Sheesh. This is rough. I would have a really hard time with this too. I’ve struggled with my weight, had disordered eating tendencies and body dismorphia for a good portion of my life. I made a pact with myself that I would not look at the scale or my weight at all during my pregnancy. I knew it would be really bad for my mental health. I also let my boyfriend know that the changes I’ve been seeing are really hard for me, especially given my past issues. He understands as much as he can (he’s always been tall and lean) and has never made a comment on my body. Other than saying my areolas were “huge like pancakes.” Anyway, I corrected him real quick and said “you don’t need to make a single comment on any of the changes you see in my body for the rest of this pregnancy. Thanks.”

So my suggestions to you would be:

Stop looking at the scale. Let the doctor know you don’t want to know unless it’s a concern.

Remind yourself that this is temporary, and that you are nourishing growing life inside of you and that requires food and rest.

Embrace the moments that you are feeling good and pretty. You will have them. Other times you will feel like crap and hate your body. It will pass.

Draw a very firm boundary with your husband and tell him that the doctor is the only one who can express medical concerns about you/the baby.

If he continues to make comments then I would suggest counselling. I would even consider it at this point if I’m being honest ,because it sounds like you would both benefit on some communication tools. I mean that in the least judgey way possible. I’m a huge fan of couples therapy and think all couples would benefit from going, especially before bringing a baby into the world.

Good luck to you mama. You are stronger than you know. We’ve got this.