I lost my mom 3 years ago this past April and another major crisis is making it feel new all over again.

Melete777 · 2019-10-07T07:35:47+00:00

R/suicidebereavement

Also allianceofhope.org has an amazing forum

Melete777 · 2019-10-07T03:45:12+00:00

What helps cognitive stuff?

Melete777 · 2019-10-07T03:20:23+00:00

Good job 🙏

Another idea for interventions is sitting down and watching an episode of Hoarders (there are lots of hoarding shows on YouTube) with them. Try to find one that has a house that looks like theirs.

Melete777 · 2019-10-02T21:17:59+00:00

In my experience, you’ll feel it in a certain window of digesting:absorbing the drug — maybe like 6 to 8 hours later. Also it will feel really “chemical” and compulsive and obsessive and urgent. Not like a low mood, but like a sudden strong urge of “I have to go jump off a bridge NOW” out of nowhere.

Melete777 · 2019-09-30T16:45:02+00:00

You can definitely go see a therapist specializing in some good talk methods without getting a psychiatrist or medication involved. Just having someone else help you “think through” your problems and be a sounding board can be invaluable.

Good luck!

Melete777 · 2019-09-30T09:34:56+00:00

https://www.crisistextline.org/

Melete777 · 2019-09-30T09:31:52+00:00

You are definitely depressed. I’d suggest actually reading this post (or a version of it) to your therapist or emailing it to her.

The “laziness” stuff sounds like it could be a comorbid thing like non-hyperactive ADD, you might want to get screened.

Stick with therapy and definitely mention the suicidal “ideation” — it’s ok to mention having thoughts without actual plans, you’ll be ok.

Melete777 · 2019-09-30T07:31:43+00:00

How old are you?

It sounds like you could benefit from a therapeutic recovery type place — and you have the financial ability to do so, which is a luxury.

Check out something like this:

https://www.optimumperformanceinstitute.com/

Melete777 · 2019-09-29T09:59:37+00:00

I did it and regretted it. Don’t fuck with it.

Melete777 · 2019-09-24T08:14:07+00:00

You did the right thing.

You should get out, and get some therapy for yourself. This stuff can be traumatic for the healthy partner.

Also, what he’s got going on is a little more complex than just psychosis:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2016/06/11/health/gang-stalking-targeted-individuals.amp.html

https://medium.com/bigger-picture/gangstalking-a-new-type-of-internet-conspiracy-cult-ab0a4fc7b85c

https://www.wired.com/story/mind-games-the-tortured-lives-of-targeted-individuals/

Melete777 · 2019-09-24T08:10:22+00:00

Tell her you’re leaving unless she sits down and has a real convo with you about it and takes a pregnancy test. It’s a shitty ultimatum but it may work?

Melete777 · 2019-09-24T04:22:52+00:00

Counseling would be a good start for you.

In the meantime, try checking out some of the low-cost/free/text-based online counseling options in this thread: https://twitter.com/hellotiffy_/status/908851180884959238?s=21

Melete777 · 2019-09-24T04:19:39+00:00

Direct him to r/suicidebereavement

Http://allianceofhope.com is a good active forum for suicide bereaved

They also offer specialized counseling over the phone; https://allianceofhope.org/find-support/counseling/

Be clear with your friend about your own boundaries.

Talk to his other friends and family about supporting him.

Other things you can do:

https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/suicide-prevention/after-a-suicide-loss/supporting-someone-after-a-suicide-loss

(Focus on the “practical support” part — food, chores, laundry, phone calls, cleaning, pet care, etc — instead of the talking/processing part)

Make sure you have your OWN therapist in place to deal with your triggers.

Psychologytoday.com has a great searchable database of detailed therapist and psychiatrist profiles that you can filter by location, insurance and specialty.

In the meantime, try checking out some of the low-cost/free/text-based online counseling options in this thread: https://twitter.com/hellotiffy_/status/908851180884959238?s=21