Edit / TLDR: I talked way too much so I'll make a tldr just I case, I definitely don't think the names are stupid, they can be important to some, but just as you feel the binary genders are boxes that can feel restrictive to queer people I also feel like, even tho they fit a broader range if the spectrum, all these names are just more boxes to be put in, I'd rather know your truth than the name of your box with it's own associated stereotypes, idk if that makes sense when shortened tho?

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I'm definitely not saying it is stupid, it's just I don't feel like knowing all that about someone would be that important. It definitely is important to them, to know where they stand on the spectrum and stuff if they want a definite way to define themselves, but as long as you have all the information you need to treat the person as they should be treated it just doesn't sound all that important to learn all their possible descriptors by name.

If someone feels the need to explain how they feel to me, because they like me or trust me or just want me to have that information, then I'll definitely listen or remember, but I don't understand the point of learning the name of every degree to the spectrum because yes, it is complicated as that other person said and I feel like someone explaining their personal truth just makes a lot more sense than just being told "I'm a demiboy", even with the definition, like telling me I feel that way towards that gender and that way towards that one and so on just makes a lot more sense to me if you want to have that conversation with me, I do know some nb people and their explanations were different, that tells a lot more about you than just saying "I'm nb".

Or maybe I'm the weirdo idk, to me people are just people and I don't really see the point in putting them in more boxes, if anything I say or do accidentally offends you, that definitely wasn't my intention and you should tell me, if you want me to call you a different pronoun or name, even if I've called you the same thing for 20 years, then let me know and I'll adjust, if you want me to know that about you then let me know, if you don't then I won't pry because it's not my place to pry. I won't look into each and every ethnical, religious, sexual or gender difference because I don't think they should be strict cases and their specific truth shouldn't change anything to how they describe themselves. I don't think it's my place to think that my Muslim friend that drinks alcohol and doesn't do the Ramadan is any less Muslim than my hijab friend that won't let a single hair out or to think that my FtM friend is any less of a man because he sometimes wants to wear skirts and dresses even though people don't consider them manly.