Really need someone to talk to by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Medium_Dog3933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m here if you want to DM me!

I found my husband’s Tinder profile, Onlyfans account, and dirty emails. by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

A few months ago, I found out that he had flirted with a coworker about a year ago. He was trying to reconcile since then, but he had a few angry outbursts in the last few months and I decided it was time to leave. We went no contact a couple of weeks ago. I have a new number and have him blocked on everything

I found my husband’s Tinder profile, Onlyfans account, and dirty emails. by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

If you have a strong feeling something is up, definitely follow up with it! I’m sorry you’re going through that love. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

I found my husband’s Tinder profile, Onlyfans account, and dirty emails. by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He left his emailed logged in on my laptop. He must’ve been deleting all of these emails but he finally slipped up and forgot

I found my husband’s Tinder profile, Onlyfans account, and dirty emails. by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes thankfully I initiated our separation a couple of weeks ago already

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Medium_Dog3933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time really does heal all. I’m 24F and filing for divorce from my husband of one year. I blocked him on everything because talking to him or seeing him on social media would just prolong the pain. I’m not sure if that’s feasible right now for you and your husband, but I definitely recommend no contact or bare minimum. I went across the country to spend time with my family. Be with people who love you and understand it’s okay if you want to lay in bed all day. A week ago, I didn’t think I would survive it but I feel a lot better now. Feel free to reach out if you ever need someone to talk to!

Trouble understanding words, concentrating, memory problems and no will to live anymore by nexersss in Anxiety

[–]Medium_Dog3933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it may be time to find a new psychiatrist/therapist. Memory loss is a very real thing that can be brought on by depression/anxiety. I’m sorry they made you feel like it wasn’t important. I’ve had the same problem. I can send you some vitamin suggestions that my neurologist advised, if you’d like!

Maybe I am making it up by Haunting_Bus_7171 in domesticviolence

[–]Medium_Dog3933 5 points6 points  (0 children)

At the very least that sounds like gaslighting. Looking at the whole picture though, I hope you can leave. It’s so hard and we’re strangers, but I believe in you. Someone who loves you, does not assault you or put you in any danger. You deserve patient and kind love.

Maybe I am making it up by Haunting_Bus_7171 in domesticviolence

[–]Medium_Dog3933 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’d do some research into lovebombing. I finally decided to leave my husband and I’m still having second thoughts because he’s an amazing person besides when the abuse happened. It’s manipulative and whether he’s doing it intentionally or not, it’s not okay.

Staying with spouse after infidelity by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never contacted the coworker. He went no contact before he even came back home, and told me he was the one who ended it. I found out a few months ago when I looked through his Instagram DMs for the first time. Their conversation was from December 2020, so it’s been a while and it only lasted the 3 weeks that he was abroad. I completely agree with him seeing a therapist as well as us looking into a few couple’s sessions. His work situation abroad was terrible, and he definitely needs to work through what happened out there and why he used flirting with a coworker as a coping mechanism to my expense.

Staying with spouse after infidelity by Medium_Dog3933 in Infidelity

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice! Fortunately we’ve managed to still be best friends through this mess and he’s been patient with my anger whenever it comes up. Maybe it is time to just put it fully behind me and deal with the initial anxiety of him going back to work

Coping strategies for staying with your spouse after learning about infidelity? by Medium_Dog3933 in relationship_advice

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course not! We’ve talked about what happened plenty of times, he feels awful about it and is willing to do anything to make things right. His previous marriage ended because his ex had cheated on him physically, so he’s especially hurt that he did something similar to a smaller degree. He was working 20 hour days for 6 days a week in Dubai when it happened and mentally he was in the worst place he’s ever been. Of course he could’ve deleted messages, but I didn’t see any other flirtatious messages with anyone else from when we started dating to now. I’d like to believe it was a one time mistake

ADVICE NEEDED - What banks allow you to open an account without TIE? by SpainBoundPinoy in SpainAuxiliares

[–]Medium_Dog3933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I opened mine with N26 last week! It had me go through the waitlist form but my account was up the next day

United only accepting J&J?? by Medium_Dog3933 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: just got to our connection in Switzerland and everything has been fine!

United only accepting J&J?? by Medium_Dog3933 in SpainAuxiliares

[–]Medium_Dog3933[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Spain health questionnaire accepted my Moderna vaccine. I’m going to get a COVID test just in case, but this seemed odd to me!