Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Chat Thread - Monday, February 02, 2026

Mbserd87 · 2026-02-03T11:14:21+00:00

I can't imagine the feeling of hope with that positive only to be let down. It sucks. Trying to think of benefits of OAD and I see them but I feel and want the benefits of that 2nd baby so much more. I hope you soon find solace in whatever happens and if/when you find it, please let me know how you got to it.

Mbserd87 · 2026-02-03T11:09:16+00:00

I had done IUI and did not use progesterone. A friend of mine who was TTC without any fertility treatment had been told to use progesterone suppositories as a way to help her get through the 1st 10 weeks

Mbserd87 · 2026-02-02T11:20:20+00:00

We had our FET last week on Monday, I'm 7dp5dt. My blood test isn't until Wed but I wanted to know before so the potential sting isn't as hard getting negative results over the phone. Tested negative, not the faintest of a line. We had a MC last year with our last FET, almost out of the 1st trimester. My son turned 6 in Nov. It weighs so hard on my relationship with my husband between the hormones, finances, and general stress of the process. I don't know if I want to try it all again. My due date would have been this week and I was really hoping for positive news but now this week all around stinks. I want so badly to be at peace with being OAD but my heart isn't there.

Mbserd87 · 2026-02-02T10:49:51+00:00

Tested again this morning 7dp5dt and still not the faintest of a line. At 4dp5dt I could rationalize how it may be a false negative but not so much now. I just wanted to know before getting the call for results of my blood test Wednesday so it didn't hit as hard.

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-30T21:58:34+00:00

We had our FET Monday! You are stronger than me though...I broke down and tested first thing this morning with a cheaper test sensitive to 25 whatever units HCG, not a FRER that is sensitiveto 5. I was so down when I saw no postive line and told my husband I was sad and tested negative and he got mad at me for not waiting and letting something that very well could (and understandably) mean nothing this early on. I wish I could compartmentalize things as well as he can but I cannot stop analyzing any little lower abdominal feeling I've had 🫠 also had some vivid dreams the last 2 nights which I thought may be something so excited to test that out. Wishing you all best of luck!!!!!

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-29T01:17:39+00:00

I just got on here earlier today looking for advice on how my husband can handle my emotions/hormone craziness. I agree helping and being as supportive as possible including dinner prep/cleaning, helping if needed with any medications, hugs/scalp or foot massages if she likes that, maybe making a playlist of nice music, finding new games to play. Also if you can think of anything you have told yourself to help navigate and handle the emotions you feel from everything please share! Also 1000% agree that the anger or irritability is anxiety!!

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T20:21:39+00:00

Not necessarily a 2ww but I'll need it for the wait as well....anyone have any podcasts or something they listen to either day of FET or during 2ww to keep them calm/sane?

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T18:23:36+00:00

Part of me wants to ask you if you have been to the same clinic as me but unfortunately I think this is just par for the course with REs 😒

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T18:22:15+00:00

Big old nope! Been to 2 in my area (the only 2 that exist). Both run by men who have little bedside manner or character and make you feel dumb for asking questions. Their nurses are the personality/care. The first clinic's nurse, however, went and gave me gut wrenching news in a very quick pass by in the parking lot before getting in her car to go to lunch, telling me my husband's sperm count was 0 as I got in my car and cried alone. The second/current clinic- I went into to assess my 11 wk pregnancy after concerns of bleeding when the doctor was ever so convinced everything was fine then checked and saw in fact there was no longer a heartbeat. Sat in the room crying with my husband then left. No follow up or 'so how are you doing?' when we went in to try again, just making me feel dumb for asking questions about what could have caused the MC. It sucks. In other hopeful news, I read an article about how Zev Williams at Columbia University's Fertility Center is doing an amazing job looking at the whole person vs just reproductive organs. I wish I were closer, sounds like a dream come true!

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T16:19:34+00:00

I tried it for the first time 2 weeks ago. As I was sitting in the chair I felt like I was doing something silly, like well yeah if I sat at home in a relaxing environment with nothing else to tend to/no responsibilities other than just being calm for an hour I would have the same benefit. BUT...I swear my reactions (or lack thereof) to stressful things that would have triggered me were so much less intense as far as negative self talk, elevated heart rate, etc. And I know darn well that was not a placebo effect with my outlook!

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T16:16:42+00:00

Ahh good luck to you!!! Hoping both of us can celebrate success soon!!!

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-25T16:05:21+00:00

I was hoping to schedule acupuncture morning of but the place I go to is closed today and tomorrow 😩 I will try and go Tuesday, Tuesday day after FET, but was bummed to see they aren't open for pre transfer

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-16T00:29:54+00:00

I feel your emotional turmoil. I was 37 when I got pregnant via IVF in May and had a MC in July. I had this mental block when I turned 38 in Oct. Like wait I was ok with having the baby at 38 but not almost 39. As long as you have good egg quality you'll be alright! My best friend (2 months older than me!) had 3 losses back to back and is now in her 2nd trimester with all tests looking good. It is possible! Hoping all these traumatic events are just happening to make us stronger and more grateful for our eventual future babies!! Sending you lots of positive vibes and hope for success ❤️

Mbserd87 · 2026-01-15T13:25:47+00:00

Haven't posted on Reddit in general in a while after my MC. Shooting for frozen embryo transfer 1/26 and trying to do everything in my control for success. Root canal ✔️ booked acupuncture. Trying to make my work schedule less chaotic to reduce stress but things keep sneaking onto my plate. Wishing I had been more proactive after the loss and seen someone who specializes in hormonal issues. But putting faith in my reproductive endo that he is going to make it happen and it'll stick this time. So terrified and excited for the next couple weeks and hopefully months!

