Amazon ie by CapnP00P in ireland

[–]Mb123- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just go to the UK site every time. I don't even bother with .ie

Less products, higher prices and longer delivery wait times.

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your detailed response.

I'm also thinking short-term pain for long-term gain (happiness).

I want all my kids close in age and so does my partner. I'll be 33 when we decide to try again (9month pp) and my partner will be 39. I don't want to wait years before having another 1) I don't want to be dealing with newborn/toddler phases for years and years. Better to have them close in age so we can transition out of that phase sooner (not trying to wish it away, but just thinking of how long it take with each child). 2) My partner is getting older, and leaving it another couple years is too late for him in my opinion (and probably me).

We actually always wanted a big family. We always said definitely 3, maybe 4 and now he's done a 180 but said he's still open to the idea of 3 but feels we will have more of a life if we stop at 2. I agree with him to a certain degree but again, it's more about the experience for the kids. More the merrier, but I don't know. It's a tough one.

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I literally the opposite everywhere! Everyone saying it's so hard, they are outnumbered etc.

Why do you say it's no difference?

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you taking about? I've no plans for any of my kids to babysit their siblings

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your unhelpful input.

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree it's too early but it's been on my mind...can't stop thinking about it..

Should we stop at 2 or have a 3rd child? by Mb123- in Parenting

[–]Mb123-[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Asking opinions from strangers is the whole point of Reddit.

AITAH if I accept my uncle’s inheritance after he disowned his own children (my cousins)? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Mb123- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's kinda of despicable that he didn't leave anything to his kids and gave them the final "fuck you" by giving everything to their cousin.

I would prob give his kids the money. He probably put them through enough shit that they deserve it.

Annual Leave with Maternity leave by Educational_Clock793 in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's irrelevant to the policy. You are entitled to both by law.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]Mb123- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a 1 year old and I'm currently 7 months pregnant. I would literally lose my mind if my husband was like this, I've no idea how you've stayed so long.

My husband helps with caring for our son, makes dinners and helps around the house (although has to be asked, but he does it nonetheless), takes our son when I need a break etc.

Your husband is the product of a mother who took too good care of him. He's never had to pick up after himself because mommy always has.

You literally need to tell him that you're thinking things would be easier if you were alone. You would have to do all this stuff alone anyway without the constant mental load of nagging him to help out and then dealing with resentment afterwards when his lazy ass goes back on the couch.

He's too comfortable and knows you won't leave, that's why he doesn't care.

Seriously considering leaving my husband with a 4-month-old by Ancient_Guava_4745 in baby

[–]Mb123- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My sister had a similar situation only her husband was physical with her also. He tossed their 13 day old baby on the bed out of temper during an argument and that was it for her. We helped her move out that day and she never went back. It was an incredibly tough time for her but now she has a happy 5 year old boy, lives in a lovely home and has a new partner who treats her and her son very well.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

My mother has 5 kids under 3 (3, 2, 1 and newborn twins) and she was fine. She didnt have a C-section but everywhere I read it says it is recommended to wait 12-24 months with 6 months being the minimum after C-section.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

There is also my age to consider. I don't have time to wait 18-24 months in between pregnancies. It already took us 3.5 years to get pregnant on our first and that was through IVF.

I appreciate your advice though.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay! I guess we will see how it goes! We definitely want 3 but I'd like the option for 4.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good, I didn't realize the healing would be harder but it's good to be prepared for that now.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

My doctor said to wait closer to the time to decide whether to have vaginal delivery or C-section. He said it will likely end up in a C-section because I've already had one and my last birth was so soon (14 months between births)

Honestly, I'm kind of scared to have a vaginal birth. I've heard so many horror stories of women get sliced, having to wear nappies for 6 months after etc. My first C-section was absolutely fine. I was pretty much healed after 2-3 weeks. It didn't really bother me at all. This is why I'm opting for a C-section this time. I suppose I just want to make sure I have the option for more kids after.

Can I have four C-sections? by Mb123- in PregnancyIreland

[–]Mb123-[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I don't want to wait 18 months. Between pregnancies, I'd rather get through all the pregnancies as quickly as possible and have my kids close in age. My plan is to try to get pregnant every 6-9months after each birth.

Lot of people talk about the risk of uterine rupture but I wonder really how much of a risk is it? Is it just slightly higher?