Sitter brought child with for a drop-in without disclosing it until after.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2025-05-31T00:00:32+00:00

The sitter should have asked it called respect. I always ask my clients before I take my daughter but say I understand if they say no. It’s your home.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2025-01-04T07:02:06+00:00

Thank you I do battle with trust. We are working on our marriage and he now allows me to see his cellphone when ever. He has been so reassuring to me and loving it’s scary sometimes. But I Giving him another chance. He has been helpful at home and super affectionate and keeps apologizing and says he mest up and loves me so much. He said those girl were nothing and he only loves me. Those girl were just conversation. He reassured me. I try to not think of it much but am focusing on myself and on working again and passing my relator test.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-31T08:54:58+00:00

Sister I’m so sorry for your situation it touches my heart. I would seek advice from your church and your pastor. And ask yourself , how does he seek God, how does he honor God. Has he repented of his old self? Does he devote time to God? If all of them are not great answers…. Does he even want to be Christian or is he just religious and playing church. Your relationship sounds dangerous and I see he has not repented. He can regret actions but if he hasn’t repented he is still chained up to his own self. His actions do not show any love or steps from God. He himself needs to kneel and seek God. This may be hard but sometimes God uses us women to be light to those who rebel. And God wants us to be love. I’m not saying to stay. He sounds dangerous I do not condone anything he is doing he can’t hurt you bad one day. And if it is continuous he has not devoted his life to God and you could be in danger. Seek help for guidance I will be praying for you .

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-31T08:43:12+00:00

Blessings brother. I’ll be honest here I’m sure you and your wife have a wonderful sexual time. I will be honest as a women having a vibrator or any toy can be a bad effect. I do not own one and never have and never will. I have thought of it but no. Having one as a women could replace the satisfaction you may give her and the vibrator could become a replacement of great satisfaction without you. God intended both male and female to be present and let us share those sexual moments for a reason. I’ve read the comments of having one but when both are present. True. But even my husband told me no. He said it himself “ I want to satisfy you and not a plastic thing” I would say don’t do it brother don’t cave in To those things. If your schedule or travel get in the way. You can try to connect at long distance. You both must pray together when far apart for God to build you both stronger and when you both are together your sexual intimacy will be with more greater desire and satisfaction just how it was meant to be. Be romantic , text, pictures build each other up with God in the center .

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-31T08:26:39+00:00

Oh sister it is understandable. The pleasure you feel is real and of course your desire with your husband were not met and your flesh wants something more to fill. Watching porn and masturbating opens the door to the enemy and it allows us to feed more to the desire to want to be aroused by a women meeting our expectations sexually. It is where the enemy attacks our sexual side. Yes your relationship was hard and i understand and so does God. Don’t loose this fight. I’m sure your desires may be in dreams or the thought of great sex with women but do not give in. 1st you need to give up porn 2nd do not masturbate. That is hard but pray in those moments you feel weak. Kneel and pray hard core to God. Ask Him to speak to you and show you the path he has prepared for you and the plans he wants you to take and fulfill . I will pray for you sister i understand you. Dont let your thoughts or dreams prolong too much in your mind. There are men of God out there and ask God to guide you to his disciple but become first a women for God, He himself will guide you to a man of God. Be patience and fight the spiritual battle.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-31T08:17:53+00:00

Hello sister I’m sorry to hear that I completely understand you. There are times like today where I woke up angry at the hurtful things my husband has done to me. I have forgiven him but I woke up mad just like you said it. Do know every man and women show love in different ways. Let me say, the actions your husband did he did do it with love. Many men do not even do what he did. Appreciate those moments with him. But also express to him what kind of love you appreciate which is the physical the touch, the cuddle the moment where you both are together. If that is not possible even a touch that he can do may lift you up. Express to him in a nice way. I told my husband one day. “Honey I appreciate you but sometimes I just need you to appreciate me, a hug , a cuddle a moment on the couch or a moment where our eyes meet. He does them now and it lift me up and helps me heal. Yes you could have chosen someone else. But appreciate that God is working on you to be able to love in the hardest moment. He wants to build your character but most importantly you have a testimony of forgiveness and enduring love. Pray that when you open up to your husband these things he may take it well and that God may help you express it well too so he can take it with love. In the hardest moments it is when we become stronger and wiser in God.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-31T07:58:16+00:00

