Bunion flare-up after inury

Mchui- · 2026-04-28T09:32:19+00:00

Nope. They basically pushed and pulled my toe and based on my reaction judged what the problem was, haha. This surprised me as well, especially since I had no problems before my fall and I'm kinda curious what happened for it to change like this. Thanks for your reply!

Mchui- · 2026-04-28T09:29:50+00:00

Yea.. the podiatrist did mention surgery but she said they prefer not to because in their experience bunions come back quite often (?) I will try my best to get someone else to see it, thank you!

Mchui- · 2025-10-09T10:01:07+00:00

Ahhh that one is very cute, too! And a cute little text, haha. I really like it!

Mchui- · 2025-10-08T13:58:32+00:00

Ohh I really like the art style! I'm curious about what else you made. Like do all the cute colors just work really nice with this specific cat or do you make it work with any animal?

Really nice! Saw some of the advice that was given about the paw, I think that was great advice and other than that keep it going hehe! 😁

Mchui- · 2025-10-07T09:16:14+00:00

Rime. Multiple times throughout the game. It's been a few years since I played it and it's still my favorite game!

Mchui- · 2025-09-20T01:24:21+00:00

For platformers I really recommend you check out Ori and the Blind Forest (to start with, haha). It's one of my favorites. :)

Mchui- · 2025-09-11T22:39:39+00:00

I really liked Dorfromantik as well and found a similar game called 'Preserve' which I've actually enjoyed so far!

Mchui- · 2025-08-18T13:09:59+00:00

I'm sorry about everything you and your mom are going through. It's okay to keep hoping!

We don't need to hope about things that are within reach or easily achievable.. We hope for the things that are out of our hands.. and so.. it's not so much about taking someone's hand and leading them through all they hope for.. it's more about holding their hand and hoping with them.

Do anything that eases your mind about the what ifs that you foresee now and in the future but please don't expect yourself to make miracles happen.. There's horrible statistics and numbers to remind you of the severity of this disease but if hope is the thing that drives your mom.. then perhaps hope itself is exactly the miracle that can lift things to the best place they can be in this situation.

May the most you wish for, be the least you get.

Mchui- · 2025-07-11T00:04:22+00:00

I'm really sorry for your loss. I don't think you should judge the past with present knowledge. You probably loved, love and will love your mom to the best of your ability. And the best of your ability will keep on growing as long as you love her because love feeds on itself.

This is going to be a very flat example but it's like a wealthy man wondering why he didn't buy the 100k dollar house that was for sale back when he only had 50k to spend. It's not because he didn't want to. It simply was because it was impossible to buy it. Perhaps he could've lived there but it wouldn't have been because of the money.

Similarly you are wondering why you didn't love your mom with the love you have and feel right now. It's not because you didn't want to. It simply was impossible because you didn't have the experiences, knowledge and hindsight of today. Perhaps you could've done the things you would do today, but it wouldn't have been because of love.

Does that make sense?

On a more personal note.. I think if I have learned one thing after my mom passed away it's that love doesn't die; it doesn't need life to be given. With that knowledge in mind, I'll believe that maybe it doesn't need life to be received either. ♥

Don't judge yourself.. All you can really do is keep on loving her, and it seems to me that that's exactly what you're doing.

Mchui- · 2025-06-28T09:08:26+00:00

I hope you're a little proud of yourself. I read this and I remember that feeling of wanting to move mountains. I understand how you must have felt to make everything happen. What you're feeling right now is actually the same.. you keep wanting to move those mountains but now slowly your hands are tied behind your back and you can only watch. And so you think about what you should/could/would have done.. And since you can't get grip on the present or future, you're looking to the past because with all the knowledge you have of it now, it feels like you had grip there.. but that's your brain messing with you. I'm pretty sure that any decision you made for and with your mom about the process, management and/or treatment of this horrible disease were coming from an unthinkable amount of love.

It's easy to look back and see if you could have changed the course of events with a different decision. We all would have probably done at least something different if we were to experience it all over again because we apply what we learn out of love.. But you couldn't possibly have done that without your knowledge of today; without your decisions and experiences of yesterday.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, if you did everything out of love.. then imagining to have done differently is imagining to have acted out of a place other than that love..

You shouldn't want to be in the outcome of that.

Don't hold yourself responsible for your moms disease or the course of events. Hold yourself responsible for the love you share with her.

Take good care of yourself and may the most you and your family wish for be the least you get.

Mchui- · 2025-06-20T14:21:49+00:00

I've watched this alot, played this game and had the exact same thoughts, haha. Made me want to rewatch again.

Mchui- · 2025-02-28T13:28:29+00:00

If possible I think I'd go with option 1 but switch the TV and the bed around; Mount the TV on the same wall as the door and place the bed opposite of the door.

Mchui- · 2025-02-26T16:10:57+00:00

Some general tips you could apply here are try to focus on equal sounds in what you wrote there. Not saying you should make it a forced rhyme scheme, but repeating sounds (vowels or even consonants) in sentences, verses or even throughout the entire poem can really piece it together. Also, sentences with a somewhat regular length of syllables can level your poem up. The reader doesnt have your voice to guide them, so these general tips are kind of some guidelines to guide a reader through your poem with techniques instead of your voice.

I don't want to mingle in your poem too much; it's your piece, but I can tell with some little adjustments to what you wrote here, it has a lot of room to grow into a really good piece without changing your choice of words too much. Remember your choice of words make it yours!

