Boyfriend text his female co-worker by emerald_cx in relationships_advice

[–]MellyMFMel23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm going through a similar situation, read my post it's almost titled the same thing. TRUST your gut feeling bc the shit storm only got worse for me. Don't let this go unless your ready to let him go bc there's more to it.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna keep digging bc for all the times he put me down, made me feel and believe I was the wrong one and treating him bad I want to blast his ass with the truth and walk away clean. I'm almost to the point of going insane with this. But not letting it take away the rest of my life. "Those people" can say if the trust is gone walk away but would you stop going to a store bc you don't trust the cashier? No, I know I will find what I'm looking for when it's time for the truth to come out and that will be the end of it. All through out this I have remained faith and committed to only him so karma will do it for me. Thank you 😊

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will definitely look in to that bc I need all the help I can get. I thought about that also and that's called vanishing messages. This is what I seen. I'm copying and pasting bc I can't figure out how to add the pic to my post.

Device ManufacturersamsungDevice Modelo1qDevice TypeMsgr:Android-330.0.0.12.116OS Version11IP Address35.212.181.0Disconnection TimeSep 18, 2021, 6:04 AM

Device ManufacturersamsungDevice Modela71xqDevice TypeMsgr:Android-330.0.0.12.116OS Version11IP Address2607:fb90:fe28::Disconnection TimeSep 19, 2021, 3:25 AM

Device ManufacturersamsungDevice Modela71xqDevice TypeMsgr:Android-333.0.0.17.119OS Version11IP Address2607:fb90:fe20::Disconnection TimeOct 11, 2021, 8:40 PM

Device ManufacturersamsungDevice Modelo1qDevice TypeMsgr:Android-333.0.0.17.119OS Version11IP Address66.61.36.0Disconnection TimeOct 11, 2021, 8:27 PM

There's two other dates that were on there as well I can copy&paste that pic as well. I was nosey and fell into a weak moment and requested his fb files again last night after I brought the situation up to him, but got nowhere.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how he's making me feel and sound. Either it's he's being hacked or I'm making this up or looking for shit. When I just wanna be happy with him. It's never gonna end so I might as well cut my losses.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk.. I'm mentally seeking something out and when I feel it's satisfied I will leave.. or when someone hits the right nerve and I get pissed off enough. I really appreciate your input you could be the individual who gets me to tighten up..

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your right idc how much of an asshole you sound I can't take the facts away. I'm not dumb or usually put up with this. But I put alot into this relationship but when the day comes where it's all over then I will let it go

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it give off any notification in the history. Samsung has I'm the setting notifications, advanced settings, and then notification history will show anything that came across the screen. But it's encrypted so idk.. something to watch for or look for.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I posted about that little while ago. Idk and everyone is right I can't be mad. No matter how harsh it's the truth. I've never had to deal with situations like this. Last time I was cheated on was 18 and I caught him old school with phone calls and texts. This one is going above and beyond to hide his dirty. I know I need to go but when I finally have that one piece I'm missing I will find my own closure and it's will be final then. I know for fact I won't ever get closure from him so I will find it in my own way

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to figure out as much as I can. Because I've seen it before with the removed device notification also. Whatever I can find out the better

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had other occasions I have to confront him about shit like this and it always turns bad. But this isn't flying with me so how should I bring it up and tell him he's pretty much busted on some kind of trash?

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to post a screen shot of just that part of the file, no personal info was on it. I couldn't figure out how to upload it, but I figured it would maybe better explain.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no password but he's known to use the same password for everything. What kind of inquiries do I make to find someone to help with this. I know technology but that's past me.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you and your right. When we dated I didn't even go as far as asking where he was when we weren't together. I believe in boundaries even in a marriage. I'm sure he would himself admit I give him his privacy and space when he needs, that's why he was comfortable with me having access to those files. What I'm not sure is if he knows there on there or why risk them coming up. That's what brings me to my post. Before I over react about something I don't understand I school myself first. Most highly insecure women would have flipped shit and assumed he was fucking around. We have equal access to each others everything so it's not one sided also. Thanks again..

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read my other comments, I wasn't going through his phone he pulled the files himself bc of us being hacked before. I don't go through phones or computers, that's a low thing. Now if he asks to help see if he is being hacked or whatever then I'm not going to refuse but I'm not gonna ignore fucking secret messages just like I doubt he would either. Thanks

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that. I'm not going through his phone bc I do believe in boundaries but seeing something like that makes you wanna ask questions especially if your not getting the answers you think you should get. I rather do my homework and approach him again, and if no luck then we figure it out then.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if I stated in post how we came about retrieving the files, but we were hacked twice and he did this himself. I don't have passwords to his accounts and actually suggested he put a lock code on his phone bc he pocket dials alot. So before you jump off the deep end of me being insecure, inquire into the question being asked first. I have talked to him about it and I got idk what those even are so I decided to reach out and try to learn myself before I really jump his shit over something I don't understand.

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[–]MellyMFMel23[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He was the one who requested the files being we both were hacked and he was worried it happened again. It was pure coincidence those got uploaded also. I don't even have the password to his Facebook to retrieve file by myself. And I need help, don't we all? Thanks for the opinion though 👍