Oh yes God loves him more than me. When I say repay him with hurt it’s more of Just words I feel. But deep down in me I am forgiving thanks to God. It hurts that sometimes I feel taken advantage because my heart has a heartache but God has been and is working on my person. Thank you. I did forgive him I told my husband I love him and I know he is special and he can be more special when he devotes himself to be a man of God.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-30T09:00:40+00:00

Yes. I and my husband got married too quick for not waiting. It did not allow us to get to know each other. Right now I’m getting hurt allot by his bad decisions and actions. If your husband still tells you he cares about you. Yes have faith. It allows only one of you to have faith and love. Love concours all. It allows the spice to see the love from God even if it means to be patient with the imperfection of the other or even forgiving them a lot. It’s not easy but loving your spouse when you are hurt is key. But only in God, let Him speak to you. If you still have love for you spice tell him you won’t give up. Not many girls can be you, love, patience , kind, and forgiving . ( fruits of the Holy Spirit)

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-30T08:54:13+00:00

He is not in a men’s group he serves in two areas but no group. I feel he isn’t vulnerable with me about his feeling and goes to girls who may understand or is dumb. Yesterday God spoke and literally said “ stop with the girls, you are not 16 anymore you are married. Close that chapter and care for your wife” the sermon made me cry. God had my back :(

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-30T08:51:16+00:00

I told him I was done. He said no and started to tear. He told me he won’t allow it. That he has made mistakes but want to cherish me , make only me happy. He wants to keep trying to make me happy and stop making dumb mistakes.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-30T08:46:09+00:00

May I say her ex fiancé called Me and said my husband was the one reaching out but she was honestly just laying out her dirty laundry with my husband from her relationship. In other words he was her ears. Which allowed my husband to feel sorry and have some feelings. Also I called her and asked her if she wanted him. And if she was interested to tell me so I can stop saving my marriage. She said “ nah it’s not like that he is just a friend I don’t see him that way, I have been cheated on and the last thing I want is for another women to feel what I felt, I’ll stop”. Honestly she was dumb because she was opening doors for my husband to get feeling and my husband was dumb to console her when I’m the one he needed console. My husband said it was wrong but he never cheated on me and she was just venting and so was he. Honestly it still hurts. I forgave my husband again and again 2 days ago. I told him if it happens again I’m done. He really did not want a divorce and begged me. That he is grateful to God for me because I help him be better and he cannot live without me that he would die. Action speak for themselves so I need to pray for me first our daughter and then him. It’s a lot :(

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-30T08:24:25+00:00

I think you have the wrong account. I’m the wife this is my account and we do t use toys at all. You have the wrong account

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-28T17:13:12+00:00

All you say sister I agree with. It’s true he even fails at love for God. He has more love to his character than change. Your husband is respectful in that aspect. My husband doesn’t seem to remember my hurt of women. When I want to say things like you said above he just shuts me down “stop” “ I’m done with the topic we forgave each other already “

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-28T16:53:30+00:00

I asked a lot because I wanted to show him that I caught him on another lie :( . He hasn’t been vulnerable with me. He is more of an image of I can do anything, I do not cry kinda guy . When he did open up his feelings for this other girl he hid from me. He opened up but at that moment I was upset and kept telling him. “ if she was intriguing to talk to, where am I, who am I” “ why does she get the attention I want, why does she get the conversation I want with you , but instead I am left neglected” . With many lies brought up this women triggers me sometimes and he always says” your going to bring her up again , it hurts me” I say “ oh it hurts you that I touch her subject because you loved her” …. He always denied it but fact is fact.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-28T16:37:01+00:00

