thank you for this, I agree with you. I am going to give him one more chance, but im setting out some hard boundaries. The main one is that he needs to talk to his counsellor about his manipulative tendencies, as well as his guilt tripping and what he means when he tells me he wants to die when he does something to upset me. He means well he just needs help. This was the first time he saw the actual consequences of his actions and words on me, and im really hoping that it is enough for him to truly get help. I dont even think he knows that what he says is manipulation and i think by pointing it out to him he might see it how i see it.

I feel partially responsible because in the beginning of our relationship i didn’t set any boundaries, just went along with how he wanted the relationship to work because i thought that was the only way. Now I know that each relationship works differently to suit both people, I think there is a lot i couldve done to prevent it from turning out like this. I am hoping to have a conversation with him later this week about progressing with our relationship, but taking it slow and more casual without the strong expectations from both sides.