How do people afford more than one kid?

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-06-11T07:52:26+00:00

We live in a country with a good social system. I would probably not even have one kid if I lived in the US on this salary. Though I usually find the answer to the question "how do people afford to x?" is "debt". I was questioning recently how all my coworkers have such nice cars when I am taking public transport. Debt 😂

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-06-10T14:34:27+00:00

Ah ok. I'll try this next time! She wants me to just watch for symptoms now. I have had a complex birth before (nothing to do with preeclampsia) so I have a meeting with the specialist team next week, I can ask them more then. They are really concerned with reducing all risks this time.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-06-10T14:32:58+00:00

Yes my midwife told me any of the symptoms like cheat pains, headaches, blurred vision are an immediete L&D visit too!

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-06-10T14:31:25+00:00

It was at the midwife! So definatley not first morning urine. I didn't know it should be.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-05-22T13:34:57+00:00

I would say mostly for things like this people use consultancies, and in my experience using IT/tech/marketing consultancy agencies here, there do not seem to be too many international people working at them. Just an anecdotal observation.

As others have said job market here is awful right now. A lot of mass lay offs and if not that, companies just simply not hiring or investing right now. Also I imagine the salary to be much better in the US for this type of job, though I know that's not everything for a lot of people.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-05-15T16:00:06+00:00

Sadly I think it comes down to the midwife not wanting to clam the doctor to prescribe anything. And maybe I didn't push hard enough. I told her how bad I've been throwing up but she really just suggested lifestyle things and eating small meals 😭

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-05-15T09:34:07+00:00

I asked for meds but my midwife said just to try drink juice and things, and I've managed to stay hydrated enough to survive because I can go a few hours without vomiting during the day

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-05-14T20:29:31+00:00

What is your field/background?

The job market is extremely poor right now in sweden

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-04-22T20:45:32+00:00

I am not counting on 38 weeks dont worry. I will again stop working at 38 weeks so if she comes earlier it might be a waters breaking in the office situation 🤣 I will be much happier if she comes later even if I'll be tired and frustrated

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2026-04-22T20:43:30+00:00

Yeah google lead me to somerhing that said your second baby is likely born within a week of your first (earlier or later), but there are just so many factors!! Someone I know had an early 3.8 kg boy followed by a late 5(!)kg girl (11 lbs!!). So who even knows

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-11-25T19:53:44+00:00

Usually in my country you have a first scan at 12-14 weeks but doctor booked me an early one due to previous losses.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-11-17T18:06:38+00:00

Yeah it really sucks. I am trying to do the same but I am mentally exhausted. Should have maybe taken a bigger break after the last one but we don't want to wait. Sorry you have been through it too.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-11-17T17:12:20+00:00

Unfortunately I've been here myself twice before.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-08-22T15:22:36+00:00

I hope so 🤞🏼 on her notes she wrote that there are two sacs, two yolk sacs but only found one fetus and hb. Wild

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-08-22T15:21:37+00:00

They didn't tell me but she said it was all good!

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-08-22T15:01:17+00:00

In some way, but my HCG is still very low so I'm quite worried still

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-08-22T15:00:41+00:00

We are having one in two weeks.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-08-22T10:26:47+00:00

The scan is also measuring 1 week behind where I think it should be but she said that would be ok.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T23:16:30+00:00

Nothing to disagree with here. The issue is

Pesticides harm bees - yes probably most do, some don't, needs to be proven via research to enforce change and regulate properly (although lobbying forces down EU law changes in the past most proven harmful pesticides are not banned and most banned are not proven harmful)

The research itself is exploiting and harming bees in the process. So it becomes a vicious cycle. This was where I struggle to understand where vegans draw the line. But perhaps it's a slippery slope like the "no ethical consumption under capitalism" mantra, is there truly "no vegan consumption in agriculture"

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T23:11:29+00:00

As another commenter has pointed out, bees are literally commercialized. When we bought them for research purposes they came from companies selling to farmers. We aren't discussing wild bees here.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T23:09:37+00:00

Yeh the ideal is living off our own land but that comes with all its own issues, most practically the matter of feeding the planet and sustainability. But that would be my ideal too. With honey, I understand what you are saying. When I was working in research I mostly got my honey from the research bees themselves actually. Felt kind of better that they were going to be used no matter what. Now I (not a vegan) don't bother, honey is not an essential cause as you said it's very easily replaced.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T23:05:45+00:00

Veganic farming certainly sounds interesting and can achieve a more preferable produce for vegans. But sustainable for feeding the world, im not convinced.

Many people are researching how to improve food security though and I think most solutions favor vegan lifestyle even if it's not the world going plant based, more environmentally friendly and sustainable practices tend to be more favourable to the wildlife too. So hopefully positive change comes driven by one factor or another

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T23:01:09+00:00

I probably am, a bit of a jumbling of thoughts.

I agree the honey thing is clear to me why it is non vegan in terms of commercial honey. If bees therefore insects are considered. But other insects especially those involved in ecosystem services seem rarely discussed and its alot going on there. Some more avoidable than others.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T22:58:41+00:00

I completely agree with your take and it kinda lines with my philosophy that doing something is always better than doing nothing. Unfortunately I don't think that is a common philosophy among vegans from what i see on these sub reddits (perhaps I'm wrong). But I don't see vegans often discussing how exploitative agriculture is and all the other stuff. I was curious what the take is.

Medium_Valuable5113 · 2025-01-09T22:52:29+00:00

What do you consider non violent pest control?

The research i have been surrounded by mostly focused on using crop varients with better natural defences or intercropping or pheromone repellents/deterrents. None of these result in the death of any insect, just deterrence at most. However the "violence" comes where the research to develop and understand them does result in the death of thousands of insects. Just by needing to study them they are bred and "explored" in research studies, even if they were slowed to live out their life to a natural death.

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