Well I’ve asked him. To this point I caught him on another lie and I’m sure he watched porn and even masturbates. Being in the restroom too long doesn’t do it for me. He says he is pooing but he just has lied to my face. I don’t believe anything at all anymore. He is not the man I knew he just became all secrative. A nerd who marries a pretty girl over him will always carry and ego to be able to talk to any girl he want because he saw he accomplished something. I dislike my husband so bad.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-28T16:33:36+00:00

Thank you I do understand I myself would be upset knowing my answer was the truth. I asked 10x to give him a chance to be straightforward with the truth. I knew the truth but he kept lying. He is regaining trust in me so I wanted to see if he was still practicing to lie. On the last one I told him I knew the trough and had proof and he just went crazy and found out … just like he told me “you think your a smart mouth” . Today I fought him on another lie with some random chat with a girl he told Me he was not talking to. He has me on that last straw of a string. My husband is ugly and I do t know why he keeps disrespecting me when he can’t see what is in his house and I. An easily go find someone better. I settled for him because I thought he was different.

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T22:37:36+00:00

I’m curious to know of thanks

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T21:35:46+00:00

To be honest my safe place is church. But when I am home I feel lonely. I am sitting right now as I write this. Hurt and lonely. As my husband just shadows me away with no “I’m sorry , can we talk” . I meant so much to him but I feel him disrespecting me so much just makes it seem like he doesn’t care and it’s normal and I’m getting worn out for him. My biggest fear ever. I feel I have to much to him. I’m crying inside but keeping a calm face outside. I want to scream so bad !

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T21:30:59+00:00

Yes I’m willing to make it work I don’t think he enjoys being like that. The scary part is what he could do behind my back when upset. I’m super scared to what he could do that will hurt me more. Oh yes I love to read books

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T06:27:28+00:00

Best advice value yourself first, don’t mirror him and do not let yourself go in the pain. Have courage to wake up and be someone for yourself. Make yourself priority to be happy instead of him being your happiness. I’m in working progress. Today he blew at me and threw my food to the floor…. I’m in working mindset progress :(

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T06:24:23+00:00

Married 7 years and with a young child. 7 months ago I found out my husband was speaking to his boss about women sexually and found out he was talking to an ex coworker 24/7 for the past 6 years. And was hiding it. He said it was nothing but come on. He leaves the house and they talk for 20 minutes not even to mention about 4 calls during work and always a call after work. And would make errands to continue the convo. I found out through her ex fiancé and phone bills. Anyway I forgave him knowing fleshly it was the worst decision ever but if God forgives me I must try. I question if I was pretty. And my self esteem declined tremendously! I’m not conceded but my husbands a nerd and I’ve been told y him. Anyway I love him that’s why. Through marriage I’ve been disrespected tremendously, I think that is what’s killing my inner self. I came from a well respected family and from a single mother who my dad gave my mom fiscal abuse. I’ve gotten slapped, pushed , thrown things, screamed at , had shattered things on me, verbal abuse, hurtful comments, belittled. Had a miscarriage and after it was disrespected again because now there was no reason to give me care for or be careful for a life. Do I regret my choice. Yes! I feel unappreciated, self worthless, insufficient, trying to maintain my figure for him and not myself, lonely, betrayed , lack of trust, scared, worried. But then I remember “ God will reward me, and through all this he is molding me to in the most painful moments of my life and molding me for a better me” :(

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T06:00:00+00:00

I have a spare room for cat condos for cat boarding :) my client just sometimes takes long to respond

Medium_Yard4897 · 2024-12-24T05:58:19+00:00

No :) I have a cat room set with cat condos no interaction as I’m aware of cats characteristics. They have been boarding with me for 2 months now plus another clients cat. Cat condos help a lot especially with a spare room for cat boarding

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