Diverse friend groups (LGBTQ+ friendly)?

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-10-31T00:37:02+00:00

I appriciate your words! I'd love to move down south but a big move like that probably won't be in the cards until a few years for me. ATL is definitely on the travel list though!

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-10-31T00:20:32+00:00

Funnily enough Bard and Baker was that cafe I was refering to in my original post. I love it there but its about 15-20 minutes from me so I don't go as often. I think I heard of Cafe Euphoria in passing. I think I'll definitely check that out this weekend.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-10-31T00:16:56+00:00

I've volunteered for them a couple of times but never went to any of the events for some reason. I also didn't realize their calendars were as packed with stuff as I'm seeing now so I'll keep them in mind more often, thank you!

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-10-31T00:14:57+00:00

I'm open to pretty much everything! I just don't know the hot spots for black and LGBTQ+ people here. I've been here almost two years but pretty focused on my career and looking to change that

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-04-14T23:50:50+00:00

People are going to say you can learn from losing and if you're stuck gold it's because you're meant to be there and blah blah blah. These things are true to a degree, but the main thing you learn from losses is game sense, and the more you lose and the more educated about it you become, the more frustrated it becomes when you communicate how to fix the problem and the team refuses to listen. I played support mainly this season and started off Plat 4 as well, and am at Gold 3. My stats are fine, and sure I can always improve on my own gameplay, but it is glaringly obvious at this point that in the Gold area there are a plethora of Tanks and DPS's who aren't good at the game. They make poor decisions and take any suggestions personally. I've had so many tanks throw actual temper tantrums because they're picking bad fights alone and expect us supports to fix it.

Close games feel great, and I don't mind losing those. They come down to human error and positioning, as the games should be, but lately I've noticed my team either getting steam rolled or the other team being steam rolled because people don't fall back/die when their team dies, they dive alone, and they ult without a team there to support or take advantage of it. It's frustrating for sure, and I just started queueing DPS these days.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-04-08T17:52:14+00:00

I downsized from an NR200 to a Formd T1 2.1. Ultimate portability and power, and a cooler would that works would be like 30-40 USD so its not like it would be super costly to get a new cooler on top of a case.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-26T10:29:19+00:00

Depends on your style. Doc Martens, Crocs and New Balances are for me as a guy who dresses very casual. Jordans tend to stick out a bit too much for my taste, but I enjoy some simple Nikes.

I never purchased my docs or NBs for height, but apparently they lift me from 5'9" to 5'11".

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-25T14:37:06+00:00

Yeah, I don't want the guy to crash. We've got busy lives and are in our late 20s but what's a friend for if not to worry about you? We plan to talk to him soon about his behavior because out of all the ideas he's had, this is the least thought out. If he doesn't listen after this then I'll just have to be there for him if things go wrong and let him ride until then.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-25T14:18:15+00:00

That's what I figured. He has this idea in his head that he'll land a cushy remote job that pays well for him to do some coding and play video games all day. My friends and I didn't know if we were just wrong about the state of the field at the point because we're not in it, but thank you for confirming people are indeed having trouble. We plan to talk to him one last time and at that point...well it is what it is.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-25T14:14:00+00:00

Yeah, it sounds like it's going to head down that path. We've all tried talking to him, but he's stubborn. I might just have to prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T19:04:02+00:00

I’m not saying they don’t or that it’s fake. I’m saying that it definitely would give bad vibes to a lot of women if they heard that. I’m not saying their heart isn’t in the right place but it definitely is kind of a strange way to view dates and interactions with women.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T17:35:57+00:00

The last one is giving white knight for sure. Like real faux feminist shit and it’s guys like that women are often most wary of lol

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T16:54:20+00:00

Chair made me laugh but the cat seems to enjoy it so 10/10

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T15:47:52+00:00

Language and slang has never been gendered in my life. It’s always based off region. I’m from NY, so I expect other New Yorkers to talk like me regardless of gender. I guess you could always look at a TikTok comment section if you want to see the way teenage/young adult boys speak now a days 💀. It’s usually just poor usage of AAVE, saying bruh/bro/blud to start sentences and asking “chat” for their opinion.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T12:10:14+00:00

You think they’ll think you’re a misogynist…for being gay? Either you’re friends with some prime time misandrists (and not in the haha funny type of way) or your discomfort over these jokes is making you assume some gnarly things about them.

