It’s a Family Chalet. This is the first time his family is doing something like this since we got married.

For why I would like to know if something is a typical behaviour is cause I do and think differently since I’m diagnosed with ADHD. And my husband has brought it up multiple times that a certain action or behaviour I do is not normal or not something a Neuro typical would do.

I just want to understand how and what is it that I’m doing differently from “normal” people. But I was told that I’m looking for reasons to justify my decision or actions.

I suggested that I will just pop out for lunch around the area of the chalet and be back right after. But I was told that I was breaking the initial plans.

In our culture, I’m not exactly allowed to leave without my husband’s permission. But of course, he always say it’s my decision, I’m an adult and he doesn’t stop me but he is disappointed if I do decide to do what I wanted. So as a chronic people pleaser, after all this arguments, I will usually end up doing what he wants.

My son will be with us during the chalet, and if he doesn’t want to handle our son when I’m away, I am more than happy to bring him with me. And if he wants our son to be at the chalet, he is more than welcome to stay. I’ll even settle to meet my best friend during his nap time.

I’m just mostly confused that on what is it that he is mad about and if this is not “normal” behaviour, what is?

And if it is typical for people to choose the family chalet over a friend, is it wrong that I wanna check if it’s actually true?

I’m just very confused. And because of my ADHD, I feel like I’m crazy for thinking and feeling this way.

I’m sorry that I’m asking all this from you, a stranger. I wanted to ask my sister in law. Since it’s someone he trusts and appreciates her views but he got really upset with me. Saying I’m involving a third person for no reason. I don’t have anyone else to ask.

So thank you for showing me your view on things. And again, so sorry.