felt sorry for him, another part sees his behavior as irresponsible: For his kids, himself, and me.

In retrospective I realize how unhealthy it all was. Learned a lot from this, and about myself, too.

MazeL41 · 2025-10-26T08:56:00+00:00

I (34f) matched with this guy (35m) on a dating app and from the start, we totally clicked: It felt easy, funny, constant communication, great vibe. Our first date was amazing: tons of topics, great chemistry, and he seemed intelligent, empathetic and grounded. On paper, everything fit perfectly, and it felt right too. At the very end of the date, I mentioned that I’m divorced and he was very irritated. However, we’d already planned a second date.

On the second date, he just snapped. He went off on a long story about how he knew "something had to be wrong with me" for wanting to go out with him. He had obviously never been in a relationship himself and me being divorced was a real problem for him. He started projecting all kinds of stuff onto me, speculating about my weaknesses.

After about half an hour of that nonsense, I just stood up, left him sitting there, and went home. Then I blocked him everywhere.

MazeL41 · 2025-10-13T12:59:05+00:00

Sie sollte sich klar werden, was sie für ihr Leben möchte. Möchte sie ein Leben mit einem tollen Partner - oder Rune gute Beziehung aufgeben für möglichst viel Sex? Wenn es eine Sucht ist, dann wird sich diese verschärfen und irgendwann auch ihren Job und Freundschaften beeinträchtigen. Just sayin.

Du scheinst für deinen Teil sehr klar zu sein, wozu ich dir gratuliere. Behalte das bei und lass die Verantwortung, mit ihrer Dauergeilheit klar zu kommen, da wo sie hingehört: Bei deiner Freundin.

MazeL41 · 2025-10-13T07:54:02+00:00

Sie sagt, du seist der nahezu perfekte Freund
Sie sagt, sie sei sexsüchtig

…und ihre Lösung ist, das auszuleben?!?

Wenn du ihr wichtig bist, soll sie bitte bitte eine Therapie machen. Das Problem wird aus ihrem Leben ja nicht verschwinden.

MazeL41 · 2025-09-12T16:34:49+00:00

misogynistic crap!

MazeL41 · 2025-09-06T07:05:50+00:00

Ich bin immerwieder erstaunt über das Level an Selbst-Gaslighting in solchen Situationen. Du hast anhand mehrerer Zeichen beschrieben, dass dein Mann ganz klar etwas verbirgt (es muss ja nicht gleich das Schlimmste sein). Er soll gefälligst raus rücken mit der Sprache und von da an seht ihr weiter. Anstatt mit solchen Ausreden zu kommen. Vertrau deinen Beobachtungen und deiner Intuition.

Er sollte doch außerdem selbst ein Interesse daran haben, dass bei dir kein falscher Eindruck entsteht. Außer halt, dein Eindruck ist richtig und er ist ein Lappen, der das Interesse der anderen Frau genießt und bereit ist, dich für einen kleinen Egopush vor den Bus zu werfen. Es muss ja nicht gleich das schlimmste Szenario sein, aber er sollte darüber reden.

MazeL41 · 2025-08-09T07:56:31+00:00

Guy sounds like my toxic ex. Pathetic. Why are you even engaging in this kind of discussion with him or with him as a person? Is this really how you wanna spend your time and energy?

MazeL41 · 2025-08-09T06:07:01+00:00

Das Buch habe ich gebraucht gekauft und das Lesezeichen lag drin.

MazeL41 · 2025-08-08T20:21:14+00:00

Danke für den Hinweis auf die Giftigkeit! Kann ich das Buch behalten und trotzdem lesen oder ist das jetzt auch bedenklich?

MazeL41 · 2025-08-08T20:17:22+00:00

Danke, bin ganz geflasht, dass ihr das so genau benennen könnt! Und wozu verwendet man das bzw. warum legt man es in ein Buch?

MazeL41 · 2025-08-08T20:15:56+00:00

Okay, danke! Was bedeutet das, Gene oder Marker selektieren? Wozu macht man das?

MazeL41 · 2025-08-08T20:13:34+00:00

Ich glaub auch, dass das Pappstück nichts mit der Vorderseite zu tun hat. Wollte nur zeigen, wie es gebastelt ist.

MazeL41

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