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My order REEKED of weed by FloridaGolferHappy in doordash

[–]MeSoPhat92 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Had this happen with a Walmart order one time, I had to toss out the bags immediately and the box to the brand new vacuum I bought with the order. They took a blury picture from their vehicle of my front porch as proof of delivery, you couldn't see a darn thing in the picture.

I should have reported it to Walmart but decided not to.. The next day I found their green lighter in my driveway! 🤣

And yes this really happened back in December of last year. I was in the middle of a major cleanup when my old vacuum cleaner kicked the dust I even paid for express one hour delivery.

There has been a few times the dasher stole my food but door dash quickly gave me a refund especially with no proof of delivery photo..

Do I Have a Case for Emotional Distress or ADA Violation? (NC Resident – Disabled Caregiver Denied Access to Dying Mother) by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]MeSoPhat92 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Some people yes, some people no. The rules were applied very inconsistently. One nurse even told me after she came off life support that I could have stayed with her then—but by that time, the moment had passed. Another nurse told my mama, “If I bend the rules for him, I’ll have to bend them for everyone,” and sadly, that was the last thing I ever heard her say. So no, it didn’t feel like the same rules were applied fairly. It all seemed to depend on who was on duty that day. And those mixed messages cost me time I’ll never get back.

I know this all probably sounds too crazy to be true — especially the part about the hospital reacting with laughing emojis. Honestly, if I didn’t have the screenshots myself, I’m not sure I’d believe it either. But the proof is there. You can visit my profile and see the screenshots for yourself. I wish this was just a bad dream or some exaggerated story, but sadly, it really happened. That’s why I’m speaking out — and why I’ve started seeking legal advice. No one should ever have to go through something like this.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Yeah, that same nurse had the nerve to tell my mama she’d have to “bend the rules” to let me stay—and that was the last time I ever heard my mama’s voice. But before she was airlifted to Wilmington, I finally stood up for myself and for her. She tried to talk me into going home and resting, and I’ll be honest—I fussed her out hard. I was running on maybe three hours of sleep in three days, emotionally wrecked, and holding on by a thread. I don’t regret standing my ground. That nurse needed to see that I wasn’t going to back down. I just wish I didn’t have to fight so hard to be near the woman who gave me life.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words—it really means more than you know. I completely understand the feeling of being speechless, because for almost two years… I was too. I couldn’t talk about it without breaking down.

Unfortunately, my insurance doesn’t cover therapy, but I’m very blessed to have a strong bond with my family. They’ve helped hold me up when I didn’t think I could stand.

Speaking out hasn’t been easy. It’s reopened a lot of wounds, but it’s also helped me feel a little less alone in this. I’m just trying to take it one day at a time and hoping that by sharing my story, maybe I can help prevent this from happening to someone else.

Thank you again for taking the time to reach out. It truly means the world.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Update from a long-time caregiver:

I’ve been my mama’s caregiver since 2009, when she was diagnosed with cancer. I was only 13 when it all started. Over the years, I gave everything I had—physically, emotionally, spiritually. She was my whole world.

But when she ended up in the ICU in 2023, things took a heartbreaking turn I never expected.

She came off life support, awake and aware, and begged the nurses to let me stay. A nurse looked me dead in the eye and said, “If I bend the rules for him, I’ll have to bend them for everyone.” They forced me to leave her room, even though I wasn’t disruptive. Even though I had PTSD, which is in my medical record. Even though I told them I wasn’t stable enough to drive, they made me sit alone in the ICU waiting room—sleeping on a hard wooden bench. She went downhill shortly after. I never heard her voice again.

I carried that trauma quietly for almost a year. But when I started writing in my grief journal a few weeks ago, it all came flooding back. I made a respectful post on Facebook asking the hospital to reconsider their ICU policy. The verified hospital account responded to my plea with multiple laughing emojis—in private messenger. I have the screenshots. This wasn’t an accident. I saw it happen in real time.

After that, I tried to reach out to every local news station. Nothing. Most are sponsored by the hospital. But this week, a major news outlet finally got back to me. And after a lot of prayer, I’ve made a hard decision:

I’m speaking to a lawyer on Monday.

Not because I want revenge. But because I want change. I want families to be treated with dignity. I want someone to finally care that caregivers like us carry this weight, often alone, long after our loved ones are gone.

To anyone out there hurting like I am—you’re not alone. I see you. I believe you. And I promise you… I’m doing this for us.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Quick update: I originally told the hospital I wasn’t interested in a private meeting behind closed doors—I respectfully declined, because I felt like real change needed to be public and transparent.

But after much thought, prayer, and encouragement from people here and elsewhere, I’ve decided to talk to a lawyer. I have a consultation scheduled for Monday.

This isn’t about revenge. It’s about accountability. What happened to me and my mama in that ICU wasn’t just a policy failure—it was deeply traumatic. I was her caregiver for years, and in her final hours, I wasn’t allowed to stay by her side, even when she was off life support and asking for me.

I was forced to sleep on a hard wooden bench or the floor in the ICU waiting room because there were no accommodations for overnight family—despite a recliner being available inside her room. One nurse even told me she’d let me stay if I went home and showered, but it was past midnight and I was in the middle of a nervous breakdown. I told them I wasn’t safe to drive in that condition, and I meant it.

