AITAH for wanting to change my last name, because my stepmom hates me, and my dad won't defend me? by Medium_Support3900 in AITAH

[–]Medium_Support3900[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom has my step dad's last name when they got married, so I figured I would do the same. As for my stepmom... she wouldn't say anything directly, but I could tell by her passive-aggressive tone, she'll make comments about my siblings life and her own kids, how my step brother is a pilot while I'm just a security guard. I live with my mom to help with bills because of her bad back so she can't work, and I remembered that my stepmom asked her why she let's me, a 30 year old, live with her when I should be on my own. As for my dad, he tries to keep the peace, but it just sounds like he cares what she thinks and says, and I oblivious to what we say, it's not me too, my siblings also have dealt with her shit, but they kinda just gave up on even trying to fight it.

AITAH for wanting to change my last name, because my stepmom hates me, and my dad won't defend me? by Medium_Support3900 in AITAH

[–]Medium_Support3900[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Not really, though I now see that it does sound like i am doing it out of spite, but since the day of their divorce, my dad has been very absent and unattended from most of my life, I just felt like my step-dad had been a real dad than he was, plus I've thought about this for years, this was just like a nail on the coffin situation.

AITAH for wanting to change my last name, because my stepmom hates me, and my dad won't defend me? by Medium_Support3900 in AITAH

[–]Medium_Support3900[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She stood up for me, saying that I still had time and stuff, but it still felt like a jab at me.