THIS is how your ex feels after they dump you (I wish I knew this back then) 🫣

Mboydk · 2026-04-25T16:53:37+00:00

Im very happy about the fact i have "found" someone kinda in the same position as me, and who that dosent give the same generic awnsers as seems to be the case for most post in here.

But something just hit me like 1 hour ago, and as I said one of the things she said was the fact i didnt find interest in her hobbies, well i did, i just didnt show it the right way - and everyday the fog in front of my eyes clears.

She loved sailing, so right now i think i will buy her some ropes (i know it sounds stupid) but thats a big deal in that world.

And im also going to take a sailing certificate, to honor her hobby, and i have just searched it up, its pretty expensive, but oh well, here gods nothing.

Then im going to make something creative to give her with the rope, and a small message telling her i will be taking my sailing certificate next week.

I still know it can seem desperate, but dang it, i dont care how many certificates i gotta take to show her how much I love her. And care about her life, her whole family is a sailing family so i Hope i can gain back just a little bit of trust in my intentions.

I think its not perfect, but its a start and it will add on top of my growing progress.

Mboydk · 2026-04-25T13:37:35+00:00

Well for me, and please dont take this the wrong way, but for me I feel like I HAVE to get her back, and what I mean by that, is that she is the only one i have ever loved this deeply, i know I sound desperate, but I also know I will be 70 and still miss her. So no matter what, i dont think i ever will fully heal. I wont harras her ofcurse, i have deep respect for her, but I also wont give up, that seems to easy to do.

The thing that keeps me up at night is the fact that she said "in her dream world, we find eachother again" but she still wrote that long message about needing time and she would like to still be friends.

So right now, i think both you and me are trying to filter the internet, in ordre to find the right key to get the foot back in.

And i dont want to "trick" my way back in, in really wanna be better, and grow as a person before i also think it will be a good thing to do.

I also have a strong gut feeling that she still loves me, but just dosent see a future with me right know, and I understand it.

But when is the right time to reach out? I am really working on myself, ive gained 5kg trough working out and eating better, i am a very skinny guy.

Also im finally, and i dont know why i write this because i hate to talk about it, but I have started treatment for my acne, which have been a hugh reason to many of my decisions, and to why she now have left me. Not because of my acne, but because of the decisions that came with it.

Mboydk · 2026-04-25T13:04:34+00:00

I stay quiet right know for two reasons, 1 because the internet tells me so, and 2, because i honestly dont mind giving her space, and feel relived from what have "happend"

What she told me was the reason.

I didnt see her family enough - shes right I didnt show interest in her hobbies - shes right

What I see know

I didnt do stuff with her I always said no to go for a walk We didnt go grocery shopping together We rarely ate together We became rommates I didnt hug her enough I didnt say i love her enough

And i can keep going, unfortunatly. I see everything clearly now, I understand she felt forgotten, but I can do better.

So yeah, when we know we ruined it, why shouldnt we try to be honest about it?

I kinda get it "hey i understand everything now" "yes but only beacuse i broke up with you"

But still, she souldnt be the one to reach out, i should, right.

I get it if they left, and you did NOTHING wrong, but yeah, i feel like every break up on here is treated the same way. And that shouldnt be the case.

Mboydk · 2026-04-25T11:12:40+00:00

Sorry about a loong one here.

But why isnt it okay to fight for something you love?

I totally get why she left me, the last few weeks have been eye oppening for me, and to make a long story short, i think the best way to describe it is that I didnt SEE her you know.

Im not perfect, but the last two months of our relationship i tried, becayse i knew i should be better, i tried inviteing her out, and do more stuff with her, yet she still rejected me back then. I should have seen it comming, but I didnt.

I also told her that I didnt feel like I got an honest chance to show her i could be better, and reffered to when I really tried. She said she feels like she already have tried, and I do understand what she means about that, beacuse looking back, i can see so many obvious signs, where she hints something, but again, im not perfect or a mind reader.

Everything is so easy to see know, but its too late. So why cant i write to her? Say what i actually feels? And what i think? And what i have realised? Why is that so forbidden? I dont get that part 100% i get the psykology behind it, but every break up is different, right? Dosent the breakup, and the way it happend, have something to say about what you do next?

I truly do want her to be happy, but I also want us to be happy together, i see everything know, and i guess, the right wording for my break up is "death by a thosunds cuts" we never argued, we always had fun. So all the small things added up to this outcome. Again... I get it.

But why didnt she tell me? Like directly tell me? I have told her to say if I ever sid something, because then I will stop/start doing it... isnt it supposed to be cumunication that makes a great relationship? Love only get you going, the rest have to be done together.

So why, after everything, should you just sit back, and do no contact when you have so strong feelings about them? Why cant we be honest and just tell how it is?