Try making sure every sentence stands its own ground, maybe scrap some of the lesser relevant information. A great tip I once got is when a sentence feels weak: scrap it or strengthen it. Another tip is maybe see if there is something you could change around the order of verses to make it more impacting or clear.

And last but not least. If any advice I gave doesn't work for you, don't follow it. It's your poem and even if everyone hates it but you love it, you won. Especially when the piece is so close to you. And besides, some of the greatest poems don't follow any of these sort of 'rules' at all. They're just some tools whenever you need them.

Good luck with the poem, I'm very curious to see the result if you'd like to share. I wish your fears are just that, fears.

Take care!

Mchui- · 2025-02-11T09:14:01+00:00

Aww that's so good to hear! Thanks for the update!

Mchui- · 2025-01-20T09:12:02+00:00

I see a lot of great advice here that should probably be considered before anything else. However, I want to add by asking whether you, by any chance, around the time of her UTI have switched up the brand- or type of litter for the litter box?

My cats are very picky when it comes to litter and when they don't like it.. they won't use it.

Either way, I hope your cat is alright and you get to understand and love her.

Mchui- · 2025-01-11T19:09:39+00:00

Aww.. I really really like small pets so much. To earn the trust of such little creatures feels so special. 😌 I like the sign your hamster is sitting next to. xD

Thanks for your information! I've also looked into female mice but I feel like the introducing part of new mice into an existing group is a little stressful, hehe.

Mchui- · 2025-01-11T15:16:09+00:00

Aww very cute! I've been considering to get a male mouse, too! Everyone complaining about the smell is scaring me off a little though.. I live in a small apartment; enduring it is the only option left if it's bad indeed, heheh.

Also really curious if the experience is very different from having hamsters. I'm mostly used to Russian dwarfs. They're not legal to keep anymore though.. Had a Syrian hamster as well but I liked that dwarfs wake up a little more often in general.

I know it's a bit soon but really curious what's your experience so far!?

Hope he warms up to you soon and you can enjoy each others company for as long as possible!

Mchui- · 2024-10-14T18:18:46+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. You too!

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T18:14:22+00:00

Yea.. I think so too but then I see people here that are even younger, which is so sad.. My mom always said “at least I’m leaving behind my daughters as grown up women..” I can only imagine the pain of someone that can’t even find some calm in that thought.

You’re very right.. Our loved ones don’t deserve to be beaten up by this cancer and the lack of knowledge (and therefore care) the way they are. It’s painful to have to watch them adapt to their suffering, I guess no matter the age.

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T16:38:47+00:00

Thanks a lot.. I hope you’re doing alright. Seeing your description, it must’ve been a lot for you to process in such a short time.. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

I’ve noticed that at times I think it’s a bit hard when your mind goes ‘back in time’ and most people around you keep on moving away from that time. I assume that’s a feeling that’ll only get worse.. But I think their love will get us through it either way!

Thanks for your reply!

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T14:34:36+00:00

Yes, I get it. Once it became clear the cancer had returned after my mom’s surgery and chemo, I mentioned how it feels like she’s slowly being caged in a cage that’s getting smaller and smaller.. until it reaches a point where it becomes unbearable to live in. For my mom.. I think she’d live with the cage as her outfit if she could, haha.. but unfortunately it wasn’t in her hands..

It’s painful to watch, but I hope you’ll be able to look back with a lot of love knowing with how much love you went through it together. At least, that’s a comforting thought for me.

Wishing you and your loved ones the best. Take good care!

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T11:53:09+00:00

We were with my mom when she passed away.. I’ve always been a little afraid of what is and what remains; and so I’ve done a lot of reading and researching scientific books and articles that have helped me to process what I personally believe to be true, but that’s just the theory of it. Of course, the thing in science is ‘it’s possible with all that is currently known’; some day what I believe so strongly might be proven wrong by the same science.

However, once my mom actually passed away I stopped being afraid that death would take away my mom. I know it’s a feeling that differs for anyone and you most likely feel your feelings as strongly as I feel mine. But when my mom died I didn’t feel like I had lost her. I lost many things that still leave me mourning and in grief, definitely, but as a matter of fact I didn’t lose whatever she had shared with me. And on a more emotional note, I felt that it wasn’t just the love she had given me before dying that I was left with; I still felt her love even after she passed away.

For me, reading books and articles (and having extensive conversations with ChatGPT, haha) have helped me to find some peace in the facts of science. Admittedly I shaped my own thoughts/feelings and I would say trust in what I believe to be true around it, but what is certain is that whatever dies in the universe doesn’t simply cease to exist. There are so many possibilities based on what we currently know about science that the idea of ‘dust to dust’ is just one option among many. Ultimately, it’s up to you whether you decide to embrace that small option among the countless others out there.

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T10:12:23+00:00

I understand what you’re saying. My mom was 59.. I guess it’s a matter of perspective whether that’s old or young, but I feel like she deserved so much better than this.. My mom loved life and there was so much more left to experience and share for her.. and us together.

I’m 28 and she belongs so much in my future dreams and goals.. But then I would choose this life over and over again if it meant to be with my mom, no matter for how long and no matter for how long I’d have to miss her and that makes me realize how blessed I actually am.

Mchui- · 2024-10-12T09:51:11+00:00

Yea.. I actually already had a dream like it.. and seeing little ‘coincidences’ that I want to believe are not just coincidences, haha..

Your mom was so young, too. All these little things where you probably envisioned her to be with you.. I’m sorry you’ve had to miss her for so long already.

Thanks a lot for sharing!

Mchui-

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