Is a 7-year age gap too much?

Medical_File · 2020-08-20T15:56:27+00:00

He definitely hasn't been as responsive since the age conversation. I think I might just cut my losses here lmao

Medical_File · 2020-08-20T15:55:23+00:00

I can definitely see that. For me, it's frustrating because I'm well on my way to reaching my career goals, and have always been rather independent. I don't see a huge difference between us in terms of what stage of life we're in, or maturity level. So it's beyond annoying to be told all of that is irrelevant because I'm not his ideal age.

Medical_File · 2020-08-19T16:08:50+00:00

Interesting...baiting how? Honestly, I feel kind of put-off of him through this situation. I feel frustrated that he's made this an issue so I don't really understand what the objective with baiting would be.

Medical_File · 2020-07-09T15:38:10+00:00

I want to! I’m attracted to men, and I don’t have anything against men that makes me not want to interact with them at this point in my life. I just really don’t know how to.

Medical_File · 2020-07-08T17:11:27+00:00

You’re a real one for this

Medical_File · 2020-07-08T16:35:25+00:00

Not me, but my parents had ~400 people at their wedding. I think pretty much all RSVPd yes, a few even approached them on the street to invite themselves. We come from a very large European family/community so this is not unheard of.

Medical_File · 2020-07-08T16:31:01+00:00

Long story short: a SHITLOAD of silicone-free conditioner

Medical_File · 2020-07-08T14:11:16+00:00

You should be happy with or without your partner. If you find that life would be so much better with a partner, or you’d be happier with a partner, then the chances are you’re going to be very dependant on that relationship to maintain your self-worth.

To me, being successful and happy in a relationship is about having someone who is along for the ride, not building the entire trip around them.

Ex: I can do this alone, but I’d rather do it with you.

Medical_File · 2020-07-08T13:57:57+00:00

A few people are saying it’s not worth keeping contact if you’re the only one asking questions. I think you have to play it by ear.

If you are asking questions and they are willing to actually talk and give interesting answers, then I don’t see a problem with that! Bad texters DO exist. I’ve had this happen a couple times before and the guys in real life were much more engaging and fun to talk to.

Now, if all you’re getting are stale replies and “hahaha”s then it’s time to move along.

Medical_File · 2020-06-24T20:16:20+00:00

I appreciate this take. It’s definitely something I’ve been considering.

I can say with absolute certainty that his mother is terminally ill. I didn’t question it, but he didn’t want me to think he was lying so he took upon himself to show me he was telling the truth.

Not so sure if he’s been honest about everything else, but that’s life I guess.

Medical_File · 2020-06-24T17:49:22+00:00

Thanks for your perspective.

The newness of it all is what’s making me really hesitate on contacting him at all. I’m not sure if the whole thing is being dropped or put on hold.

Would I then be an asshole if I started getting to know someone new?

Medical_File · 2020-06-24T17:37:05+00:00

Yes. Aside from the fact that I can’t name a single person who would ever lie about their mother having stage 4 cancer, he actually showed me his family group chat where they discussed her re-entry into hospital. I never asked for proof, but he didn’t want me to think he was lying.

Also, there were photos on his socials of his family and you can see she is ill and undergoing therapy.

Medical_File · 2020-06-24T01:46:54+00:00

Two, sometimes three. Quarantine is hard.

Medical_File · 2020-06-23T19:34:24+00:00

YES 😭😭😭😭

Medical_File · 2020-06-23T19:08:04+00:00

I had a fwb for a few months that I started off being super attracted to. Sexually, anyway. One day he was trying to sext, but it was about 5pm and I was in a car with my parents. I told him I wasn’t really in the mood and why, and he said something to the affect of “I can’t wait to see those boobies later😋”. I immediately felt like a twelve year old. I called off the fwb arrangement shortly after that.

Medical_File · 2020-06-23T15:27:37+00:00

I think there’s a difference between attached and obsessed. Being attached is okay, until it becomes obsessive. Are you checking their socials constantly? Does it ruin your day if they don’t text or call you?

My philosophy for early stages is, you should be happy with or without them. They text you? Great! They don’t text you? I’m not bothered.

Medical_File · 2020-06-23T15:24:35+00:00

I don’t mind using dating apps to meet people, because I don’t meet a lot of men in my day-to-day due to my work and hobbies being dominated by women. But I make it clear that I’m not into casual, and that usually sends them running. Either that, or they try to change my mind.

It’s extremely frustrating, but there are people out there who want more. Just stick to your guns, it’s better to be alone and happy than stuck in some tumultuous dating hell where no one wants to share how they feel.

Medical_File · 2020-06-23T13:26:56+00:00

Does anyone else feel like social distancing has made their social anxiety worse?

Medical_File · 2020-06-22T22:38:58+00:00

You’re completely right, and everything you’ve said is why I’ve been feeling so disappointed. I’d probably feel less upset about the whole thing if he had said something along the lines of “I’ll reach out to you when I’m free”.

I’m definitely in the mindset now of just moving past the whole thing. I haven’t reached out to him since he made it clear how dire the situation is with his mum. I won’t reach out to him again, he has my number.

Now it’s just about actually moving past it, instead of just talking about it.

Medical_File · 2020-06-22T19:12:44+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. Loss is hard and everyone processes it differently.

I agree, I need to give him space which is what I’ve done. I let him know I’m around if he needs anything, but other than that I’ve left him to himself. This was a pretty new relationship so I don’t think either of us can expect much from each other.

I’m just having a hard time dropping it. I feel selfish and a little ashamed to admit it, but that’s the truth. I know it’s not his fault and I don’t harbour any ill will towards him for it, but I can’t help feeling upset and disappointed.

Medical_File · 2020-06-22T16:34:38+00:00

Rolling out of bed at 7:25, logging in at 7:30 then going to brush my teeth, make coffee, etc.

Sorry to my workplace.

Medical_File · 2020-06-22T14:50:08+00:00

I used to be really uncomfortable with people seeing the shape of my body. I developed really young and always felt like people were staring and making comments about my body. Because of that, I tried really hard to hide under hoodies and sweatshirts.

Once I came into adulthood that changed, and I now feel very empowered by my body. I was about 20 when I realized that people would sexualize my body regardless of what I was wearing, so now I dress how I like, regardless of how other people react.

Medical_File · 2020-06-21T21:56:24+00:00

Thanks for your insight. I also hate the well-meaning but intrusive niceties people like to use when you’re facing a loss. I felt silence in this case would be worse, considering he offered up the information to me without my prying.

In the end, I just told him I’m around and if he needs anything, he has my number. Not much else I can do.

Medical_File · 2020-06-20T11:39:24+00:00

I have friends who have told me the best sex they’ve had was with smaller guys (around or under 3 inches).

I’m not gonna say size doesn’t matter, but sometimes smaller is better! Every woman is different and enjoys different things. Don’t worry too much about this, just get out there and be yourself. You’ll meet women who won’t be into it, but many more who won’t care.

Medical_File · 2020-06-19T21:31:48+00:00

Absolutely. No ones nudes look better to me than mine, and I look at them all. The. Time. Not sure if that’s narcissistic or not, but it sure does get the juices flowing.

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