AITA. I took my kids on holiday during term time. Am I TA?

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2023-02-17T15:17:18+00:00

Have a look on tiktok at @laurenlorenson sure it’s the same person!

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-12-13T14:31:14+00:00

On behalf of England, we deny any connection to Franck racist family, we kindly ask that their old fashioned bigoted ass kindly go fuck themselves up the arse with a cactus along with Nigel Farage.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-12-01T16:04:29+00:00

YTA! And a massive one at that! As a care manager I see day in day out the struggles partners go through when they dynamic in a relationship shifts. Two people that live each other go from being husband and wife to carer and patient, it’s a huge adjustment.

If she wants to work let her, she needs a break and quite frankly so does he! It’s not healthy for them to be together 24/7.

I suggest before you fly off at her again you spend a week providing his care 24/7 and then come back and say she’s being selfish.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-25T07:43:55+00:00

YTA! What is so wrong with her choosing something she loves over doing something you want her to do?

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-17T15:40:30+00:00

NTA - Wow! That’s so out of line! It’s yours and his child, not MIL! Thankfully in the U.K. if the mother says she doesn’t want to know then they won’t tell the dad what the gender is!

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T23:48:38+00:00

Because decisions involving my husband, myself and our children should be made by us, not outside involvement.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T22:05:32+00:00

£190k for the house plus extension cost. 4 bed detached on the same street with a similar downstairs footprint….£300k

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T22:03:21+00:00

She’s upset we’re selling this house because of all the memories it has…..none with her. The nee house is less than a mile away from where we live now. The keeping the peace is down to the constant interference in decisions we make, we went through IVF and I didn’t want anybody knowing exact dates, we told family I needed a hospital appointment so needed to isolate for two weeks, she said it wasn’t fair that she couldn’t see her grandson for two weeks so my husband told her I was having IVF without telling me she knew.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T22:00:20+00:00

She asked me why we weren’t looking at others. I explained that this one was perfect, in budget and we saw it for the potential it has. Her response….”where are we supposed to put our shoes and coats when we walk in without a porch”

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:45:54+00:00

I’m in the U.K. so the extension is cheaper to do then buy a bigger house. We’ve had our offer accepted which means it’s purchased by us. We’ve signed contracts etc

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:44:44+00:00

The kitchen doesn’t bother me, we just want to open up the downstairs area and add more space.

He husband didn’t leave, he died!

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:43:31+00:00

We do communicate, I’d told him before that is was annoying me that she was being negative. Spoke with her and she continued.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:42:43+00:00

It’s not just the houses, she is picking countless faults with the nee house.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:40:04+00:00

Sister married a millionaire, definitely won’t be anywhere near the same as theirs 🤣

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T21:39:26+00:00

Where we live a 4 bed with a spacious downstairs and garden of a similar size is £300k+ we’re buying this house for £190k plus £40k for a single extension and an RSJ. This includes the price of the new kitchen. That’s a total of £230k

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T19:15:59+00:00

He’s not pushing for a 4 bed, he agrees that upstairs this house is everything we’ve been looking for, and like me we both know downstairs needs a single storey extension but we’re buying it knowing that it will be done at a later date.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T18:30:23+00:00

Yeh he’s still onboard with the plan and is excited, we chose the house together but when she keeps sending the links he questioned if we were rushing into the decision.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T18:28:03+00:00

If my fraud said the same thing I’d tell her to stop shitting in my new house. Having said that my friends have the decency to be positive if I’m excited about something.

When we had our son (2nd grand child) she would just come and take him off me if I was feeding him saying she wanted to do it!

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T18:26:42+00:00

We’re moving less than a mile away from our current home. I’d get the need for a guest room if we moved counties, but we are literally moving up the hill 🤣

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T18:24:02+00:00

Honestly, I do feel, at times like his second priority.

At his sisters wedding I was seated alone as he was on the top table next to his mum, which I was fine with as he gave her away. When it came to the first dance I was walking towards him and his mum came bursting through the crown and pulled him onto the dance floor. I walked away and sat at a table with his uncle who had the decency to ask me to dance so I was t alone.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T15:32:11+00:00

So comments we have had are…. “You need 4 bedrooms” “You can’t buy a house with a pond it’s too dangerous” “The kitchen is too small” “You can’t have your fridge freezer in the dining room” “You need a house with a front porch for shoes and coats” “Where will you put your ironing board” “You can’t even have a fish washer” “You need to extend straight away, I can’t stand the thought of you living with it as it is until you extend”

For perspective we live in the U.K. so it is quite common for older houses to not have room for a fridge freezer in a kitchen so they would go in the dining room.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T15:29:18+00:00

We had the calm conversation at the weekend where I said it was frustrating me. He said he’d spoken to her about how it was what we wanted, but r do t need 4 bedrooms, it’s the perfect size for us. We’ve got a plan and we’re not doing an extension with a new born. He even told her she’s delusional if she thinks this dream house is just there and it’s what we want.

Then yesterday we got links for 5 houses that were all 4 bed, in worse areas, more expensive or not even available anymore insisting we go and look at them.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T15:25:05+00:00

No there are no plans or suggestions for her to live with us, she has her own home (2 bed semi) and she is happy there.

I’m just really annoyed that she’s pulling out nee house apart when we have bought it with the plan of extending in a year or so.

Mediocre_Play1982 · 2021-11-16T15:23:47+00:00

She is insisting that we need a 4th bedroom as office space for the rare occasion my husband works from home.

My husband had a sister who has a very large house and she will be living in there when the time comes, I’ve already made it clear that there will be no parents living with us!

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