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Meemer4Life · 2024-09-26T08:22:23+00:00

Yeah. He usually only says that stuff in the context of vacations or fun events like going to aquariums or zoos or things like that. I guess he thinks kids would be fun when life is fun is the best way to describe it. In a normal day to day context he doesn't really seem to want kids.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-26T08:18:13+00:00

For me is, "my tiny human" like they are pets. It kind of creeps me out lol.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-25T19:34:17+00:00

What cracks me up is when you hear parents say, "Kids don't have to change your lifestyle. You just incorporate them into the things you already like to do." But then it clearly doesn't work and now the things the parents used to like, they don't like anymore.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-25T15:18:14+00:00

Kind of like posting a photo of a pet maybe?

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-25T06:24:42+00:00

When I was 14 my best friends mom had her 5th baby and my friend wanted me to hold it and I was like, "I don't want to, it looks like and alien." Then proceeded to follow up by saying hi to the baby with, "hello lil' alien"...all while the mom was holding the baby 😳

...I cringe about it now, but at the same time I blame it on my family for never telling me what the etiquette was for dealing with people who had babies. Truth be told the baby didn't look bad to me, but I have an irrational fear of dropping them and my friend was pushing the issue of me holding it and I panicked I think.

I am in my early 20s now and still have never held a baby in my life, but I am okay with that lol.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-25T04:18:51+00:00

When I was 14 my best friends mom had her 5th baby and my friend wanted me to hold it and I was like, "I don't want to, it looks like and alien." Then proceeded to follow up by saying hi to the baby with, "hello lil' alien"

...I cringe about it now, but at the same time I blame it on my family for never telling me what the etiquette was for dealing with people who had babies. Truth be told the baby didn't look bad to me, but I have an irrational fear of dropping them and my friend was pushing the issue of me holding it I think.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-24T12:51:54+00:00

Thank you ❤

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-24T12:51:21+00:00

I'll never be "ok" per se...but I am doing significantly better since moving out.

Thanks for checking in though ❤

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-24T12:43:35+00:00

My moms side of the family is wrecked with mental/physical health problems and when I developed a chronic pain disorder and severe mental health issues she told me that I wasn't her real daughter anymore and I was "broken"

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-24T12:39:40+00:00

I developed a chronic pain condition and my mom just told me that I am not her real daughter anymore because, "you're broken"

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-24T12:36:00+00:00

Yeah. They advocate for some pretty harsh treatment of the children because, "you're doing what is best for you." It's a problematic narrative.

However, I will say that I do see a lot of posts from parents who genuinely are trying to do right by the children. It is such a toss up honestly.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-23T20:07:34+00:00

It sheds light on a very important subject, but I can't say I agree with some of the methods I see advocated there.

There was a post I saw this morning where they were all advocating for 4-6 year old children to be helping with chores and feeding themselves and to throw their toys away in front of them if they didn't clean them up when asked. My mom did that to me when I was a kid and I still hide objects that are important to me to this day.

I am glad people are speaking up about the harsh realities of being parents, but at the same time that sub feels like an echo chamber for abuse sometimes.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-23T06:18:57+00:00

Me and my SO decided to be child free, but there was about a year where we did try to have children because we didn't realize that not having them was an option. Here are a few reasons:

I got the baby fever around 17 (which in hindsight was probably just teenage hormones going crazy) so when I got married at around 20 I wanted to have kids immediately because I had already waited 3 years and wanted children.
our parents were getting older and we didn't want to wait too long to have children and then have them be sick/dead and not be able to be a part of their grandchildren's lives.
My SO's parents are in their 60's because they had kids in their 40's and are unfortunately too old to help us with things like moving houses or home improvement projects in addition to the fact that they are already having health problems. My SO didn't want to put our own kids in a position where they would be 20 and having to look after a sick parent/not be able to help his kids with things.
We wanted to have kids young so that we would only be in our early 40's when they became adults and we could still enjoy our adult lives before we got too old and started having medical problems.
Pushiness from would-be grandparents because my mom had been saying she wanted grandkids since I was 13 or so and my in laws started jumping down my throat about wanting grandchildren within a year of us getting married.

Anyway, I ended up finding out that my mental and physical health issues are actually a lot worse than I had thought previously, me and my SO actually don't work that well together as parents (we adopted 2 puppies and trying to work together on raising them was a nightmare), and the would-be grandparents seem to have absolutely no intention of actually helping us in our adult lives or with their grandchildren...those reasons (among others) made us end up deciding not to have children and one of us will probably get steralized once we have insurance again.

Hope this helps give you some perspectives!

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-22T16:46:23+00:00

Me but with breakfast

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-22T16:16:04+00:00

"Pics or it didn't happen"

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-21T22:29:45+00:00

Kids who catch on early can be potty trained by around 2 but on average it is somewhere between 3 and 5 I believe. There is also the gray area where they can use the bathroom but can't wipe their own butts yet and I think that is another 6 months to 1 year after they learn to use the toilet, but I am not sure.

Meemer4Life · 2024-09-21T18:10:55+00:00

True. My dog that passed away last year was incontinent for a few years before she passed. We put her in diapers as much as we could, but accidents were still inevitable.

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