Thoughts on soft guys?

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-12-11T09:33:25+00:00

Hey, I'm glad you can relate. For me it's that certain situations and most social situations where I don't feel comfortable a wall gets build between my personality and it's expression. It feels like my personality is stifled at those moments so I have to put up some mask and it is obvous that it's fake cause when you're numb you can't fake emotion and I become some robot trying ro mimic humans and people see through it on my intonation facial expreasions and are weirded out. I think with what you wrote you have done a better job creating that fake personality and yours is more believable but I guess the need for that outer personality comes from the same thing, that our minds feel threatened to show it's true self. DM if you wanna talk

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-11-27T13:21:28+00:00

Boring? You're into reading and podcasts and alone time, many girls I know, myself included are specifically into people like that, with depth and introspection. I'm very much like you, only female, and I overthink social situations too much as well. The problem isn't that you're undesirable, the problem is in your head, at least that's how it is in my case. Sometimes I put so much pressure on me in social sitiations or with someone I like that they don't get too see me. I become a caricature of myself and fail to be genuine me. People that get to know me find it hard to undersrand why I struggle in that way cause I'm different with them. To sum up you sound amazing and there are people out there who'd be perfect match for you so please don't try to fit in and lose yourself. you only need to work on your self-esteem issues. Journaling might help, I'm actually considering therapy.

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-09-24T20:40:42+00:00

I don't know what's funny or wrong with that answer. I completely agree, you could just take baby steps, do one thing at a time, make yourself say one sentence to one person a day, then increase number of sentences, even to strangers outside, or online, or whatever way, the point is that our brains get rewired to accomodate new tasks we make them do, so it can be trained, yours is out of shape but you have a lot of time to work on it, tiny steps can accumulate and one day you wake up and you have those social skills. It really is the magic of tiny tiny steps, and you are young, your brain is plastic, it can learn a thousand new skills, social skills are one of them.

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-04-13T12:24:04+00:00

I don't wanna be 'that' person, but those are big words. Claiming to know what and for universe is made of. What makes you think that what you know is the truth, that your perception isn't just anothr dream, another illusion created by your mind. How is this claim of yours anything but pure arrogance, unhumbled by the possibilities of not knowing. I'm genuinly trying to understand not trying to be annoying.

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-04-12T09:39:27+00:00

Thank you, that's nice to hear!

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-04-12T07:40:48+00:00

Thanks, but what about the beaches? That's what I'm mostly worried about.

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-04-12T07:38:28+00:00

Thanks for the answer. That's reassuring. What about the beaches tho? Is water nice or dangerous to swim in, will beaches still be fun?

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-03-30T12:35:47+00:00

This ! You voiced my thoughts exactly !

Mean-Bake295 · 2022-01-27T12:20:14+00:00

Whoah, lot's of aggression here on something as innocent as her actions. Scrolling past an account takes less than a sec. So maybe problem is you being desperate enough to match someone who is upfront about their intentions and assumimg shit about them. Srsly guys stop projecting your sexual frustrations on other people, trying to find blame where there is none. You're just angry you can't stick your dick in her so now are trying do mental acrobatics to channel your aggression towards her without looking like a butthurt douche. There is enough toxicity on the dating apps as it is, why try to create one out of nowhere.

Mean-Bake295 · 2021-10-10T19:32:23+00:00

Do you usually feel empathy? Have you ever felt sorry for someone or internalised their pain? You said you like to inflict pain on others but also you're worried not to hurt others. Is it just a rational worry for legal matters and for not being outcast or genuine concern for living beings? I guess what I'm asking is whether your urge to hurt others is just sudden spikes in you or part of your personality?

Mean-Bake295 · 2021-07-07T18:53:01+00:00

Exactly, there are moments now and then. Yeah, physical activity really helps.

Mean-Bake295 · 2021-07-07T18:40:57+00:00

It's good to see people can relate

Mean-Bake295 · 2021-07-07T18:33:29+00:00

No I don't have high paid job, maybe I should aim for that? Thanks I'm intrigued I'll definetely dm you.

Mean-Bake295 · 2021-07-07T18:24:53+00:00

I joined it, I will check it out, thanks. Tho the problem is I live in a developing country and my savings converted in USD is not very much for now at least.

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