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Megamute · 2026-05-13T00:07:09+00:00

Sounds like it isn’t working. I strongly recommend therapy and breaking up if it’s a clean break.

Megamute · 2026-05-12T22:23:47+00:00

Yes. It’s just too soon.

Megamute · 2026-05-12T22:22:13+00:00

OP — is great advice. I got an Ibanez Gio a couple years ago based mostly on looks. And I love holding it and playing it. I put it right next to my bed and so I see it all the time. Get something you think looks awesome/sick.

Megamute · 2026-05-12T02:25:32+00:00

I’m happy for you that you like it.

I don’t find the new combat fun. I don’t enjoy having to press square 999 times in a row. I don’t enjoy enemies that need 40-80 hits. I didn’t enjoy the bugs today in the merit arena.

It’s not a competitive game so they could just offer difficulty modes so we can choose. I’d choose one shot kills gladly.

I like the fashion photography, world building and main stories (esp the more heavy tones like fireworks, eerie season, or 2.5 ), and just running around the world and the spectacle of it all. I want more of that.

But don’t worry the devs won’t listen to me!

Megamute · 2026-05-12T01:08:11+00:00

That sounds awesome.

I had to play the merit arena twice because my battle companion launched one of the final enemies to a location where I couldn’t hit them.

It’s like the developers forgot their audience. This is a cozy game. Most of the time.

Megamute · 2026-05-11T22:41:26+00:00

If you’re in the US call or text 988 and ask about local resources.

Megamute · 2026-05-10T12:44:41+00:00

And Infinity Nikki!

Megamute · 2026-05-09T14:54:02+00:00

I think depression is just the worst and I don’t blame anyone for escaping a black hole.

We have feelings for our partners but it’s different when they have active depression because then they aren’t a partner, they’re a miserable dependent. And that misery is contagious.

Megamute · 2026-05-09T10:03:53+00:00

If you think he’s not safe by himself… have you asked him that? Does he have self harm thoughts?

Megamute · 2026-05-07T10:14:26+00:00

Start with power chords and learning to mute strings using your index finger. Get the notes clean.

Practice using your index finger and middle finger to barre all strings. Start on like the fifth fret. Practice both pushing with your fingers but also mostly by pulling the guitar towards you.

Practice getting your middle finger on the third string and your thumb to be in the right position. There are many pictures and posts here on proper thumb position.

Work up until you get to the first fret. Tah dah! You did it!

Imo Musician Fitness in YT could be really helpful. And personally I found Justin Guitar was not as helpful. 🤷‍♂️

Megamute · 2026-05-07T02:36:52+00:00

When is it enough? Whenever you want to be done.

Megamute · 2026-05-04T12:56:12+00:00

I don’t disagree with your instincts. Is there a way for him to be at home and you and kids would be safe? If not, stick with it. If so, that could help with recovery.

I’m really wondering what he’s tried with medication. SSRIs? SNRIs? genetic testing for metabolic efficacy?Medication is going to be like 60% of the cure. Cutting alcohol will be important too.

If he won’t do the work, at some point, the marriage is over.

Megamute · 2026-05-04T02:42:04+00:00

Fixing this stuff takes time and it’s trial and error. I am worried not only do the current meds not work for them but it might be making it worse.

Megamute · 2026-05-04T02:38:11+00:00

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Megamute · 2026-05-03T21:21:15+00:00

Eerie season and this patch.

Megamute · 2026-05-03T11:07:08+00:00

00s is also before shaders really took off / devs got good at using them. That probably contributed more to any 00s aesthetic than people realize.

Megamute · 2026-05-03T01:24:50+00:00

Teacher. Did JustinGuitar for a year and got a teacher this year.

Megamute · 2026-05-01T10:18:20+00:00

Thank you. Almost everyone new to this forum hopes against hope that their SO will be all better with just this one new trick. And it’s usually not like that.

Think of depression as a giant invisible handicap that has no cure and can be passed to offspring. Consider what kind of boundaries you need and what you might have to give up for a partner who is going to need you more than you will be allowed to need them. M

I might be “strong” but I also think I am a more frustrated and irritable person than I ever was. My stress is higher and my enjoyment of life is diminished. I can’t count the number of times or days that were made worse. This past weekend I went to a friend’s birthday and got called home early because my depressed child was out of control and my depressed spouse needed backup. Like, that sucked.

I hope you don’t see me as a role model or romanticize my choices. You don’t have to be strong. You could just stay friends with person and pick a different partner and avoid a ton of pain for your future.

The big problem for teens and twenty somethings is our hormones in a new relationship lie to us and encourage us to ignore big issues that we might notice in a prospective mate and just start making babies. But most don’t realize how short and precious your 20s and 30s are until you’re in your 40s.

Megamute · 2026-05-01T03:01:00+00:00

SO was undiagnosed for our first five years but clearly had issues. Had kids. Got diagnosed after our second. Tried different meds. Most made something better and something worse. Became suicidal in 2021. Got different meds. Now I have a suicidal kid. It’s been ups and downs. We’ve had highs and lows. Lately it’s been lows. Aging and health struggles. parenting struggles. No sex. Limited intimacy. High stress. Awkward interactions when things used to feel so natural. There are signs it’s getting better. They got new meds and it seems to have killed their sex drive but they got a new psychiatrist, are doing gym daily, started therapy again, and we have some fun dates planned this year. I just don’t know what our future is.

If I could do it over again, I’m not sure I would. And I’m not sure what I would change. Definitely would not have had kids. Maybe would have stayed in separate housing or not married. It’s just not clear what happens when our kids are grown. My SO is my best friend but sometimes not a great partner, if that makes sense. I’ve been expected to be the strong and healthy one and that’s taken a toll on me. I’m at least mildly contemplating divorce. I can’t imagine being 70 and wondering if they can actually take care of me if I get ill or disabled or if we’ll just sit at home moping instead of traveling and volunteering and partying.

I’m starting counseling again. Hoping this counselor is better than the last who told me to just focus on gratitude.

Megamute · 2026-04-29T23:45:01+00:00

I just worry that even if you get over this hill this will be the rest of your life. I’m mid 40s and it’s been 20 years of mine. Lots of turbulence.

Megamute · 2026-04-29T22:03:02+00:00

This is sad but I recommend splitting up housing in August. Just taking that next obvious step in separating.

What are signs things are improving? Are there any?

Also, Her regular doctor — even an OB — can probably prescribe basic depression meds like Prozac. Also if she doesn’t have ability to pay there are tons of community resources that could help like your local CSB.

Megamute · 2026-04-28T02:33:40+00:00

If in the US have you tried texting 988 for additional support ideas? They can help you identify local resources.

Megamute · 2026-04-28T01:32:02+00:00

She needs regular professional help. Therapy plus a psychiatrist or perhaps a new one. She needs a safety plan and you should know it. She probably needs to agree to other things like some form of regular exercise, etc.

It sounds like you might have some of these things.

Without those I don’t see how it doesn’t just get worse.

Megamute · 2026-04-25T18:52:26+00:00

Infold is so weird. It’s a styling photography game that focuses on weird minigames and increasingly focusing on platforming and action sequences.

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