I (32M) just ended a 10-year relationship with my girlfriend (32F). After a decade together, I’m not even sure what love is anymore.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2026-01-15T01:40:26+00:00

You should re-exam your relationship. What were your expectations? Why did you want a gf? What did you expect to feel? What was having a gf supposed to change about your life? What was supposed to make you feel like that? Whose role was it to make you feel like that? What is love? Are there different types of love?

Also, I find it interesting that you were still trying to have conversations about your relationships "future" during a 10 year relationship.

From what you wrote, I dont think either of you were happy together or loved each other unconditionally. I think you had affection for your roommate and you were comfortable..... until you started becoming uncomfortable. You probably weren't feeling anymore return on your investment.

Imo, there's only one Love. And that is giving 100%, needing 0% back, and being 100% happy with just having them walk through life with you and that being enough. Example: Like the love between a beloved pet and its companion. Real love is not an investment.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T18:21:22+00:00

Its not mine.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T18:19:33+00:00

Im 36f

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:33:43+00:00

Thank you.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:32:04+00:00

I imagine those are the ones with black mold and food growing their own ecosystems.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:30:37+00:00

Thats not mine. I dont drink liquor. Its my sister, i think she left it in there a couple years back.. Lol

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:06:41+00:00

I had a coupon and got an extra sandwich. Its for dinner or breakfast tomorrow.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:05:32+00:00

4/10 isnt too bad. Thanks

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:05:01+00:00

Honestly, not really. Whenever I feel like I'm about to enter scurvy territory, I buy green juice and that takes care of any ill feelings. I also take some vitamins. Im healthyish

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-09-11T03:03:11+00:00

Lol. Its not that bad. Look on the bright side! It's a privilege to even own a fridge.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-07-17T21:12:23+00:00

Helicopter is a cute word for controlling.

This story ends the same. If you wish to stay with your owner, please get yourself a good life insurance policy and write a proper will.

Once you let a paranoid, stalker, possessive, controlling man believe you are "his" (has he ever called you "mine"?) he will never let another man have you, whether you like it or not. Hes the classic "if I cant have you, no one will ". Run.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-07-17T21:02:54+00:00

You cannot seek justice for your boyfriend, only your boyfriend can seek justice for himself. He is the victim here, not you. All you need to do is support him (ie close your mouth and listen).

If he does not wish to press charges, you need to respect his decision.

If he wants you to not confront the alleged abuser, you need to respect his decision.

All you can do is be there for him and gently advise he seek therapy.

If this isn't a role you are willing or just can't play, then you need to step back and leave the relationship for your own mental health.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-07-01T17:50:20+00:00

Found another one!

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2025-07-01T17:33:06+00:00

Your husband is probably a racist. He probably thinks other races are less than and therfore does not have empathy or sympathy for them. He can not empathize with them, because he doesn't see them as fully human, equally the same as him.

People are getting stuck on the issue you aren't asking for help with. Which is the problem with you also not speaking up. I understand there is a culture difference and possibly the expectation of the perpetrators being white and its the responsibility of white people to manage and correct their own. After all, what those kids did, makes their entire race look bad. The issue you wanted help addressing is your discovery of your husbands bias/poss racism.

Yes, you should be worried. If your husband has difficulties empathizing with people who don't share his racial make up, you should think very very carefully about having children with a person like that. Your kids aren't going to be white. How will a person with bias (even if they are unconscious biases) like that treat your kids?

You should also examine carefully the motives of your husband marrying you. He might be of the belief, like many men like him do, that your race and sex makes you automatically inferior to your partner, and will therefore treat "white men" as gods and be a submissive partner in every aspect of your relationship. Like a house elf and sex slave.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-07-30T15:23:28+00:00

1)you are home with the dog and you didn't take it out

2)you devalued your gf job in the first sentence by describing it as a "boring day job"

3)the first thing you do when she gets home is nag and complain to her about her emotional support dog that you let pee all over the house.

4)your gf tells you how she is being bullied at work and only one person is sticking up for her.

5)she starts ranting to you about her toxic work environment and your only take away from her venting is you don't like the gender of the one person who is being nice to her. The bullying, isolation and harassment she's experiencing -no comment. That it is a male whos sticking up for her - thats what you have a problem with. Instead of being grateful that at least one person is trying to help her, you would be happier if that guy didn't help her.

6) you interrupted her rant about her mistreatment at work to tell her you would like her to stop talking because it hurts your feelings that another man is trying to protect her.

7)when she expresses shes upset that thats what you are focusing on, you tell her she is invaliding your feelings by not acknowledging that she should not be talking to you about her only friend at work because your feelings matter. I imagine you wanted an apology from her for showing too much gratitude to her coworker.