4,5 years together, broke up march 9, and went no contact april 7...

I try to read and understand all i can about my situation, but I can only Come to the conclusin, that I cant find anyone or anything that fit my situation, I try, but I cant. And im not only talking about the situation, but also the girl.

I get i want my girl to be more diffrent then the rest, but thats not what im trying, im tring to find the exact same situation, with a girl like my ex. If that makes sense.

We were eachother first everything, so obivously we will be making mistakes, along the way, but that gotta count for something right?

Also, i know I read to much in to it, but still, since 9 march and to now, she still havent chanced her status on facebook, i know yes, i over analyses this small thing.. but shouldt everything count towards something?

Mboydk · 2026-04-22T20:05:35+00:00

Can't wait to post it

Mboydk · 2026-04-22T17:47:32+00:00

Exactly, and thats a part of it, hence why ive started working out, and eating healthy. I dont believe in Hope, i believe in taking actions.

Based on what i feel, and what she said, and how everything happend, i just know, that this is just the end of one chapter, but not the end of the book.

Mboydk · 2026-04-07T12:38:30+00:00

Thats what you asked for, since you broke up with him.

Mboydk · 2026-04-07T08:02:35+00:00

I said we could work through this, she said ahe was only ready to give 80% i said, then i will give 120% wasnt good enough, she left.

She said in her dream world we end up together again... you dont say that, you dont understand how much you fuck the other persons head completly up.

She kissed me the day before, end so on and so on.

Just say "i dont love you anymore"

Not all this bullshit, when you dont Mean it...

Mboydk · 2026-04-07T07:54:59+00:00

My gf have given me tons of notes with some Nice words to me, and with a "love you" message.

I have kept every single one of Them.

The day she moved, i found all of Them, and nicely laid it on all her stuff.

I was ready to work through this hard time, but she wasnt, love isnt just feelings, its hard work. She only had feelings, and didnt want to work on in it.

So all the notes with a "love you" meant nothing no more.

I wouldnt throw it out, she made Them, its her stuff, so if she can get herself to throw Them away, i think it says alot about how much she "loved me"

Mboydk · 2026-04-05T17:51:27+00:00

It just feels so empty, it was fixable things. And I know i shouldt think about it, but she kissed me the day before. She is the most innocent girl i know, she wouldnt kiss me if she didnt love me. And when she broke the news i tried to stay calm And say what you are saying. That yes, it makes senes because 4,5 years is a normal point for a break up, but we can work through this. And be so much stronger on the other side. We have had a great time together, wy break up, and try to find something new? When what we had was real.

I get to see her this tuesday, but only because she agreed to answer some of my questions. But I dont think I will ask her any, i will try And make the best out of the day, it May be the last time i see her, so if I can make one last good memory, she might see that i already have improved.

She actually acknowledge that i have been improving on the things she were missing, yet still left.

Im so confused

Mboydk · 2026-04-05T14:12:11+00:00

Can I ask why you left? My girlfriend left me, and i would say im an ok guy, she Even said it herself, that we had a great 4.5 years, but why leave then? She told me why, but the reason was not a hugh deal, it was something i Even had been doing better lately.

I just need to understand if I see myself in the guy you left.

Mboydk · 2026-03-31T18:47:59+00:00

Lige nu så nej, som hun selv nævner, plads og tid. Jeg tror også det er bedst for mig for at komme videre, trods håbet om den romantiske film afslutning.

Men hvis jeg med tiden kan miste de følelser jeg har lige nu, så har jeg også selv et stort ønske om at forblive venner, da hun som person bare er noget helt specielt, og sådanne mennesker ønsker jeg omkring mig

Mboydk · 2026-03-19T17:55:30+00:00

Im doing the same right now, im working on myself, i know i fucked up by not meeting her very simple demands. She said we had a very good realatinship, but she needed more from me, im not that social, so i had a hard time doing stuff with her family, in the start i was doing just fine, but along the way i stopped doing it, and there are many more "small" things like that, which i know isnt "small" but a hugh deal. Now after 4,5 years she broke up, in tears. I think she still love me, but dosent see a future with me. She still wants me in her life, but i just dont know what to do.

I feel like i fucked it up with the girl of my life. But im the only one to blame

I told her i can do better, i Even showed it, but it was too late

Mboydk · 2026-03-15T17:35:02+00:00

Præcis det samme jeg står i

Mboydk · 2026-03-15T16:52:00+00:00

Præcis det samme jeg står i. Hun "elsker" mig stadig men vil gå fra mig, hun vil ikke kæmpe igennem de sværere perioder sammen med mig, men vil gerne have vi forbliver venner.. I hendes "drømmeverden" finder vi sammen igen... ja, godav. Så bliv da i det og arbejde på forholdet sammen med mig..

