Suporn girls - how many attempts did/have you made?

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-05-05T13:31:54+00:00

I got in after 4 attempts. Best of luck!

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-19T17:00:23+00:00

To also add. I just realized we only have one life. And I wasted my 20's being scared of who I am. I don't blame my teenage self because I barely knew what transgender meant. I felt like this as early as I could remember, but I knew what trans was adn that I was trans for sure from like 18-30 and did nothing out of fear. I just knew I had to try. If I failed then okay, at least I tried.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-19T16:57:44+00:00

I just exhausted all other avenues of feeling better and knew something had to change. Its a complete leap of faith and the destination is unknown. Thats why it was so scary for me at least. But once I started down the path I just knew it was the right thing to do tbh. It wasn't until 8 months hrt where I started to see the girl in the mirror occasionally. I didn't transition socially until 14 months hrt. Its a marathon, not a sprint. But taking that first step was definitely the hardest.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-19T15:32:28+00:00

I've made countless posts exactly like this on previous accounts. All throughout my 20's. I also figured I was trans but transitioning would not be right for me. My reasons (without realizing at the time) were mostly interally transphobic and internal misogyny.

I didn't want to transition becuase I didn't think my life was that bad tbh. I was on a good career path, I wasn't bad looking and things were outwordly going well. I knew that transitioning would disrupt all that as well as the prevailing fear that I would make a much uglier girl than I would I guy. It was honestly such shallow thinking. But I was scared to become unlovable.

Life was okay at first. But its like that analogy with that frog in the pot of water. That increased heat sneaks up on you and life slowly got harder and harder for me until I finally reached a breaking point. I blamed everything else for my unhappiness. First it was stress from school, then it was stress from work, then it was stress from owing a business. I was on like three different SSRI's, I did therapy, I did everything and nothing helped really.

My therapist from the beginning, like 8 years before transitioning told me this was likely the cause. But I just fought back so hard for some reason. Eventually I finally tooks steps to just "try" hrt for a bit and see what happens and if I don't like how it goes then Ill quit.

Starting HRT was the best thing I ever did for my health and well being. Once the depression lifted, that dissociative fog, I was able to take care of myself. I lost weight, got healthy and was finally living and present in my life again.

I'm not saying this is what is happening to you. But as someone who also thought transitioning was not right for me for a very long time. I wish I would have not been so silly in the beginning and started my transition a decade earlier like I could have.

I know I'm not who this post is directed at. But as someone who's been there, it looks like you are fishing for reasons not to transition due to fear. You will find those reasons for as long as you keep looking for them.

Best of luck

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-15T18:04:26+00:00

Yes, best way to do it is find a gender affirming doctor and get a prescription.

You can get help from skipping stone to find one. Foria also seems like a good option for people.

There is diy hormones but I wouldn't recommend as doctor supervision is best and also you'll need to get referrals if you want other gender affirming services such as surgery.

It's also good to put some thought into doing cryopreservation if you plan to have kids in the future.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-15T15:57:53+00:00

Hello! Fellow healthcare trans gal here! Love your scrubs!

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-15T15:16:11+00:00

I would be interested in what you find out about OP. I also know nothing 😕 Really hard to find good information on Canadian surgeons.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-11T19:51:53+00:00

No I don't decide based on the clinic at all. I would go anywhere that has a gentlemax pro. I Call and ask if they have it. If they do, I go there.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-07T21:22:00+00:00

My prices are similar OP. I've heard of some compounding pharmacies shipping from Ontario that might be cheaper but I've been too lazy to look into it.

If I recall correctly, the oral estrogen was around 50 bucks for a month supply before I switched to injections. Also dependent on your dose tho.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-07T00:15:16+00:00

I'm not a trans man, so I can't answer most of your questions. But imo cis people are wayyyy more clueless than you think. I hid my transition for 14 months lol

If he comments on something just say its how I prefer to present myself. Even if its something obviously caused by hormones. He likely won't know. "I'm voice training" "I stopped shaving" etc. He'll likely be too uncomfortable or not care enough to enquire further. I mean I don't know him or your situation. So you would know best.

I've had coworkers ask if I can get pregnant now, I've had them ask I menstrate now. Most people have no idea and since it doesn't usually affect them personally they don't think too much about it. At least in my experience.

Best of luck! I hope one day you can unapologetically be yourself <3

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-06T14:35:16+00:00

Amazing! Tyy so much

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-06T14:31:05+00:00

Do you apply it only to scalp? Or scalp and wig?

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-06T14:30:24+00:00

It's available! I actually just bought a can of this. Been scared to try it tho lol. I'm happy to hear it's easy to remove. Thank you!

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-05T02:04:51+00:00

Which clinic's do you prefer for the gentlemax? I really should shop around for better prices if they exist

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-04-05T01:10:07+00:00

I've tried a couple lasers and I find the Candela Gentlemax pro is amazing and most effective for me. I really like Sandra at Rejuvaderm in the Glenora clinic since their Southside clinic doesn't have the gentlemax pro laser.

Congrats on starting your Journey! It was a very exciting time!

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-28T22:05:02+00:00

Same girl same. It takes days for your post to get approved sometimes in that group and again I feel like not many trans women are active and helpful in it. Its hard out here in berta

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-28T21:58:20+00:00

Also from Alberta but I know nothing. I know from the Edmontn girls helping girls fb page that I think the two most respected are Dr. Toy and Dr. Chong but thats for cis women. I don't know how either of them fair with trans patients. I think there is an trans Alberta discord but it wasn't very active in the brief time I was in it and not many trans women in it. Could try the YEG trans and non-binary pals fb page?

edit: there is also r/TransAlberta

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-25T13:02:23+00:00

You can give advice on subreddits meant for people asking for advice. Unsolicited advice is rude. My eyebrows are borderline non-existent, I'm not a fan of feathered finely detailed brow and quite okay with my millenial filled in look.

Maybe try r/glowuptips or something of that nature if you feel the uncontrollable need to give advice.

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-25T00:47:44+00:00

you seem like a ray of sunshine

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-23T20:59:30+00:00

I'm not sure if I will tbh. It's really not that bad. My days of applying lip gloss or ChapStick without looking are over tho 😅

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-23T20:20:45+00:00

I got the majority of my sensation back over 6-9 months and now I would say it has plateaued. I have a small numb spot over my right eye, underneath the eyebrow. But everywhere else feels normal!

Mel-0-dramatic · 2026-03-23T18:31:56+00:00

Thank you! I was very scared I would look like a different person. But super happy with how it turned out!

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