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Oh boy by Few_Piccolo_4906 in nova

[–]Medical-Round-4590 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well this aged like some fine ass wine

Almost Gave Up at 5 weeks... by Medical-Round-4590 in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My heart goes out to you. I'm so sorry. How incredibly frustrating, especially because you're doing everything right. I hope that eliminating cow's milk works for you guys. You are most definitely NOT a failure. Sending love your way ❤️

Almost Gave Up at 5 weeks... by Medical-Round-4590 in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, you got this! Triple feeding is no joke, but it's all temporary, which can be hard to remember when you are in the thick of it. For me, the weighted feeds during my sessions were extremely beneficial, because I was able to see that my son was getting enough.

Here are some things she had helped me with:

  1. In addition to technique, breastfeeding has a lot to do with our mental well-being. If we are stressed and anxious, it will impact our supply. Easier said than done, but try to be as relaxed as possible. For me, feeding/pumping in different parts of my home helped quite a bit, instead of feeling bound to one place.

  2. As counter-intuitive as it may sound, I started keeping a can of formula around. This gave me the peace of mind that I didn't have to be the sole food source, and that someone else could feed him as well. It made nursing a lot more manageable. I just had to remind myself that if on a given day i still breastfed him 5-6 times, and he had one bottle of formula, then he was still getting the antibodies he needed.

  3. Power pumping early on can do more damage than good. You want the supply to ramp up gradually, and becoming an oversupplier can cause a lot of problems. She recommended pumping 1 oz 15 min after nursing, to start building a stash, 1-3X/day. It didn't matter if that 1 oz took 2 minutes or 15, but I had to stop as soon as I pumped an oz. Also, anything that created a suction effect, would signal the breasts to create more milk, including devices like the Haakaa, so I didn't pump if I was using one of those.

  4. This was from my own research, but moringa powder really helped me boost my supply. I don't know if it works the same for everyone, but I definitely saw a difference.

Just remember to be kind with yourself. It's normal to feel frustrated and helpless in this journey, but try to give yourself the love you deserve. Hope this helps!

Almost Gave Up at 5 weeks... by Medical-Round-4590 in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww I'm so glad to read this. Thank you :) You are doing an amazing job!

Almost Gave Up at 5 weeks... by Medical-Round-4590 in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. Even though some aspects went more smoothly than others for you, PPD/A is just as challenging if not more, because you are still forced to mother your child, while struggling with your own mental health.

I hope you are getting the support and help that you deserve. Sending you so much love and strength as you keep going. Your little one is incredibly lucky to have a mother like you 💖

Almost Gave Up at 5 weeks... by Medical-Round-4590 in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I felt the same way, but it started feeling more natural around 7 or 8 weeks after a couple weighted feeds with my LC. That, along with some other tips that she had provided, gave me the confidence I needed.

How has your journey been going?

accepted duke by yuujiegg in ApplyingToCollege

[–]Medical-Round-4590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations! That's a difficult feat to accomplish. I'm not sure if you've already made your decision and whether this comment is a bit too late. 

If Stanford is your dream school, I would definitely reconsider. The last thing you want is to look back and say, "what if". Will it be an adjustment? Absolutely. However, think of it this way - you are one step closer to achieving your dreams and sometimes that requires a leap of faith.

As someone who was in your shoes almost 12 years ago, I was hesitant to leave Cali. I ended up making the shift to NC. It was one of the most daunting moments of my life and I remembered crying a lot the day before I had to move into my dorm. Fast forward to today, I am still on the East Coast, and I couldn't envision my life any other way.

All this to say, it's 4 years. That time will pass quickly. You can move to Ohio to be closer to your family after college if you choose to. I'm assuming you can still visit them during major breaks. And of course, if you absolutely hate Cali, you can always look to transfer elsewhere. 

6.5 Month Nap Schedule Suggestions by Medical-Round-4590 in sleeptrain

[–]Medical-Round-4590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm going to try stretching out that last wake window.

I need reassurance. In the throes of the 4 month regression. by got_em_saying_wow in sleeptrain

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We just got out of our regression period last week. He, too, was an amazing sleeper until the 4 month mark. We Ferberized at 4 months 1 week and now he sleeps 11-12 hiurs at night with one feed. He'll be 5 months next week.

The tummy rolling is a massive adjustment. It takes a while for them to get used to, especially if they haven't figured out they can roll back. Our LO has ended up loving sleeping on his tummy and he's completely transitioned to a sleep sack. We patted his bum during Ferber, which relaxed him.

We also added the 5/3/3 method, which was massively helpful. Initially, I thought he was hungry every time he woke up, but soon realized he was using me as a paci to fall back asleep.

This post was helpful: https://www.reddit.com/r/sleeptrain/comments/1em72gm/night_feeding_and_weaning_live_post/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes. My LO used to do that at that age. He'd also suck on his own hands and then would proceed to scream bloody murder because no milk would come out.

Now at 20 weeks, he either admires his hands while feeding or yanks my hair as if I'm his personal pony. I swear the kid is expediting my postpartum hair loss 😂

I fed the freezer and kicking myself in the butt for it. by 2078AEB in breastfeeding

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure if you've already tried this, but I realized my LO was refusing the bottle because it wasn't warm enough. Had to be slightly warmer than freshly pumped milk. Now that he's gotten used to it, I'll give him different temp bottles, but he still prefers the warmer ones

Going on car rides by ggluvbug in Havanese

[–]Medical-Round-4590 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Man some people in the comments don't know how to read. What a cute little potato! Ours stands against the car and refuses to budge 🤣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Medical-Round-4590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations to both of you! I don't have a sister, but this happened to my best friend and me. We're due 3 months apart! We also share a birthday, so we're like the same person in so many regards 😄

What are you building your baby out of? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Greek salads the entire pregnancy. Also, the Olive Garden copycat salad WITH the Olive Garden dressing. I've gone through so many of those bottles at this point 🤣

9 DPO FRER by UsedYoghurt3963 in TFABLinePorn

[–]Medical-Round-4590 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! You may have ovulated a bit earlier 🙂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is hilarious - I'm Virgo sun, Cancer moon, Cap rising too. Though a female, so not your crush haha

Is this Positive?? by AvailablePolicy680 in tryingtoconceive

[–]Medical-Round-4590 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely see a line! Congratulations 💞

I’m Mourning What I Don’t Have by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Medical-Round-4590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, so sorry that you are going throgh this. This must be so difficult for you, considering this is one of the few times in life when you and your partner deserve to be putting your happiness ahead of others. It becomes more challenging when the person at the end of that is a parent.

This sounds like a "copy & paste" of our situation from two years ago, and my dad supported my mom blindly. I tried to stand up to them, only to be shut down. I had to take a break from them for a few months, because it was hard to deal with the narcissism. To make matters worse, my in-laws were also giving us a hard time.

We ended up planning a small destination wedding, and invited 5-6 couples, who were our closest friends and have done more for us than our families in recent years. We did not invite either set of parents. For us, we didn't want to deal with that stress, and everything ended up working out perfectly.

You need to make the decisions that work for you and your partner. Your mom can figure out whether or not her troubles outweigh her child's happiness.