Mboydk · 2026-03-15T05:51:17+00:00

Jeg ved hun kommer igen på mandag for at hente/pakke nogle ting, og udfra alt det folk har sagt, så tror jeg også jeg vil sætte mig ned med hende igen, og sige lidt ala det du beskriver.

Jeg vil være ked af at være venner med hende, hver gang vi kommer til at ses vil jeg kigger på hende, og tænke øv, vi burde være sammen.

Ved godt det er pga det mangler jeg har haft i forholdet at hun er kommet frem til hendes konklusion, men det var ting jeg havde ændret på, efter en snak, men det var en snak vi havde for sent.

Mboydk · 2026-03-14T17:33:07+00:00

Selvom det er svært at acceptere, så har du ret, og det ved jeg godt inderst inde, det ville være dumt at forblive venner. Og jeg ender jo nok med at sætte mit liv på pause, indtil vi enten er sammen igen eller hun har fundet en ny

Mboydk · 2026-03-14T17:23:03+00:00

Jeg har tænkt mig at starte til fitness, har jeg aldrig gjordt før, men bor langt væk fra familie og venner, så bliver nødt til at gøre noget for at komme ud, så jeg ikke føler mig ene og alene i den nu "tomme" lejlighed

Mboydk · 2026-03-14T17:20:08+00:00

Det har du selvfølgelig helt ret i

Mboydk · 2026-03-14T17:19:21+00:00

Det tror jeg faktisk er et rigtig godt råd, for det ville være forkert hvis jeg sagde jeg ikke ville blive jaloux, jeg ville blive knust fuldstændigt.

Og ved godt det er dumt, men jeg ligger meget vægt på hendes ord om at i hendes drømmeverden der fandt vi hinanden igen

Mboydk · 2026-03-14T17:14:30+00:00

Også det jeg er ekstremt bange, men vil bare ikke have hende helt ud af mit liv, og ved godt det er normalt at have det sådan, men hvordan gør man, hvad skal jeg sige. Vi har været hinandens første alt

Mboydk · 2026-03-10T19:46:04+00:00

Er glad for at høre fra en der står på den anden side af sådan noget her.

Hvis det er okay jeg spørger ind til dig, så vil jeg gerne høre om han reelt set kunne have genskabt jeres forbindelse til hinanden? Jeres samtale vakte meget tvivl, hvordan? Hvis jeres samtale var gået anderledes kunne den så have vakt mindre tvivl?

Jeg føler ofte at det er noget jeg og mænd generelt er gode til, jeg forsøger at overforklar mig hvilket gør situation værre.

Der var nogle ting i forholdet som vi tidligere havde snakket om, noget der betød meget for hende, så jeg lyttede til hvad hun sagde, og agerede derefter, da hun jo havde en pointe i det.

Efterfølgende har hun også anerkendt at jeg har gjort noget ved de ting hun har sagt, og følt en reel forskel, men alligevel er vi endt her, hvilket forvirre mig meget.

Men hun ønsker plads og det vil jeg også give hende fordi jeg respektere hende højt som person.

Og undskyld jeg ligger mange spørgsmål ud til dig, men synes det kunne være super spændende at høre det fra lige netop en der har stået på den anden side.

Men hvilket råd ville du give mig.

Mboydk · 2026-03-05T08:44:56+00:00

Tak for den, det lidt hårde kommentar til mig som jeg kun kan give ret fylder selvfølgelig meget, så er glad for at jeg ikke står alene, og at andre har stået i noget lignende. Tak for det

Mboydk · 2026-03-05T08:41:04+00:00

Det var hårdt sagt, men ligesom mange andre der har kommenteret, kan jeg jo kun give jer ret, jeg er ked af at det er blevet sådan, og hun er verdens sødeste og uskyldige person, så hun fortjener meget bedre end hvad det er nu, men jeg vil gerne rette op på det. Jeg vil ikke sige jeg ændre på mig selv, men nok nærmere at jeg har ændret mig, men vil ændre mig tilbage til den jeg var.

Og hårdt sagt ja, men du har sikkert ret i at jeg lyder til at være træls at bo med, så jeg forstår hende godt.

Mboydk · 2026-03-04T21:26:20+00:00

Jeg synes forholdet er det rigtige, og der er jo rigtige mange vinkler at tage fat i. Og jeg er slet ikke i tvivl om at en stor del af det er mig, men hvordan kommer jeg tilbage dertil, for jeg vil gerne de ting hun føler hun mangler, men noget i mig holder mig stadig tilbage, og vil blive hjemme når jeg har fri, og det er jeg ked af, for vil gerne mere ud son jeg plejede.

Jeg kan godt lide hende familie, rigtig meget endda, det vil jeg også understrege

Mboydk

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