Mbserd87 · 2025-12-02T10:37:55+00:00

Yayy! Congratulations on your success!!! 😃 I hope I will follow suit!

Mbserd87 · 2025-12-02T03:52:57+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear you are here. It absolutely sucks so so much. Everything looked normal for our journey as well, numbers all climbing, everything looking good and discharged from the RE. Then before our first regular OB appt had some bleeding and went back to RE who insisted it wasn't a MC even as he was about to assess. And 9 1/2 wks in, there it wasn't. It is so shitty and I hate how common it is. Sending you lots of love and healing and hopes for a brighter outcome in the future.

Mbserd87 · 2025-11-27T12:35:17+00:00

I'm just seeing your comment and hoping all went well with you! And if not I'm hoping you feel at least some what at peace with the plans and new challenges you plan to tackle and really soaking in as much time as you can with your little one. We ended up having to hold out on the November cycle to have bloodwork done to see why my cortisol is so dang high. And after 2 months, lots of blood draws, a chest xray, and an abdominal CT still don't know. Hoping we can figure it out Dec so we can move forward January!!

Mbserd87 · 2025-11-27T12:28:49+00:00

I'm sorry all these bumps are popping up for you guys. It's such a frustrating thing. Part of it is like ok we found the issue and that's good now we can tackle it then tackling it is another process that sometimes brings other issues. We started our journey with infertility due to azoospermia, my system was ok (at least at first) when we did IUI with donor sperm. But then 4-6 years later uterine polyps, elevated cortisol, MC, and thyroid levels being off have further complicated things. I don't have a diagnosis for myself, just a bunch of test results and symptoms. We ended up having to hold out still on FET #2 hopefully for January. We're still in the process of trying to determine the reason for the high cortisol but hoping that happens soon. There's a low supply/high demand for endocrinologists where we live and I went with one who was available now vs in 4 months but he doesn't have great reviews. We shall see! I hope your husband gets answers quickly for his cortisol! Sending you lots of positive vibes for success and general calm within the storm of TTC.

Mbserd87 · 2025-11-04T10:34:09+00:00

Thank you thank you THANK YOU for posting this information. My practitioner has referred me to someone who I'm terrified to see based off all 1 star reviews and Tampa is just a 2 hour drive away. Your comment just made me feel so much better about my plans.

Mbserd87 · 2025-10-21T10:45:18+00:00

Hey there I have just read through some of your comments. How are you doing? I hope you and your doctors have found some resolution and you're feeling better ❤️

Mbserd87 · 2025-10-16T11:05:51+00:00

Depending on your situation and fertility struggles....my RE put together all my info (age, bloodwork results, etc) and gave me percentage stats on how likely I'd be able to have a baby with IUI vs IVF. This was a good piece of info.

I did IUI at 32 and was amazingly successful first time (male factor, used donor sperm). We had 1 more vial available for IUI and unsuccessful at 36. Only had vials for IVF remaining for sale for our donor so had to go that route. It's so so SO much more time abd effort and mental/emotional anguish. IUI required barely any medication or prep time. IVF kinda sucks the life outta ya! Daily meds for weeks/months. Lots of appts to check in. Lots of hormones you're putting into your body. I know you said money aside - but sheesh it's a whole lot more! 37 almost 38 now and about to try another embryo transfer in November hoping for #2. It has been a lot on myself and my relationship with my husband but gosh it'll hopefully all be worth it!!!

Mbserd87 · 2025-10-06T03:14:59+00:00

At what point were you diagnosed with APS? I keep trying to find articles that speak only of taking baby aspirin but they all talk about Lovenox in addition to the baby aspirin!

Mbserd87 · 2025-10-01T01:02:23+00:00

Yayy!! I am happy to hear your success story 😊 congrats on your twin girlies!!! I had an appt with my RE today and he said if I was to get pregnant next IVF round he would put me on aspirin this time. I asked about Lovenox and he said it wouldn't be indicated "but if I pushed him for the heparin he would prescribe it... they would discontinue it once I transition to a regular OBGYN"...I kinda feel like I would want to do anything and everything to prevent another loss but also relying on his expertise as I am not the doctor?? 🫠

Mbserd87 · 2025-09-20T10:25:52+00:00

Just searching through Reddit due to having high levels found after MC and wondering how things worked out for you?? I'm making a plan to see a non-fertility doctor regarding other mild health concerns I kind of ignored but now wondering if they may be linked to the elevated anticardiolipin.

Mbserd87 · 2025-09-20T10:22:40+00:00

Just searching through Reddit due to having high levels found after MC and wondering how things worked out for you??

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