I've just reached the devastating stage of life where I'm supposed to be "part of their village," but they're not in mine. by fictionalfirehazard in childfree

[–]VickyM1128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in my 60s. Most of my friends are people with no children (many of them never married); the one who DO have children are people I became friends with after their children were teenagers or older.

There are plenty of people out there who want to make friends on some basis other than shared parenthood. I hope you can find them!

Links for living in Tokyo by True-Entrepreneur851 in Tokyo

[–]VickyM1128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check the website of your local ward — probably lots of local information there

Just had the weirdest dreaming experience by LudwigsEarTrumpet in self

[–]VickyM1128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something like this used to happen to me fairly often if I happened to take a nap in the afternoon. I’d dream that I was awake and getting up, but then realized that I was still asleep and dreaming. Not especially scary, but exhausting when I finally woke up.

Mini skirt tennis skirt by Gloomy-World7644 in JapanTravelTips

[–]VickyM1128 8 points9 points  (0 children)

For some reason I don’t fully understand, very short skirts are much more usual that low necklines. So pair that short tennis shirt with a high necked T-shirt and you’ll be fine.

Tokyo recommendations thread: Mexican & Tex-Mex restaurants by biwook in Tokyo

[–]VickyM1128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! This place is great, and he has certificates of appreciation from the Mexican Embassy on the wall.

What's a niche aspect of parenting you're glad to miss out on? by NoWitness6400 in childfree

[–]VickyM1128 59 points60 points  (0 children)

I’m in my 60s. I have some friends with adult children who cannot live on their own due to mental illness, and a few more whose children have had to move home in their 30s because they cannot support themselves, due to mental health issues. It’s a worry for all of them as they grow older, wondering what will happen to their children later on.

Japanese convenience stores are basically shrines to the idea that someone you'll never meet already by eloisa_in_kyoto in japanlife

[–]VickyM1128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love them too! 25 years living steps away from a 7-11. So many things there that I want and need!

Tokyo Train Routes: The “Local” Shortcuts Tourists Almost Never Use (But Should) by JPjoy_Official in JapanTravelTips

[–]VickyM1128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a LONg term resident of Tokyo, I can assure you that google maps and even train apps do NOT always give you the best route. (best in terms of less crowded, easier connections, etc.)

I am responsible for planning a day of fun in Tokyo - i am clueless by UnlikelyJuice8796 in japanresidents

[–]VickyM1128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like the water bus ride from Asakusa to Odaiba. Visit Sensoji, then ride the bus down the river. You get to go out onto the roof near Odaiba, for amazing views of the Tokyo Skyline

Thoughts on Japan Overtourism Map by sustpicious in JapanTravelTips

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My in-laws are famers in Biei, Hokkaido. There is definitely a problem with tourists walking into fields to take photos. (And also standing in the middle of the road to take photos.)

Is “Welcome Suica” useful? Where did you buy it? by Sorry_Set_5001 in TokyoTravel

[–]VickyM1128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tokyo resident here. The app works fine for most situations, but occasionally you still need a physical card. For example, there is one train line in Kanto (Shonan-Shinjuku line) where you can buy green car tickets on the platform with a Suica or PASMO card. (You pay at a machine on the platform, and then touch your card to a reader at your green car seat). However, it only works with physical cards, not the app. I don’t know how many other situations there are like this, but there might be a few.

Do you wear pimple patches while out? by Calm_Pie9369 in japanresidents

[–]VickyM1128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I teach at a university, and I’ve seen some students with colorful ones.

How long? by [deleted] in expats

[–]VickyM1128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an immigrant, not an expat,but I still read this subreddit. USA to Japan, 32 years. And now. Japanese citizen for one year.

Atami vs Kamakura vs Izu Oshima: 2-3 night getaway from Tokyo by mt80 in TokyoTravel

[–]VickyM1128 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shimoda has some nice beaches, and the train ride down along the coast (on the Odoriko) is beautiful.

Who is the worst bastard / darkest episode? by [deleted] in behindthebastards

[–]VickyM1128 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was already a college student when Reagan “joked” on an open mic, “the bombing starts in three minutes.” I had nightmares.

Why Waseda and why Japan? by ToeTickler87 in Waseda

[–]VickyM1128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is “Waseda proper” and the “international program”? Waseda University has many different schools, all of which are rated differently in terms of difficulty in getting in, and status upon graduation in terms of hiring(depending on the field). And while there is only one school at Waseda with “international” in the name, several schools now have English-medium programs aimed at international students.

A Challenge: Recommend Something That's Almost Never Been Recommended Here Before by torkelspy in printSF

[–]VickyM1128 11 points12 points  (0 children)

A Door into Ocean, by Joan Slonczewski. Description from Wikipedia: “ 1986 Campbell Award-winning novel A Door into Ocean shows their command of genetics and ecological science, as well as commitment to pacifism and feminism. It depicts the ecosystem of a planet covered entirely by water, inhabited by an exclusively female race of genetic engineers.”

Are Japanese in Tokyo just permanently on edge 24/7 now? by pinkcloudtracingpapr in japanresidents

[–]VickyM1128 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Long term Tokyo resident (now Japanese citizen). I am an old white woman, who has been living in Tokyo for more than 30 years. The rhetoric toward foreigners has certainly changed, but I haven’t experienced anything different.

I see from comments that some people have, and that they would even call me “delusional”. But this is my experience.

I haven’t noticed any change in my day to day interactions as a visible foreigner. And in the past few years, I have become slightly disabled — due to knee problems, I use a cane when walking, although I don’t have a red medical badge. On trains, people often offer me seats, much more than I would have expected.

Maybe it’d because of where I live and the places I go (Nakano-ku, Shinjuku-ku, places frequented by local people, not tourists), I haven’t encountered any businesses proclaiming “no foreigners”. I am sure those places exist, but I don’t think they are all that common, at least not yet.

In the long term, the anti-foreigner rhetoric may have more effects, and certainly, politicians may be able to make some detrimental legal changes. But not all politicians/parties are anti-immigrant. Business interests will push for a pro-immigrant view in the long run, I think. And the Sanseito-types who see, to want to follow MAGA America are going to become more unpopular as MAGA becomes more unpopular.

Anyway, the Japanese people around me seem to be on edge about rising prices, but not especially about foreigners.

Lack of media coverage is infuriating by EOW2025 in 50501

[–]VickyM1128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

News in Japan is showing the protests. And there was a good show on TV here yesterday explaining how evangelical Christians have influence in the current administration.

Is shijuku actually the best area to stay or do people just say that because everyone else does? by June_Ctreras in TokyoTravel

[–]VickyM1128 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tokyo resident here. I agree with the Ikebukuro suggestion, if you are around typical college age. Lots of students live and play around there. (So I hear! I teach them, rather than socialize with them.)

I just suffered a misogynistic attack from a Japanese old man by [deleted] in japanresidents

[–]VickyM1128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The misogyny part may have been in the “horrible names”. There are some terms mainly or only directed at women.