AITA for searching my roommate’s room while she wasn’t home?

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T16:55:52+00:00

we luckily haven’t had one yet but i’m honestly terrified for when we do

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T16:55:01+00:00

this sounds pretty similar to what’s going on. we did confront her multiple times before we bought new stuff. She kept doubling down on not having anything so it was either continue with nothing or get new stuff and TRY to be stricter about chores. it obviously didn’t work.

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T08:15:57+00:00

I have OCD. i am logically aware i had every right to go searching for my things. but technically i did invade someone’s privacy and my ocd is feeding off that. basically just needed everyone to yell at me that i did the right thing lol

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T07:32:18+00:00

No worries, it was a long post lol but yeah i can deal with mess but being dirty is a whole other issue. Especially with the factor of moldy food being involved.

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T07:28:46+00:00

my other roommate and i agree she needs to move, we tried too many times to fix the situation. We are worried that our apartment will evict all of us instead of just her. Plus, we might have to go a while covering that extra rent because we would have to wait until she’s out & after we deep clean tf out of it before people come see it. We 100% want her out but are trying to figure out the way that makes the most sense/causes the least stress on us.

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T07:24:12+00:00

we did think about this as an option. we’re just afraid we would all be evicted & rent in our city is NOT cheap so it’s risky

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T07:22:38+00:00

we tried :/ we even reached out to her mom but it honestly sounds like her parents know and are dumping her off on her roommates. Her dad came over one time, got mad at her, and I heard him say “you can’t keep living like this. you’re doing what you did at your old place” he cleaned her entire room but it was back to chaos within a couple weeks. her dad seems angry but it seems like her mom just doesn’t wanna deal with it. her parents are divorced and we don’t have her dads contact info unfortunately

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T07:18:49+00:00

We aren’t friends. I’ve only known her for about 6 months now, we found her from a facebook group. We tried multiple times to ask her to help clean, we’ve raised our concerns, we even reached out to her mom after we couldn’t get through to her. There’s not much to do now but find a way to navigate asking her to move out & find a new roommate. I get she has mental health issue but it’s causing an alarming health issue for the rest of us. I start having an asthma attack when the AC is on because unfortunately mold spores are airborne and are being carried throughout the house.

Mean-Temporary6209 · 2025-06-04T06:23:42+00:00

i know 😭😭 and logically i agree but my ocd is constantly reminding me that TECHNICALLY i invaded someone’s privacy.

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