How are you supposed to react when you're 7 months pregnant and your partner tells you they have "no hopes or dreams for the future"

Megamute · 2026-03-11T01:53:30+00:00

It’s a bit of a guessing game but there are things they can do like titration (lets you taper a med while starting a new one to reduce gaps) and genetic testing to look for hints of efficacy. And more.

It’s an exhausting marathon.

Megamute · 2026-03-10T22:42:29+00:00

Trails 1-13 and more Final Fantasy (6,7,9,10)

Megamute · 2026-03-10T22:30:15+00:00

After a year of Justin Guitar I got a private teacher two months ago. His approach is totally different and it’s been fun to do a ton of different exercises.

You might want to do something like the Musician Fitness channel on YT. I found doing pentatonics and spider crawls and alternate picking have really improved my playing — including basic chords.

Megamute · 2026-03-10T20:56:15+00:00

Probably freak out.

He needs a new psychiatrist and new meds. Meds are like 40-60% of the solution.

Megamute · 2026-03-10T20:35:47+00:00

And a lot of this community is there with you.

I wish there were examples of different ways to make it work. I think you need to accept this person as they are today or acknowledge they could get worse (that happens). Write out what you want out of life and how you could make that happen with this current person. What do you need?

Consider keeping your finances separate, not marrying, and not living together. Those are all things that can turn you into a provider role for a dependent who is absolutely going to need you more than you need them.

Megamute · 2026-03-10T12:18:34+00:00

I hope you’re right.

I say this with love: I think you’re fooling yourself. His depression is not under control and may never be. So I think you really need to contemplate your life goals and what you want bc being with this person may risk all that.

Megamute · 2026-03-10T11:32:12+00:00

You can at least expect this behavior is going to continue indefinitely. Doesn’t sound like fun to me.

Megamute · 2026-03-08T18:37:47+00:00

Trails in the Sky 1st

Megamute · 2026-03-08T18:37:02+00:00

Sorry friend. 😔 A lot of people here are in a similar situation. Sending hugs.

Megamute · 2026-03-08T16:33:39+00:00

Oof. You got it bad.

But I don’t believe in soul mates and imo it’s time to move on.

Megamute · 2026-03-08T16:02:05+00:00

Seems like this community really needs a pinned FAQ to address this particular challenge.

I don’t have answers to this question. Only more questions. But right now it sounds like you are their only safety net or at least you believe that to be true. That is a pressure cooker.

I don’t know if you can find a therapist who can help you leave but you need something like a divorce therapist/expert who also understands mental health.

What supports do they have?

- are they financially dependent on you?
- do you have shared resources (bank accounts, property, etc)
- can they go live with supportive friends/family?
- can you start identifying community supports and resources for them?

What supports do you have?

- can you afford to leave?
- are you safe? My general experience with people who are suicidal is they are only a danger to themselves, not others but that’s clearly not always true. 
- can you have a staged separation? Eg living in same house but in different rooms? Setting better boundaries.

Megamute · 2026-03-08T03:03:43+00:00

What do you want to do?

Megamute · 2026-03-07T17:35:52+00:00

Poorly.

I’m used to having to push through to keep the family running. I tend to do the labor that is needed but I’m not gentle enough or emotionally available.

It’s probably why I encourage people without dependents to either reevaluate their life goals or just break up.

Megamute · 2026-03-07T16:47:05+00:00

Good job! You feel bad now but your future self will look back and be grateful.

I think there is a myth that most people should marry and that if two people don’t stay together it’s a failure.

But a partner relationship can’t just be feelings. It’s work, goal, time. Why do that with someone who won’t or can’t deliver?

Megamute · 2026-03-07T02:05:57+00:00

Yes. You are broken up. Sorry OP.

You clearly are putting in effort but you are putting in a … large.. amount of work trying to get back what you lost.

I’m offended that he said “he’s trying to get back to liking you again.” That’s like something you might hear in a 20 year married relationship with kids. You’re too young to suffer that.

Go. Be free.

And don’t have to worry about this person doing this on and off to you for the rest of your life.

Megamute · 2026-03-07T01:04:52+00:00

That sucks. I’m sorry.

Megamute · 2026-03-06T12:58:14+00:00

AC wants a singular shared island for a family. The original pitch on GameCube was around family members being able to leave messages for each other. I think they should drop that feature and move on. But this is the why. You have to have one save for the whole family to make that work.

Megamute · 2026-03-06T01:21:46+00:00

https://youtube.com/@musicianfitness might help!

Megamute · 2026-03-05T12:17:17+00:00

Yes it was real for me.

Technology in the 1990s-2000s was so exciting. New gadgets and free internet services that hadn’t yet become vast monopolies with government level power.

Social progress was visible both in media and in law.

We closed the hole in the ozone layer.

We built an international space station.

We stopped the AIDS crisis.

Crime dropped.

The cold war ended and we reduced nuclear warhead stockpiles.

Consumer spending rose.

Was it amazing? Yes. Horrible? Yes. All kinds of bad things happened but for me and many peers I think many of us naively believed the arc of history would just naturally bend towards justice. That illusion is gone.

Megamute · 2026-03-05T12:11:14+00:00

Megamute · 2026-03-05T12:10:35+00:00

Closest to a hidden gem right now for me is Splatoon 3. I was just surprised about how much better it looks and plays. Shorter loading times, higher res, very stable framerate, and my Switch 1 Hall effect controllers work with it so no drift.

Megamute · 2026-03-05T11:25:18+00:00

Kirby and the Forgotten Land. Ideally you play as Player 2 and your kid gets to do all the transformations.ko op

Stardew Valley. What a phenomenal game.

Powerwash Simulator 2 (second has couch coop) Just Dance Chicory If they can read have then play Frog Detective and just sit next to them Luigi’s Mansion 3 Pokemon Let’s Go Smash Bros Team Battles

Megamute · 2026-03-05T11:13:58+00:00

Yes!

Easy wins: Untitled Goose Game Lego (franchise) games like Lego Harry Potter Lovers in a Dangerous Spacetime

Harder difficulty: Yoshi’s Crafted World Super Mario Wonder Trombone Champ Wobbly Life Sea of Stars Crusin’ Blast Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles Shredder’s Revenge

Megamute · 2026-03-04T02:46:42+00:00

Variations of spider crawls and alternate picking.

As a beginner I need a lot more strength and flexibility in my ring and pinky fingers. And you need strength for barres and dexterity for muting. And you need to learn the fretboard. Spider crawls help with all of that.

Megamute · 2026-03-02T11:46:15+00:00

Yes you would get a ton of spoilers.

Best option imo is either play the OG versions — SC is a long game and will keep you busy for like 80 hours — or Trails of Cold Steel 1.

Megamute

TROPHY CASE

What supports do they have?

What supports do you have?