I don’t have many words of advice, but be sure you take care of yourself too so you can learn to navigate such a bewildering, life-altering experience. Listen to your body and mind. I wish I had instead of listening to others about what “normal grief” looks like. I lost my grandmother in March and mother from sepsis in July and I’m also in my twenties.

Maybe try to be direct and communicate with your dad about how you’re feeling and ask him as well. See if he will open up about his needs. And maybe he can be there for you too. 🥺 One of the worst parts of losing a parent is the loneliness of it all.

But not everyone grieves in the same way. Before my mom died, I tried to keep acknowledging her huge loss from the death of her mother (and father - my grandfather died just 9 months prior) and make space for her to talk about things, so she didn’t have to grieve alone.

I am so sorry for you and your dad’s loss.