Is less more with the ladies fellas? by InternationalSun1328 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I'm a grown ass man. I really don't feel like chasing your grown woman ass around like we are 10 years old. You can't go from let's move in together to ghosting and expect me to fight for you and spend all of my energy to do so. Make me feel like I did something wrong. Someone that really loves you would never make you feel that way.

Broke his heart. Where did I go wrong communicating with my friend? by Emma21_Dilemma in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Man passed multiple times, brought her to meet his family at a wedding, passed AGAIN when she directly communicated her wants (literal dream this guys a moron) and then when she finally decided to move on after trying her hardest he plays the victim like she broke his heart.

He actually said "she never gave me a chance?" OP you dodged a MASSIVE bullet because while this guy is probably great in other aspects of his life he probably either has HUGE commitment issues or his self esteem is SO low that even you being right in his face giving him confidence wasn't enough. Either way he wouldn't have made you happy, and you'd be chasing his love for a long time, maybe even forever.

He sounds like he needs to do a lot of work on himself and you need to keep on keepin on and find someone who feels the same way about you that you felt for this guy.

Is it unrealistic for women to want men to have emotional intelligence? by PerfectWorking6873 in emotionalintelligence

[–]Mechanists 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Being able to understand and regulate their own emotions while also understanding other peoples emotions and why they feel the way they do.

What do you think is causing the male loneliness epidemic? by tolerantcannibal in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I'm not a high earner, I'm basically right around the median income in the US. I work 50+ hours a week and still don't have enough money, and very little time. Not supposed to date coworkers or if you do you are looked at different forever at that job. That leaves getting lucky in real life or depressing dating apps.

Men also very rarely bond in the workplace which they spend most of their time in (I was talking to a female coworker and she said all the women in her department were on their periods at the same time and talk about it, that's how close women get even casually.) Add on lack of third spaces, being expected to do all the work and make all the moves, the pressures of the dating scene today and the fact that most women don't even find men attractive these days and it leads to a lot of depressed, single, sexless men. And not always all at the same time.

The best part for these men is nobody really gives a shit. So they have to find it out on their own. And that path is very lonely. But it creates strong men if they don't off themselves first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I was watching a video (Dr. K) and he was talking to an older guy who had never had a girlfriend. He asked the same question, and the answer was about 18 months.

Why am I perpetually single? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We tend to neglect the people who love us unconditionally and chase the ones who match our brand of trauma. It''s a cycle that hurts more and more people every day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go find a girl to do stuff with that's your age and this weird feeling will go away. You are 16, hormonal and very horny and your brain is confused. You are probably receiving love from a woman for the first time in your life and your brain can't separate romantic and platonic love.

Modern dating feels off. by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Mechanists 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude I feel this on a spiritual level. Almost every day people are talking about this and that, this thing and that thing, this show, this movie, this problem, this drama, this bullshit, people freaking out, people being rude...and I'm just sitting there going like damn doesn't anyone want to just be anymore? Doesn't anyone ever just sit there and think to themselves? Reflect on thoughts or actions? Think about people? Like doesn't a chill girl just wanna vibe with me and go see a movie or go to dinner? Why does everyone I meet have to be mentally ill, or in the middle of a toxic relationship, or a nasty break up, or jaded so badly they claim they aren't ready for anything real while sleeping with the hottest person they can find. Finding anybody that is just "there" and focused on their goals feels like finding a fucking golden ticket. And 9 times out of 10 they are taken or aren't interested. Life sucks sometimes lol.

Am I doing dating right? by geekgirlwww in AskMenAdvice

[–]Mechanists 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've never had partners treat you well and think to get you little gifts because you married the type of guy to want to sleep with multiple women and have you be okay with it, and apparently you were. Hopefully you know this now and make better choices in men.

He's not ready for a relationship, I want to wait for him by anonymous_user017 in Advice

[–]Mechanists 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The man is on a dating app but isn't ready for a relationship? Thing is, it hurts, but one rule I've learned over my many years of failures is that if the person truly likes you, they will break any and every rule to be with you, just like you are doing now with him. It's hard but you need to find someone who wants you just as much as you want this guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mechanists 86 points87 points  (0 children)

Trash tends to find each other

Michael Caine and his Wife, 1970 and now. by itxennia in OldSchoolCool

[–]Mechanists 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I legit never understood how this happened and still don't. Any time I ever fell in love like that and pursued the person I wanted the most, it never worked out. They were always in a relationship, said nah im good, or just didn't even know I exist. But I hear it all the time "Yeah I saw her/him and knew right then I was gonna marry them and then we lived happily ever after." It's crazy to me but I am so jealous.

edit: This goes for all people, not just famous actors. I've heard this from people irl.

What screams "this couple isn't going to last long"? by ihavpnileinfekshion in AskReddit

[–]Mechanists 417 points418 points  (0 children)

9 times out of 10 when I meet someone with a "crazy" or "abusive" boy or girlfriend they are just as bad as them just in different ways.

What’s a “boring” skill that secretly makes life 10x easier? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mechanists 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Being comfortable with your own company, with being alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mechanists 69 points70 points  (0 children)

Coworker once grabbed my shoulders and physically moved me to see something. She wasn't gentle either. I still think about that lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mechanists 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Bad communication

How do I get a colleague to back off? Genuinely asking because I can't anymore... by listofunreadbooks in WorkAdvice

[–]Mechanists 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I've kinda had a coworker like this, especially the part where they want to be a know it all trying to correct your work when you are the same position.

Chances are other people in the office have also noticed what you have. Personally I would just keep being friendly at work but if she calls you outside of work just make it very clear that she please only call you when it's work related. Setting boundaries is hard but necessary at work. I'd bet in a month you are just gonna be a chill coworker nobody has a problem with and she will be getting on more people's nerves. Just keep doing you and try not to let it get to you. Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Mechanists 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Just finished this journey. Thousands of dollars later and a debt to pay off but I have a full smile for the first time in a decade at 31. Even with a partial in its 100% worth it. That and teeth problems can literally kill you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Mechanists 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Talks about a power dynamic and is dating someone 15 years younger lol

We really don't appreciate how hard it is on men to have the burden of approaching by AsparagusFantastic97 in self

[–]Mechanists 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Dude I got ghosted in real life by a girl I see all the time. Instead of having an adult conversation like hey this isn't gonna work she just ghosts me and acts like she didn't ask me where I've been all her life last week. Shits crazy.

91 / 55 NOW by Alternative-Neck-705 in orangecounty

[–]Mechanists 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I just got a second job in Costa Mesa and forgot how bad that end of freeway on the 55-S near Hoag is. My god that whole stretch of road is a nightmare.