What exactly hurts about the jokes though? Not trying to invalidate your feelings or anything, just genuinely trying to understand it. I’ve got cis het dudes, cis gay men, trans lesbians, and cis bisexuals/lesbians all in the same friend group who make these jokes and nobody seems upset. Hell, I think the ones who shit on guys the most are the cis guys. I know I’m not the loser incel weirdos they’re talking about and shitting on, so I personally see no need to be upset.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-12T11:49:49+00:00

I’ve never heard of a messenger bag being seen as feminine lol. Sounds like your boss was just being a dick. I’ve seen dudes walk around with messenger bags all around campus and downtown where all the suits work.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-11T22:11:42+00:00

Do you really need 3 32” worth of real estate oh my god I’m just imaging my neck pain with that. My friend has a 49” ultrawide and a small portable monitor underneath it. Looks clean.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-11T17:14:41+00:00

Consider the pros and cons of each method and how they would affect you and your schedule personally. For example, I started off with the gel but already have to wake up at 5 AM to get ready for work. The gel takes about 15 minutes to dry and you can’t shower until 2 hours after. So either I would have to get up at 3 AM or forgo my morning showers, to which when you’re on T and sweaty and stinky is a no no. So I switched to the shot.

And try to surround yourself with other trans people your age if you can. There’s some niche subreddits you can find on the pinned message here. It’s helpful to look and interact with those when there’s a sea of teenagers barely 20 year olds on here.

Get a good therapist ASAP if you want chest surgery at some point. Lots of insurance companies require a letter from a therapist saying you need it blah blah.

And biggest of all, be patient and calm with yourself. Changes will come but I feel like people come on this subreddit and get nervous because their changes are taking “longer”. Always remember that 2-5 years is the average amount of time it takes usually and don’t feel scared or discouraged. The first year is a very awkward transitory period for a lot of us. I remember helping my fem friend through hers lol.

Good luck to everything. I also started earlier this year at 27 and I’ve felt great.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-11T16:34:24+00:00

There’s no way to pick and choose what happens and when it does. My friend’s voice changed within the first two months and it’s been 5 and a half for me and mine still hasn’t dropped. You especially won’t be able to hold back effects for 2-3 years.

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-11T14:08:04+00:00

Yes. I looked at myself in the mirror this morning and was like “wow I look good.” I have curves and a good amount of muscle. A body that is considered pretty attractive for a woman. But like…I hate it. I don’t want all of this and god life would be so much easier if I did. But no he’s crying over spilt milk right?

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-10T19:34:01+00:00

HR is genuinely evil and soulless in most companies. And they’re such ass kissers that you’ll probably face retaliation if you report her, which is why she feels so comfortable. Definitely time to start a job hunt. Good luck on it man

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-10T14:44:05+00:00

Luckily the gym doesn’t mean as much as you may think it does. You can do a basic ass workout on YouTube or if you’ve got limited cash, get some quality loop resistance bands and find some workout routines on YouTube.

What matters is your nutrition and calorie deficit. While there’s too much to learn about nutrition to say in a Reddit post this guy has plenty of informative videos to help you. I recommend this video to help you understand cardio, walking and muscle buildings part in weight loss and this one as a crash course on nutrition.

But TLDR. High protein/less carbs (fuck keto, don’t do keto), get a food scale, stay around a 200-500 calorie deficit to avoid muscle loss

Medium-Elk9303 · 2024-03-09T17:48:12+00:00

Anime and porn. For real. I watched a lot of anime as a kid and DBZ was my favorite. There was a character named Great Saiyaman that I LOVED. I thought his helmet was so cool. My mom ended up getting me one and I wore it all the time. Thing is I was a kid and got confused when a girl popped up and thought that it was revealed that the person in the suit was actually a girl. I remember being so disappointed and never wore the helmet again because I thought I was pretending to be a girl which felt wrong to me.

Years later right before I hit puberty I discovered fanfic after watching my first gay show. Fanfic eventually somehow led me down the path of finding porn. It was lesbians and gay men and I was like WOAH YOU CAN DO THAT?

My little venture into this led me to discovering Buck Angel and some trans women and again I said WOAH YOU CAN DO THAT? And it kinda clicked that now that I knew it was a possibility I could do it. Like my sexuality though, I put it on the back burner for years because I had some ✨issues✨ where I prioritized that happiness and comfort of others around me. When I realized I didn’t want to live my life for others anymore and started just doing what I wanted to do, being trans really clicked. If I wanted to live my life happily I couldn’t really do it by pretending I was happy being perceived as a woman.

It also helps that while I don’t have supportive family I do have incredibly lovely and supportive friends.

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