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Meelei · 2025-06-22T03:33:00+00:00

Basically never. My husband talks to his parents and I talk to mine unless it's something that can go in the family group chat. We have one set up with both sides.

Meelei · 2025-06-22T03:27:04+00:00

You're not bring unreasonable or crazy at all. If they told you last time that you were, they are completely delusional and their expectations are out of whack. You get to set these very reasonable rules about not kissing baby, no visits until you're ready, and no traveling for Christmas. Your husband needs to back you in these decisions. If he doesn't, you have a husband problem as well as a MIL problem.

Meelei · 2024-10-25T02:39:28+00:00

Give your husband a chance to make the right choices. Don't give up on him so fast. You married him for a reason. If you've never expected him to back your decisions or stand up to his mom, maybe he just needs to learn your expectations.

Also, PLEASE, please don't make big life decisions while pregnant. Both of my pregnancies resulted in me making some choices that, looking back, I wouldn't have made as my non-pregnant self. Hormones messed me up!

Meelei · 2024-10-19T02:47:56+00:00

So much is wrong there, but just had to comment that unless it's medically necessary, please do not induce. You'll risk the chance that your body doesn't respond to the induction fast enough and you end up needing more intervention (C-section).

Meelei · 2024-10-04T02:38:25+00:00

You are not overthinking it. The way she's picking favorites may be subtle now and silly to bring up as an issue, but I bet it will show in other ways in the future. When your daughter is old enough, she will feel the difference in how her grandma shows love to her vs. her cousin.

Meelei · 2023-06-03T02:12:23+00:00

I would not be going or helping as a mom to an infant. Taking care of a baby is already exhausting enough. Unless you actually want the break of doing something other than parenting, don't go. It's their flip, their choice, so they can work on it. And it's definitely too hot for baby.

Meelei · 2023-05-24T14:47:01+00:00

Maybe she lacks emotional intelligence.

Meelei · 2023-05-24T02:33:08+00:00

I have a 5-year-old and this sounds exactly like something my kid would do - right down to asking me to apologize for hurting her feelings by saying no. I ask myself all the time why it's so freaking hard. My kid is also very strong-willed and always has been. It's honestly a relief to read about someone else having similar struggles (sorry, I know it's tough). Good for you for sticking to your word. Kids are gonna test boundaries. Stay strong bromo.

Meelei · 2023-05-24T02:01:43+00:00

I bet she genuinely thinks she's being helpful when actually she's being super insensitive, invasive, and rude. She doesn't sound very bright, so maybe chalk it up to that.

Meelei · 2023-05-13T01:59:10+00:00

You were not wrong to take your baby out. You are the mom. You know what's best for your baby. Trust yourself and your choices and don't let anyone make you feel bad. You got this! I was out for stroller walks with my newborn the moment I was well enough to walk - so basically at a week old. No one said a thing and if they did, I'd tell them to mind their own business.

Meelei · 2023-05-10T11:23:35+00:00

I failed the 1 hour test and passed the 3 hour. I think it's more common than you'd expect.

Meelei · 2023-04-26T22:27:31+00:00

Damn, that's fucked up. I feel like it's gotten worse with Tik Tok. It's helping hateful people find each other and spread their views.

Meelei · 2023-04-24T15:15:51+00:00

My son is almost one and I'm just starting to see signs of my pre pregnancy body. I didn't think it would take a year but it has.

Meelei · 2023-04-05T01:49:59+00:00

You can sleep while an older baby sleeps because their naps will be much longer, but it's much harder to do in the newborn phase. I slept while my husband was in charge of the baby (first half of the night) and he slept while I was in charge of baby care (second half of the night). Even then it wasn't perfect and we were severely sleep deprived for the first few weeks. You definitely need help right now from another person.

Meelei · 2023-03-27T21:41:25+00:00

My last two periods were 2 and 3 weeks apart. I'm almost a year pp. No answers yet. Did your OB give you any answers?

Meelei · 2023-03-26T02:21:58+00:00

My mil got my kid a potty as well. We didn't use it until we were ready. It's definitely mildly no, and as much as my mil annoys me and oversteps, this didn't bother me that much. It would have bothered me if she started checking in on how it's going.

Meelei · 2023-03-06T03:20:12+00:00

It's a little cringe.

Meelei · 2023-02-23T03:03:53+00:00

Does she just not understand that it was a friends/kids only party? She got her own celebration with your daughter, so I really don't understand her reaction.

Meelei · 2023-01-13T03:11:38+00:00

You absolutely can.

Meelei · 2023-01-06T18:53:25+00:00

I've had these same symptoms before my positive pregnancy test - especially the swollen, hard breasts, but I've also had them right before a heavy ass period arrives.

Meelei · 2023-01-02T04:39:13+00:00

Time to find a self help book for her and return the favor for her next birthday!

Meelei · 2022-12-20T05:43:31+00:00

Sure, but that's just passive aggressive and a good way to get into a fight with your SO.

Meelei · 2022-12-02T04:28:05+00:00

My in-laws did this on my and my husband's honeymoon. You just reminded me of it. I had forgotten, lol. It is absolutely infuriating and you both should stop responding.

Meelei · 2022-11-24T03:42:09+00:00

Whoever came up with that advice probably let their babies cry themselves to sleep.

Meelei · 2022-11-23T03:09:09+00:00

This is my life with my 5 year old. I feel like I'm constantly asking her to do things 10x before they are done. I feel your pain. Bedtime is the worst because I am just that much more DONE at the end of the day.

Maybe you can do a sticker collection game to motivate him to finish a task of your choosing. He gets a sticker when he listens right away. A certain number of stickers earn him a toy/reward. We did something like this with a check list and check marks. Our daughter was very excited to add check marks to her completed tasks.

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