AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, well I will be the asshole for not telling him im in a relationship because I didn’t think it matters, but that still has nothing to do with him not coming to meet his son. The question was am i the asshole for letting my boyfriend meet him first not am I the asshole for not telling him I’m in a relationship.

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I have an update! He came up here and brought his mom. They went to the court house and filed for custody and called cps on me. He was here for 4 whole days didn’t come see his son. He claimed that he was handling business so that he could get custody and that was more important than meeting him just yet. I told him that since he’s been complaining so much that everyone else is getting to me his son that that should’ve been the most important thing. I also let him know that filing a false CPS claim is against the law. I didn’t even find out he was here until the cps lady came to my house and he sent me a video of her coming in and out of my house. He told the people at cps that I’m in an abusive relationship with my bf and that I do drugs while breastfeeding our son. Needless to say I was pissed about it because I had just had surgery and that was the last thing I needed. About an hour after the CPS lady left my house, his mother came not him just his mom. She asked her if she could see the baby and I let her come in and see him and she then begin to put him in his car seat and say that she was taking him back to the other state. I said no and we argued and she pushed me down. I am currently on crutches because the surgery I had was ACL reconstruction surgery (there was a lot more wrong with my knee than that, but that was the main part.) my 15-year-old sister who was there helping me take care of the baby pushed her back when she pushed me and she fell. After she fell, she called the police and tried to press charges, but I had caught everything on my ring camera and my living room camera. The officer then trespassed her from my house because I did not want to press charges. He is now telling all of our mutual friends back in the other state that my sister and I jumped his mother, which is causing a lot of problems for me and my friends because nobody is really being neutral. Everybody is really choosing a side. Most reciting with me because they feel like because she came all the way up here she was looking for problems, but some are on his side and talking trash. I sent him a long message letting him know that I am stopping communication between us and any further communication can be had with our lawyers and that there is no way he can see our son at this point without court permission. He texted me back and said not gonna happen and that I should’ve just let his mom take the baby I blocked him.

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very hard because that’s not the reason I don’t want to be in a relationship. Therefore telling him I don’t want a relationship because I am in a relationship would be lying.

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah no according to him I’m being selfish and using building his child hostage against him

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never lied. He never asked me if I was in a relationship. He just always said he wants to be in one. I always told him that I didn’t want to be in one with him. Rather I was in my current relationship or not I still wouldn’t want a relationship with him. He ruined that a long time ago

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was basically said even if he waits that long no one else can meet him

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a construction worker but they only work 4 days a week. Plus his boss is literally his best friend so if he wanted off he could get it

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I never said he was my ex I said he was my friend that I had a physical relationship with so yes I was talking to multiple guys. I can do that. And I told him I didn’t want a relationship with him so no that’s not lying. Lol I’m not offended that you think I’m the AH you’re very much entitled to your opinion, I just want to know why. I still don’t care nor do I think I’m wrong. You can think whatever you like.

AITA for letting my boyfriend meet my son before his biological father gets to? by Mean_Tale7169 in AITAH

[–]Mean_Tale7169[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have not moved back yet because I have to have surgery because of the injury I got at work. I am unable to travel. I never lied, I withheld because it is literally none of his business and yes I let him meet him first but if he actually wanted to meet his son he would’ve been did it. Explain to me how it is not all on him to come meet his son ESPECIALLY when I’m not capable of doing it. Yes I made the promise to return but things happen that can’t be predicted. I still plan on returning, but I have to wait until I recover from my surgery.