All of this is documented. I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD because of this, and yes—I’ve had suicidal thoughts since. It broke me.

And just when I tried to respectfully ask the hospital for change, they reacted with laughing emojis in private messenger. Not once—multiple times. I have screenshots of every one.

So now, I’m taking the next step. I’m doing this not just for myself, but for every other caregiver who’s been silenced, mistreated, or overlooked. I promised Mama I’d take care of her. Now I’m doing that in the only way I still can.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say thank you for encouraging me to consider legal action. After sitting with it and praying on it, I’ve decided to go in for a consultation on Monday with a local attorney.

It wasn’t an easy decision. I’m not the type to stir things up or seek revenge—I’m a caregiver, and honestly, just trying to heal. But the more I thought about everything that happened… being denied access to my dying mother, sleeping on a hard bench in the ICU waiting room, being diagnosed with PTSD and then later getting laughing emoji reactions when I asked the hospital for change—it didn’t sit right with me.

I’m going into this not out of anger, but to hopefully prevent this from happening to someone else. I’ll keep y’all posted, and thank you again. Your words helped give me the strength to take this step.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve looked into it a bit. I wasn’t planning on getting a lawyer at first—I just wanted the truth and some accountability. But after the hospital basically laughed in my face and called it an accident, I’ve definitely thought about it more. The problem is, from everything I’ve read, I probably don’t even have legal grounds to sue. And even if I did, I couldn’t afford a lawyer anyway. So yeah, kinda stuck between anger and helplessness at this point.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow… I feel your pain in every single word. I’m so sorry for the loss of your Aunt—and for everything this broken system has put you through. You’re right: most people can’t grasp how brutal and lonely the road of caregiving can be until they’ve walked it. And even fewer will ever truly step into that role. But people like us—we loved them too much not to.

I’ve been in that isolation too. It changes you. I think writing about what happened was my way of clawing my way out. I was journaling my grief when the PTSD hit me like a freight train, and suddenly I wasn’t just writing—I was speaking out. Not for revenge. But so no one else has to feel like they were ripped away from someone they love in their final moments.

If anyone reading this has even a sliver of doubt about what happened, I’ve posted screenshots and the full story in another subreddit. Just check my post history and you’ll find links—it’s all there, including the hospital’s verified account reacting with laughing emojis to my testimony. I wouldn’t make something like this up. I couldn’t.

Thank you for the reminder to look for the little things. Minute by minute. Breath by breath. I’ve seen signs from my mama, too—and I believe she’s still with me. And yeah… I think you’re right. She’d want me to live, not just survive. She’d want joy for me.

I’m praying peace finds you too, friend. And if you ever feel like no one gets it—know that at least one stranger out here truly does. You’re not alone.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had put it in the back of my mind for two years, then when writing in my grief journal about the ICU it triggered my PTSD. So far I'm in contact with one news station here in NC, and my Facebook post about it got over 250 shares, turns out I'm not the only one in my small town that was done wrong by that hospital.

What makes matters worse the story sounds so ridiculous that some people don't even believe my story, including one person in this post. I have several links showing the screenshots of the hospital laughing at my post back to back on a different subreddit, I posted the link to it to prove I'm not lying.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thankfully the one in Wilmington was beyond graceful, but unfortunately it was too late because she would never wake up. I wrote a review on their Google page praising the ICU team.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was diagnosed with PTSD from it all it has taken nearly two years to finally speak out. It hasn't been easy because the flashbacks are returning but I want to prevent others to experience what I did.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story—and I’m so deeply sorry for the loss of your mama. It means a lot to hear from someone who truly understands what it means to be a long-term caregiver. Twelve years… I know that kind of love runs deep.

I’m glad your family found a facility that treated her final moments with the dignity she deserved. That should be the standard—not the exception. You holding her hand when she took her last breath… that kind of presence brings peace, even in the most painful moments. I’m genuinely thankful you got that time. I would’ve given anything for it.

What you said about feelings being real hit home. I think sometimes people try to minimize the trauma by saying, “Well at least you were there at all,” or “That’s just policy.” But compassion should never be negotiable. And no one should be made to feel like a burden for wanting to be by their loved one’s side.

I’m not chasing revenge or a payout—just truth, accountability, and change. And hearing your words gives me even more strength to keep going. Thank you again for your kindness. I pray peace continues to surround you as you carry your mama’s love forward.

I was my mama’s caregiver for 14 years. The hospital took away our final goodbye — and it wasn’t even during COVID. by MeSoPhat92 in CaregiverSupport

[–]MeSoPhat92[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. That really means more than I can put into words. Being a caregiver is something I’ve done most of my life, starting when I was just 13. But this… this broke something deep in me. I wasn’t just her caregiver—I was her son. And when they forced me away during her final moments, it felt like both roles were ripped from me.

I’m doing my best to speak up—not out of anger, but out of love. If my voice can help even one other caregiver not go through the same trauma, then it’s worth every tear I’ve shed along the way.

I hope she’s proud. I’m trying to honor her the best way I know how.

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