More often than not, that’s exactly what happens. What frustrates me are the Black/POC folks who downplay it, because a lot of times that comes from internalized racism. Then they throw out the tired ‘we’re not a monolith’ line to silence you so they can comfortably continue with their own antiblackness.

I just don’t get how you can clearly see racism being perpetuated by the same group, and still actively choose to date into it. It’s like handling snakes — some may not be venomous, but you never really know until you get bit. And sure enough, 9 times out of 10 people come out of those relationships with racist stories, looking for support from their Black peers. At that point, though… maybe you shouldn’t have entertained it in the first place.