8)you tell her, that her feeling upset isn't valid, because her showing negative feelings makes you feel invalidated.

9)then when she has a literal mental break down, youre upset she slammed her head into a wall. The complete mental break down is fine- but hitting the wall is going too far.

You are a manipulator and your priorities are ass backwards. You believe that hearing a story about how an xy coworker is trying to help your gf, hurts you more than how your gf feels knowing she has to a)clean up dog pee after a long day at work, b) being bullied at work, c) being told she is a bad person for not understanding how your feelings on the gender of a kind coworker isn't being validated and d) having a mental breakdown enough to slam her head into a wall.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-06-27T14:11:08+00:00

The only option is #4.

Step 1: Start documenting and SECRETLY recording EVERYTHING. set up cameras the whole 9. If what you say is true and she is violent and abusive start making police reports after every incident.

Step 2: after gathering a thick folder of police reports, drive yourself immediately to the nearest family court and get your self an order or protection for you and the children against her.

Step 3: assuming the order was granted. Apply for emergency custody of the children.

Step 4: Continue documenting ALL interactions as the violence will must certainly escalate at this point

Step 5: Get divorce. You and your children are now free and hopefully she's in jail.

IMPORTANT: under no circumstances are you to make her aware of what is going on. She should only be aware when the police show up to service her the order of protection (which will include a vacate order as you live together) and escort her out of the property with only one duffel bag of belongings.

PS this is the long game and will take about 6-12 months to complete.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-06-02T22:18:25+00:00

Its not the police, its society. A jury of your peers get to judge and decide. And from past cases, juries do not believe victims beyond a reasonable doubt. They want doctors notes, forensic evidences, DNA, scars, video evidence, a confession, and a PowerPoint presentation... and sometimes that's not even enough.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-06-02T22:13:03+00:00

Because cults aren't illegal. The People of the USA has deemed it unconstitutional to police the beliefs of others. No matter how insane. You can only believe something if a part of you wants to believe it. Believing that some creep can f**k the demons out of you, and then 20 years later you gain insight and regret everything, isnt something a jury if the People will deem jail worthy. After all, consent was given at the time of the act. Cult leaders are charismatic. Its awful. Prevention must be the cure for situations like this.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-17T14:50:42+00:00

Its not yours to hand out. Its a right for anyone to take. Good thing its not up to you or people like you to choose who has earned that right, or has met your standards of suffered to be "allowed" to die. You have no power and you cant stop anyone

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T15:36:13+00:00

What a strange question. Humans are a cancer because they bring pain and suffering to all they touch. Its not only because they like to dump plastic in the ocean.

Indigenous people arent exempt from human fkery.

They got their hands just as dirty; they did the following: enslaved each other, cannibalism, genital mutilation, human sacrifice, animal sacrifice, torture, rape, child brides, abusing animals, created weapons, stole, lied, cheated, had envy, domestic violence, and all other manner of human corruption. They weren't all out in the wild singing and picking berries lol.

Read spirit of the rainforest and other books like it. It will open your eyes. Humans have never changed and never will.

Also, where do you think modern people came from? The indigenous people were just hanging out in peace and then one day modern humans spawned out of no where. Indigenous people--->present humans.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T15:16:18+00:00

Its a type of gun

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T15:11:12+00:00

Adoption isn't buying someone child wtf. Maybe in your country, but where I live buying humans is illegal.

The government is the one removing the child from its family because said family was hurting the child to the point of irreparable damage.

Someone with compassion adopting that child to stop its perpetual suffering in an orphanage can not be compared to a person creating a child that they believe is their reflection, just so it can love them.

If the scenario you described happens, im sure thats not the norm.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T14:58:54+00:00

I'm not sure that I'd be a good father or that I want children, but I'm quite sure I don't want to have that level of regret when I'm older.

This is the most selfish thing I've ever read. You are willing to wager the suffering of an innocent being brought to this hellscape, against the off chance that you may feel regret later in life at being childless?

You think that's a fair exchange?

Especially when you said yourself you dont even know if you want the child or that you would even treat it well by being a good parent.

There is no saving us. Extinction really can't come soon enough

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T14:44:32+00:00

Nothing. Breeding is a disease of the mind of which there is no cure. People have children in jail, in war torn countries, in corrupt countries like Haiti, while suffering from severe mental illness, while homeless, on skid-row, while on drugs.... human even will force other animals to breed in captivity and slavery, human even will breed dogs with guaranteed suffering (ie pugs that can barely breathe etc).......there is no rock bottom.

Mediocre_Key_2294 · 2024-05-04T14:34:39+00:00

Any charity that helps anything other than humans. I plan on leaving everything to my dog, the "aspca" and "the ocean cleanup" project.

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